Hi all-

I've been going out with my gf for about 6months now, really good most of the time. After a slight blip a month or so ago thinking I was falling behind in such that she seemed less attracted to me, we now seem to be fairly level again.

My question is how do I go about getting the real attraction back for her, obviously I had it at one point, so I'm asking you guys what you can recommend improving on...is it this 'inner game'?

For me, I'm hugely attracted to her, very pretty, amazing body, and love her personality...but it does get dampened when I don't seem to get much in return...like she's more concerned about looking at her phone when we're talking or not getting back those nice kisses...

I'm all ears

Do you have arguments often, if so how bad are they and who makes the effort to resolve them?

You said after a 'slight blip', again was this you or her? I'm curious that you say you're fairly level again but yet you post your question on here, so perhaps not?

Don't let this get to you, every relationship goes through low periods. Often it's a case of poor communication (extremely important) or one partner smothering the other in neediness.

Never really have arguments, if I do something that seems to annoy, she gives the silent treatment...I bring it up and say talk to me, and it's gets resolved.
That's happened 3 times maybe

Blip- no argument, just felt she was calling all the shots, I wasn't making enough time for myself- work, hobbies etc, maybe was smothering her a little....back on track
with that I think

my post- well level as seems to be going ok, just want to get that spark back

i dont believe you, i think you make it abundant she is more attractive, and she feels overly comfortable.

it just disappear for a week or 2, phone off... get ur head str8, then decide what YOU want to do. She has u by the balls and the only place this is goin is the gutter.



why are you chasing her, if she is being silent, she does so with the hope you will say


ur best off goin?? ye i dont watch the telly with the TV off.... then leave

whos assed if she is angry over somethin stupid??? i wouldnt be, let her have a face on, she sounds like a knob head

I guess I meant things are going ok with fairly level, rather than more or less attractive

Phil can't quite make sense of your last paragraph
She got annoyed- we were making cheesecake, she got some margarine spread out, and I said we should use butter, isn't there any? She thought I was being judgemental
I thinks it's more the fact she goes silent rather than saying what I've done or punching more or anything lol

Oh think I've got it- so next time just walk away, then wait for
her to
contact me?

Personally I wouldn't tolerate it if my gf was getting out her phone while I was talking. I'd take it off her and fuck the shit out of her. But if that's not how you've acted before, it might class as rape, so err...be careful on that one.

You need to be more of stone cold ice motherfucker about things. Also, have arguments (if she pisses you off). Couples that argue have better sex than those who don't, fact.

And, create scarcity. It'll make you more valuable.

Bloody hell. I thought everyone knows to use butter...

Sounds to me like you are putting her on a pedestal and she’s slowing starting to buy into her own hype. You are telling her (through your actions) that you need her more than she needs you. This won’t end well.

Wtf??? How many gfs have you had? EVERY girl I've ever know gets her phone out while we've been talking, so much so that I've come to the conclusion that women don't even understand that doing this might be considered rude at all. I don't think I can even muster enough erections to follow your advice if i even wanted to.