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chops147 · 30-06-2011, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by RLAJay

If you do not participate in anything that is really dickish then there's no reason not to always be honest. The general white lies people tell are ridiculously unnecessary and not telling them is more beneficial because of the massive trust you build.

I agree to a some extent but if someone point a gun to my face saying he's killing all atheists I'd tell him I'm a Christian. It's an extreme situation but still you get it.

I think if you can just say I'm not discussing it. withholding information is perfectly fine.

also being honest and always telling the truth are not the same thing.

SmileyK · 30-06-2011, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by al_phaD

Heres my situation:

I was at Skegness with another girl katrina. Jess asked what I'm doing, so I told her who I was with. She was asking me stuff if "me and katrina are seeing each other" and stuff like that, to which I replied, no, we're just friends and fancied a drive to Skeg. Which is true.

Since telling her I was with another girl, Jess has backed off and backed off. Her texts are shorter, she's not flirty, and when she tells me her free days, she always comes up with an excuse not to see me. Todays was "I'm going to the gym".

Now, I don't care about not seeing her, I'll just meet someone else. But I just don't understand WHY she has backed off just cos I was with another girl. Why is she no longer interested, Why is she not responding to flirting, why is she making excuses not to see me? I want to know if I've done something wrong so I don't push other girls away too.

I have to rate you for being so upfront.

She may have gone off you, but at least you didn't bullshit her and was 100% honest.

I'd just press the 'Next' button if I was you, give it time and I have a funny feeling she may be back

chops147 · 30-06-2011, 06:27 PM

just thought this whole thing could just be paranoia. She might be genuinely busy.

30-06-2011, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by chops147

just thought this whole thing could just be paranoia. She might be genuinely busy.

It did occur to me she may be genuinely busy.. But I asked her when she's free to meet up.. She gives me a day, I text her on the day and say still up for tonight? She gives me an excuse.. This has happened like 3 or 4 times in the last few weeks

"No cos I'm going to the gym".

I went to the gym tonight, yet I'm still free after.

Meh, I just didn't reply and I won't text her unless she chases me, I was just wondering if she is a wierdo, or if I did something wrong...

This thread has made me realise that I just reel off my life story to any girl thats listening, totally eradicating the mystery about me..

RLAJay · 30-06-2011, 09:36 PM

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Originally Posted by chops147

I agree to a some extent but if someone point a gun to my face saying he's killing all atheists I'd tell him I'm a Christian. It's an extreme situation but still you get it.

I think if you can just say I'm not discussing it. withholding information is perfectly fine.

also being honest and always telling the truth are not the same thing.

Indeed, as K beat me to. When taken to extremes the system breaks, under normal conditions though I've failed to find situations where it is not in fact the logically better things to do unless it was caused by the person making the decision themselves. In which case, their bed, lie in it, digging a deeper hole etc etc.

chops147 · 30-06-2011, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by RLAJay

Indeed, as K beat me to. When taken to extremes the system breaks, under normal conditions though I've failed to find situations where it is not in fact the logically better things to do unless it was caused by the person making the decision themselves. In which case, their bed, lie in it, digging a deeper hole etc etc.

yea wich is what I said avoid lying if possible. This is why the monetary sytem sucks cos it doesn't encourage hard work it encourages lying, cheating, armed robery e.t.c e.t.c.

maestro · 30-06-2011, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by chops147

I agree to a some extent but if someone point a gun to my face saying he's killing all atheists I'd tell him I'm a Christian.

To which he kills you for being a liar. ;-p

chops147 · 30-06-2011, 11:08 PM

let's all stop trying to be perfect that's what's wrong with society everyone wants a perfect car perfect house perfect wife perfect morals. It's all bullshit sold to you by salesmen trying to make a profit. morals are an illusion that stop people from actually helping people.

chops147 · 30-06-2011, 11:11 PM

trying to judge a persons morals is like saying the mud is dirty.

01-07-2011, 06:12 AM

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Originally Posted by SmileyK

I have to rate you for being so upfront.

She may have gone off you, but at least you didn't bullshit her and was 100% honest.

I'd just press the 'Next' button if I was you, give it time and I have a funny feeling she may be back

I didn't think anything of it at the time.. I was out with a female friend, Jess asked what I was doing, so I told her..

I need to stop the full disclosure, it works against me!