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Default 29-03-2011, 08:52 AM

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Default 29-03-2011, 09:03 AM

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I love this.

People weren't just constantly running away from predators back in the day. They used to do cave paintings and sit round fires in the dark, pretty meditatory stuff. I'm sure we've all had some mad floaty thoughts about the universe by a fire outside at night.


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You know I had never considered that, but what a charming thought, you're spot on there!

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"Civilise the mind, make savage the body"
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Default 29-03-2011, 09:33 AM

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Everything ends. Things ending does not mean they are without meaning or value. Otherwise terms like meaning and value wouldn't have a correct usage (me pragmatic). Things do not need to be eternal to have meaning or value.

If choice exists, choose to learn more about this.

It took me a long time to get that and it made me happier when I finally did.


In fact if there is one thing I would thank for my mental stability it is whatever got me into philosophy. If choice exists, choose philosophy and do it properly. Wittgenstein likened being stuck in a philosophical quandry with some kind of mental illness, like a fly trapped in a bottle with no top on it and the point of philosophy is to 'free the fly' (obviously paraphrasing his analogy here). I think I could have easily ended up messed up and that philosophy has done its part to protect me from that. But again, philosophy can be damaging if you don't do it properly or if you don't have the capacity to do it properly ... if choice exists.


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How does one go down the path of learning more about philosiphy (properly), without the expensive route of higher education? Its something I have looked at the surface of, and it just seemed so vast, I gave up immediately.
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Default 29-03-2011, 12:07 PM

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This is a funky consversation. Have you ever been right through this with anyone? It is just insane. It totally spins my head out. I guess I kind of think that if determinism was true more weirder things, behaviours that more closely resmeble computer malfunctions for example, would happen ... like Tourette's ('Why has there never been a single case of polite turrets? "NICE HAT!! ... oh sorry" "Oh, it's Ok, that was a nice thing to say"' Daniel Tosh). It is not a subject that I've seen anyone navigate through well.


Anyway ... the whole thing is heavy shit.

I think there is such a thing as choice. If we (poeple, not the forum membership) decide there isn't, it changes the rules of the game of life considerably.


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It doesn't really change anything because it will always FEEL like we have choice (free will), so we will just carry on the same anyway. The criminal may not be able to help the fact that he commits a crime, but at the same time, society cannot help but be disgusted and the police cannot help but arrest him.

When you read a book, or watch a film the last page or scene has already been written but we still carry on with it and it doesn't make it any less of an experience.
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Default 29-03-2011, 12:24 PM

There are two main types of determinism, one is to do with the physical universe and cause and effect the other is to do with the way we may be limited by our genes in making emotion based decisions. I have gone more into depth about that here:

http://www.puaforum.co.uk/reviews/31...html#post40397

If you click on this link, you may feel as though you had the choice to do so. But that choice would not have appeared had I not posted the link and I would not have posted the link had I not got up just now thinking about this stuff.

I would not have got up just now thinking about this had I not overslept due to strange dreams. I would have overslept and had strange dreams if I had not split up with my gf. I would not have split up with my gf if xy and b had not have happened and so on and so forth all the way back to the big bang and even quite possibly beyond it.

However it doesn't change a thing. If you click on the link and read the post it will feel like free will and who knows it may just help you... and then a whole lot of other cause and effect consequences will come out of that too. All that matters is that it is a good experience. Now I must meditate... this is the effect of a lot of causes.

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Default 29-03-2011, 12:38 PM

I have tried meditating when lying down before, and I fall asleep every time. But when I fall asleep, its not the same. Its kind of a deep deep sleep, but then when I wake up, I feel like I have literally ZERO energy at all. I do not feel refreshed at all.

I have meditated sitting up before, and this does make me feel more refreshed, but sometimes it makes me more tired. I've even wasted 20 mins meditating in the toilet at work before!

But meditation is not something I do regularly, and I'm not really sure why. I just forget, or don't feel motivated to do it. I guess I kind of have my own style of meditation, when I just sit in silence and relax.

But my mind is so "outcome dependant" that I feel I am looking for something when meditating, which kind of defeats the point. Its like I am searching for myself, but don't know what I am looking for.

I've also listened to one of those audio files that are supposed to induce a certain type of brainwave, but that really made me feel so dead and out of energy again. Also, one of Paul McKenna's cds did that to me as well, the thing about "I can make you rich". Why does my brain go so negative after these self improvement methods?

