The following is all above board, as my needy gf split up with me the DAY BEFORE I flew out to Asia...

I went onto forum for advice over a bird I've been shagging on my Asia tour. She's the hottest bird in the tour group. But today she wants to cool it as she had no plan to speak to any "blokes" on her holiday far less get with one, as she has done (me!), she split with a boyfriend a few months ago, and she envisaged the holiday as lots of her time, adventure sports, etc, not couples, doesn't like any couple idea, or men in general in light of recent ex. So I've said its just hanging out, enjoying it, fun, no pressure, its no big serious thing, but she wants to cool it.... I have not come across as needy, I have been chilled, "well we had some good times together", "its good to have chatted about this, its fine, just wanted to know what the deal is", is what I said... but actually I fancy her and don't wanna give up on a good thing!

any advice???????

Just, do as she does, chill... its holiday romance there is more girls..

u cant convince her otherwise... the only way people become interested is if your less interested in them

Not always, in general though.

Yeah... not much I can do to change it. But its still happy/friendly between us, she's been laughing regularly at my cocky funny masculine jokes and occasionally holding eye contact with me... this is annoying! I'm in a Asian, religious, well behaved (!) area where not really other suitable birds about that I can pull and would want to pull, in order to take my mind off her beauty and positive energy.

PS She gave me her hotel room key, to get something from her room for her, as I was also getting something from my room... so I had idea to put a single bright flower, that I covertly picked from the garden, onto her pillow. Then locked her room.

Say what u like, but I thought it was romantic and cool. Something so simple yet fun. Will find out tomorrow if she found it fun.

That's one of the conclusions I've come to so far in life.

that's the most obvious thing in the world. how long did it take?

Yes indeed, you'll be glad to know.

At least you got it.

I tried that at tonight's group dinner. We sat beside each other as usual and I busted her on two things (intentionally ultra sexist ok sarcastic way) leading up the aim of busting her on what k said above. I made it clear that it was a ridiculous idea. She said that she doesn't want to be tied down, no she doesnt think all blokes are evil, its not like that, she wants to just have her holiday.

Over group dinner yesterday, I froze her out several times for five to fifteen mins at a time, by talking to others inc ransom pub guy who wanted to chat. i also called her a few put down negative jokey names.

At group dinner yesterday, we've done small amount of covert kino, held eye contact and laughed loads together. I dropped in a non-judgmental frame around enjoying yourself on holiday, new experiences,.... new people,... its wonderful on holiday to seize the chance to try new things. But she refuses to dance with me (on an empty dancefloor where noone ever danced that night) in front of the tour group. I said just dancing, doesn't mean anything except two ppl having a good time together. She was loving the song, taping feet, wouldnt dance.

Closing: her off to her room, as we are in massive group back from restaurant returning to hotel, and no subtlety would be poss if she was to go to my room in diff part of hotel rather than hers - or vice versa - as group hangs around seeing it all. I don't give a shit, but she does.. about the tour group. Secondly she is not wanting to fuck me anyway anymore it seems else she'd make it easier for me. But I can't use my direct sexual talk as by surrounding herself with tour group at closing time, I can't isolate and escalate anymore. Fuck it. But annoying nonetheless.

Stop being gay

Chat to other girls, stop sitting next to her and just enjoy yourself. the more you 'try' and 'get' her the more she will go the other way.

Once she sees what she has lost she might build some bridges again-- but what will you care you will be having fun with somone else.

sit with sumone else

stop actin so botherd

i dont care what mystery says, he is a bell.. puttin a girl down coz she dont wnna know is childish



u missed micro-calibrate, this is just fancy ways of chasin her mate




this is u tryin to mark ur tettitory!!! she seen it clear cut



look mate i know its hard, distance urself from her.... go fuck sumthin else, let her so what she wants, dont let it ruin ur holiday u pleboid!!!.... in 6 months ur gonna laf at urself for bein such a cunt about it!!

and then when she does come back to u coz ur not interested anymore... tell her to go fuck herself!