Here are the key steps I took to becoming 'The Genius With Women'... A.K.A he greatest PUA
in London, if not the world (Simplified down to the very essence)...
1. Work on yourself psychologically using NLP (obviously, this is a huge subject, but for the purpose of this brief outline there is no need to go into it. Just find an NLP author you like - of which there are plenty - and do the psychological/mental work they tell you to do
2. Get out there and approach people and start talking to them - this is the number 1 most important thing you can do to become a top PUA
: Talk to House-Wives; People at work; Old ladies; Men in the street; Women in the street; Beautiful women in the street; the Post-man; College students; Groups of girls on a night out; Groups of guys on a night out; Mixed groups of people on a night out; and so on... You will be surprised to find that most people (90%) want to talk with you, and even relish conversation. You might say; "I don't want to talk to the Post-man, or old-ladies..."; but talking to all walks of life indiscriminately is how u become a social God. By Talking to everyone- regardless of who they are- you become an unstoppable social animal that most people respect and like (there will always be haters)... After all, what kind of man only wants to talk to 'beautiful women' and not 'older ladies'? I'll tell you what kind of man- some sort of ingenuine sexual screw-up that no one respects. Everyone respects a friendly fellow, who is not in it for selfish reasons and who is a friendly and valued part of the community...
Unfortunately/Fortunately, there is no way around it. If you want to develop God-like social skills and, thereby be good with women, you have to get out there and talk to everyone as much as possible. The more you engage in this, the more powerful and free you become. It took me about six years - if not more - of solid sarging to reach a level where my social skills are God-like (Without wanting to sound too arrogant). In fact, sarging has the wrong connotations for what I'm talking about. I'm talking about pure socialising- as mentioned above- with all walks of life. If you're unemployed, go out and do it in the day. If you're employed, do it on the way to work and then, gently, while you're at work- and then on the way home- maybe even go for a drink after work?... The point is; always socialise with everyone, as much as possible. The more you try and the more success, the more confident you get- I'm living proof of that (PM me if you want to come sarging in London anytime)... This is by far the most important aspect of Pick-Up Artistry there is. By getting out there, and socialising; over time, you become the person you were always meant to be. Every little conversation and exchange, no matter how small or insignificant it might appear, is a stepping stone to a more confident and charismatic 'You'. By taking this practice into your daily regime, you will naturally gain super-human social skills, that set you apart from the rest. It is this heightened level of social skills that enables you to get along with pretty much everyone- including attractive girls you might fancy...
3. Once you start talking to a woman that takes your fancy, it is time to flirt! Flirting is regular chit-chat, but with a masculine, sexual
intention... It is talking to the woman as a prospective lover, rather than a friend.
Since this is simply a rough guide, I will not detail exactly what gets communicated at this point, because there would be too much to detail for a simple, rough outline like this - just know, it is letting the woman know, in as skilful way as possible, that you are interested in her, in a man-woman context, rather than as a friend or associate.
The better and more skilful your flirting is, the more likely that the woman will be attracted to you and give you her number when you ask for it - and also, respond well when you contact her.
So, if you go out everyday and talk and flirt with everybody, you should be getting a few numbers, e-mail addresses, etc... It's all as simple as I have described... What you want, is high quality interactions that give high quality phone numbers, etc... Like I said, flirting is a whole other topic that you must look into and become proficient with: High-quality flirting=High-quality reliable contacts
4. Once you get the girls phone number, email-address, etc... You will call the girl, meet-up; and if you are lucky, eventually isolate her - probably to your bedroom or some other quiet place. If a girl allows herself to be isolated with you, it generally means that she is open to intercourse. I, however, am not interested in intercourse anymore... I want to find that one special lady to share my life with - but that is proving a little difficult for me, because I don't get along with most women over longer periods of time and also because I have very high selection criteria that excludes most women I meet. As with flirting, there are many skills and techniques to help you get the woman's contact details, then isolate her, then get her into bed; but again, that is beyond the scope of this basic guide.
I am a big proponent of 'Natural Game' whereby one picks up women by just being themselves, with little or no reliance on canned routines and techniques. Of course, this takes years of hard work, (both physically approaching people and also pushing through mental boundaries in a psychological sense) to internalise such a mindset, but do know it is possible, and that I am living proof, and that it's worth it. The most important aspect in all of this is learning to step out of your comfort zone by flirting and interacting with people - as I have detailed in point 2 of this brief outline. On top of approaching people and constant socialising, you can use NLP to help promote the kind of mindset that is conducive to socialising and meeting women.
So if we summarise the above brief outline and attempt to see it as a process, we get something like the following:
1. Use NLP to create right mind-set, beliefs, and confidence;
2. Go out into the world and talk and socialise with as many people as possible;
3. Flirt with some of the people you meet and attempt to get their contact details (flirting is all about making oneself attractive to the woman in a man-to-woman context. Involves both raising your own value via flirting, demonstrations of higher value, etc... and sometimes lowering the woman's value with neg-hits and such.);
4. Once you get someone's contact details, you can go on dates, and eventually isolate them and have intercourse - if you so desire - or just simply be intimate with her in some sort of way.