I guess when you think about it, cause and effect is all around us, but nobody ever takes notice of it. Maybe we can use cause and effect in our favour?
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Default 29-03-2011, 12:49 PM

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But depression cant just exist without reason can it,

my depression was due to my lack of social life/ bullying in the past
it still exists but i know once i have a social life it will go away

other possibilities could include, bereavement, broken relationships, financial worries etc but ive never heard of depression without reason

even tyler durden said that getting guys laid would cure a lot of that mental shit, i believe him because after all happiness does just boil down to spreading your genes, your friends, family, career is there to do so. I guess not by personal choice but by natural choice
I'm just generalising here, but your comments make me want to relate a little bit more of my own personal experience on this.

As someone who has suffered depression for most of his life, in my experience getting a social life will not make it go away. It will hold depression at bay but the fact of the matter is that depression is an internal mindset that cannot be changed or removed by external forces.

You have to make a conscious effort. You have to say "I'm not going to be depressed anymore". Easier said than done, I know, but in order to get that social life you need to be somebody others will want to hang around with in the first place.

Of course friends and family are there to help you help yourself, and certainly your career choices can have a major influence on the people you meet and how you feel. That's the main reason I left a secure, well paid job where I felt I didn't fit in to try and take a more proactive approach in what I did with my life, rather than just going with the flow. Progress is slow and sometimes quite painful, but when the alternative is staying as you are for the next 30 to 40 years, motivation to grind out a result is there.
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Default 29-03-2011, 12:56 PM

Using cause and effect in your favour is generally called making good decisions. Whether or not you had free will in making them is irelevant. All that matters is the journey and the outcome.

There is all this talk of being "non outcome dependant" which is getting to be a bit of an RSD cliche', and is exagerated to the point of not giving a fuck about the outcome, but of course we are interested in the outcome. Otherwise what would be the point?

Do the coachs of winning football teams tell their players to be "non outcome dependant"? Do they fuck! We all want a positive outcome. We want to win.

Read up on meditation to do it correctly; obviously you can't be too fixed on the outcome, as Rome was not built in a day, but at the same time you are doing it for a REASON.
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Default 29-03-2011, 01:11 PM

Yeah I know what you mean, I've been reading an NLP book, and it does mention about having outcomes that you want to achieve, and making it a positive thing rather than negative. Its called "outcome thinking", and it says the opposite is "problem thinking".

What about when you are trying to use cause and effect in your favour, wanting a positive outcome, and you think you have made a good decision, but then the result is bad? There have been times in my life when I have thought "i made a good decision, im helping others, and then shit happens to make life harder again". Maybe thats just my bad viewpoint, cos I should frame problems as an opportunity.
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Default 29-03-2011, 06:59 PM

I don't think we will ever figure out everything. I think it's like a dog chasing it's own tail, or like unpeeling layer after never ending layer from an infinite onion. There seem to be an endless stream of sub-atomic-particles; new ones are being found all the time.

We have even gone behind the big bang now, to the singularity, and are theorising about what there was behind that, the multiverse, m-brane theory etc... it will never end.

So, therefore we will never arrive at a point in which we can prove that there is or isn't free will... there are just too many variables. If you you place a drop of water on the back of your hand it will roll off and land in a predetermined place, due to the shape of your hand, bumps, contours, hairs, a slight breeze etc ad infinitum. There are so many variables that all the computers in the world could not figure it out, but it doesn't mean that it is not predetermined. Logic does seem to indicate that there is no free will... but I suppose I will just carry on as though there is.

People are afraid of this theory as they think that it will make us all irresponsible for our actions. They don't like the thought that the universe and us all included may just be like an extremely intricate flower opening in a predetermined way. It offends the ego to think that we don't have free will.

Personally, I don't think it makes a jot of difference. We don't storm out of movie theatres because the ending is predetermined. Just enjoy the show.

Oh yeah, we were talking about depression. How depressing; I have no choices! lol So I also have no choice in the matter when I keep forgetting that I have no choice and feel as though I do.

The key is the emotions. We will never feel like we are a computer program, because we have emotions. When something affects us on an emotional level, we cannot detach ourselves and say, "Oh, but she had no choice." We react, and we are so driven by our emotions and sensations that it does indeed feel like we made a choice.
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