Blueprint Part 11. Day Two.
Left out – State issue. Focus on state too much can cause you not to go into it. 1. Don’t resist it. 2. Take right action. Your mind may try to block you from the nimbus, how do we shock our way out of that?
You are not your mind – it’s social conditioning, memory, labels etc, you can take over.
Force it – flying an aeroplane story. You know how to talk, you know how to be confident.
Math homework – procrastinate; after you have done a few problems you’ve accessed that part of your brain and you begin to flow. Access that part of your brain – force it. Trust yourself.
1st guy – approaches goes badly – procrastinates and feels bad
2nd guy – just keeps going, keeps getting blown out till he accesses that part of his brain.
Don’t sit and hope something is going to happen. Do it till your mind goes ‘ok, here’s the manual, god this guy is obnoxious!’
How do you go into the ocean? You Jump in!
Conflicting reality
People have their own sense of reality. I’m a hot girl, guys want me, guys chase me – when that breaks down – heroin dealer story.
Women have a simultaneously strong and weak reality. It may seem a woman is very centred but if you haven’t studied it you aren’t going to be centred – unconscious competence get a bit un-centred and don’t know how to react.
How does a girl show strong polarity (draw of attraction/magnet) vs a guy. When you have a strong polarity the girl will feel it standing next to you.
(Be naturally screening, get in touch with what your natural 10 is rather than trying to hook up with every girl.)
Congruence tests – So the girl can trust you if shit gets crazy.
A woman can’t freely express her feminine side if a guy can’t be masculine. 1. She wants to feel the strength of your reality. Prodding you to justify yourself, saying obnoxious things to make you jealous or insecure, being cranky or throwing tantrums to see if you’ll be dragged into it, calling you out on your worst features to see if you’re insecure about them, trying to get you to qualify yourself to her so she can have to selector role, accusing you of things.
Advanced supplication – acting indifferent to make her like you. But you have to do this at the start to learn how to do it.
She wants to feel you’re centred in your reality.
Are you dictating the energy or are you falling into it?
Man Action, Girl Reaction.
Stay positive, stay upbeat and act through your own intentions. Tap into something inside yourself for your mood.
Acting through your own intentions – not neediness, lack, programming. Something you come to over years, peeling back the layers of programming and social conditioning.
In state – take the drink attraction goes up. Another occasion you’re acting like a chode and you try and use that as a move or a trick.
Pua’s - they tried something and liked it and worked but it worked because they were acting through their own intentions.
Own everything you do.
Polarity “I’ve got to act through my own intentions, I can’t react” Negative affirmation, bizarre thought loop to get caught in. Have fun. Be authentic.
Chaos vs Grounding Energy
Girls Polarity :
• Being totally fulfilled and enraptured by the energy of the environment.
• Dressing and walking in a way that gets attention
• Enjoying whatever she’s doing and not scanning the room for people to meet
• Being in touch with your feminine side = being well rounded.
• Letting the energy of the environment flow through her and even dancing on the same spot for hours. Even playing mock bi sexual with her friends.
• Rarely being the one to call, ask out or re initiate the conversation. Her unconsciously learned behaviour is be the prize.
• Losing interest in sex if she comes out of a happy emotional state.
• Only being moved by the energy that she likes the most – better than the one she’s already experiencing. Where the social energy is the woman goes. Why looks have so little to do with this
• Rewarding good behaviour with little bits of attention.
When our brains think we’re getting value our brains will stick there. If she’s n the warm end of the pool she can stay there for hours – dance on same spot etc. If you’re shopping for groceries with tom cruise it’s the warm end of the pool. Hot party people stay, not they leave.
Guys think it plays like - So you wanna get out of here? And it’s on for sex immediately. No - When you get her out of the club she’s in the warm end of the pool – she just wants to stay in the party. She’s just responding to her emotions.
If you don’t keep her in a good state she will flutter off it gets you very reactive. The more you invest. Girl with a very strong reality – she’s totally fine without you. Totally happy with the environment etc.
Typical date – I have to take her to the restaurant, flowers etc keep her in a good emotional state.
How can a guy do this in return? Part 12.