Get the fuck away from your ex for starters. That is just unhealthy for the soul.
You are cut up about it because you probably wanted it to go further...
She obviously wasn't getting the correct vibes from you, considering you lived with your ex.
You sound bitter towards her. Best she walk away early if she has different expectations..

LOL - Agreed

What is hard to understand??

Woman has a lesbian encounter.. she was probably drunk, got a huge ego rush from it, or just actually liked women for a bit.. it is not a threat to your manlyness or anything.

You have to think about what REALLY matters. And as Kowalski has mentioned on this forum which has massively helped me, you CAN stop thinking about shit.

Example,
Girl has done anal and you havent. This makes you extra uncomfortable. What you guna do? Keep running through situations, scenarios, in your head and wondering if you will be good, will she like it as much, are you good enough, you feel less manly, why do you feel less manly blah blah yeah yeah its all negative shit.

Or. EVERY TIME IT ENTERS YOUR HEAD. You tell yourself to stop being a little bitch, man up, think about something better, something positive, something you wana think about.
The girl is with you for a reason.
The girl currently enjoys sex with you.
She has another hole for you to shove it in when you feel like it.
She's had it stuffed before, but guess what, the pussy has also been filled before.

It is irrelevant shit, it doesn't MATTER, and you CAN make yourself feel better.

Went off on a tangent there but I think it applies to a lot of issues here

Nope, am not bitter at all...just cut up (there's a slight difference). If someone thinks it isn't going to work that's fine...at least they had the guts to call it. I just think I wanted to know WHY considering it all seemed to come out of the blue (though if I think back I had an idea something was up, I just figured I could repair the damage).

It went on for a few months while I was still living with my ex and couldn't give the new girl the attention she wanted. I think she just got annoyed and just at the point my ex moved out and I wanted to start seeing the new girl more, she flaked. Shit happens I guess...shouldn't have been doing it in the first place.

I find understanding what you want is the first step, then it's a case of going and getting it.

I think most of us came on here expecting to learn the magic code to get into all girls pants. when what we really want in reality is something different which for me was realizing my personal value/worth and not accepting things below that.

You don't need to get spit roasted by two big black dudes in order to understand why a girl you are seeing might have wanted to at somepoint surely...??

I don't recall who said it, but it was someone on this forum:

Something like:

When a girl is emotionally attached to you, she thinks your dick is 12 inches long and you are a sexual demon. It doesn't matter what you think in your head. You give her average sex, it will blow her mind because she is blinded by the love.
As are men with lust.

are u implying men dont get blinded with love?

u can just ask reflex

No not at all, we are the same

Someone worded it way better than me on this forum.. I can't remember though.. Need to start writing things down

I think the reality is that you either go
- from honeymoon straight into emotional relationship or
- you are in the honeymoon phase and then it ends either because you didn't give them what they want or they are not what you want...or you did something to cause them to lose feelings and because they aren't totally emotionally invested, they then lose attraction.
- I suppose the other is that you get a fuck buddy like many on here seem to, which isn't really a honeymoon phase at all.

I don't think you have to have/stop the honeymoon phase at all...

I you are honest with eachother about what you both need, want, value & expect then I think you both can choose whether it's worth it or whether you can fulfill eachother's needs. To do that though you need to be honest with yourself about what you really want, not just blowjobs on tap (unless that's your main requisite in a reltionship)