Its been a good while since i posted anything of note,as ive been really busy.Its been about 3 months since i joined the forum and as this weekend i feel ive turned a major corner i thought an update was in order
Where to start well saturday night i had the most beautiful girl ive ever had the company off cuddled up with me asleep on my couch!! The kind that if i was watching a porno, with her in id happily be wacking one off!!
If anyone had told be something like this could have happened 3 months ago i would have said you were fucking lying
How!!
Lots of little things coming together,but through perseverance and stubborness i feel like im starting to get somewhere finally
The main differences from coming on here to now.
I sat down with tons of pads of paper and wrote a bucket list,a goals list and how i plan to achieve those goals,strengths list (everyone has a strength that will help you get women find it and use it!!) and i wrote a standards list.This last one was a particular departure as i would just try to get anything,since doing the list ive knocked girls back for sex even had one in my bed, thought about it and got rid!!
Get stuff going on in your life!! Do stuff! turn the fucking tv off haha
Total honesty,i told that girl on saturday night stuff about myself i rarely tell anyone even grim shit but in a this is the way it was and this is how i am now kinda way.
No jacking off a few days before going out major help for pushing me out there.
Being a man and thinking i am a man and i should act like a man!! ie saturday I want to go for food I want to go to my friends I want to go back to mine and watch dvds!! rather than what do you want to do
Dumped the canned lines!! Tried em early on, they suck i cant remeber em, so got rid im stupider and funnier
oh and KINO wow wow wow this shit is the bomb kicking myself i didnt realize this is one of the main ingredients i was missing out of my game.
So yeh progress i bagged the girl of my dreams,the turning point?!
The lay was 110% on!! But i didnt?? I knew id already won.I didnt feel i had to validate myself by sleeping with this girl.If she went home and i never saw her again i am a winner,i can do this i can get those girls ive spent so many years dreaming off,its a reality!! its a victory finally after all that frustration haha for me this is something to hold onto to help me move forward when it gets real tough.
Those guys out there still struggling away who havent got any results yet keep at it dont give up,i know sometimes ive wanted to throw in the towel and go back to my ex i dont love,but i never do shit the easy way never have never will.So stick with it,if i can have this kind of result so can you!!!
Funnily enough tho she txt me earlier wanna meet 2mora,me to her are you paying for dinner?! she yeh ok

glad to hear it lovefish. I think you're about a month or so ahead of me as far as putting effort down... I'm beginning to see the light myself, but haven't reached it yet. Always glad to see a fellow pua breaking out of another layer of self-doubt and into a greater realization... gives me plenty of hope and drive

I've been taking notes left and right, but I haven't written a serious bucketlist like you've suggested. I think I'm gonna follow up tonight's work by beginning one.

well done la, its all about being a man! thats it

do the shit wen u want to do it

You know dis.

Thanks man i really appreciate it
Honestly just get as much shit out of your brain and put it on pen and paper in black and white
My kitchen walls have notes all over ie this weeks workout routine,what im supposed to be eating and when,affirmations etc
The bucket list is actually great as i can plan what i want to achieve and when,even break it down into smaller sections ie one is to be a great at mma so one is
1. find a teacher
2. go 4 hrs a week
3. train at home etc

you get the idea,then all you have to do is follow the steps to get the result

I do im having one last splurge on my loverly 42 inch this christmas then im selling it and all the kit straight after,to pay debt and because ive wasted so much precious time looking at a tv when i could have been doing something constructive

Fuck tv. I only watch films and comedies I want to see, and the news channels at my folks when I'm sat with my dad discussing politics.

Agreed
I used to spend hours sitting watching any old crap whilst eating kebabs feeling sorry for myself.Ive cut it down to mainly just a couple of hours on the xbox,i dont really watch any tv at all anymore

get rid of ur xbox

get rid of ur tv Ariel

just stream what u need via ur pc

then start activly doin the shit u want, coz once u sit down to watch telly for a bit

its at least 30 mins b4 u will stand up again

Damn it. I have a mate who spends his whole life in front of those 360s... he literally never goes out socialising bar colleagues from work. Needless to say he hasn't had a girlfriend for about 8 years.