People are all individuals. Stop looking at them as if they're groups. People do not instantly hate all people outside of the circles they travel in. Just because you're not part of the group they've been in for a year or two doesn't mean they're not going to enjoy your company.

MAN UP. Doing nothing will give you no results. Doing something will at least give you the possibility of a result. If it doesn't work out then dust yourself off and try again with other people. Does something failing do you any actual harm? No. You fear something that does you no harm. The danger is in your head. Push yourself past this and life will be SO much better.

Phil: I disagree. That's not true at all, I'm nice to them all. I'm probably reading what you said there too literally though and what you really mean is the false "nice guy" which would be more aptly described as a "weak guy". One can both be nice and attract women.

Warhol,

There comes a point where it is liberating to accept that you are wrong about certain things. It's not the content of what might happen you're being driven by, it's the fear you might feel. Your perception driving the concerns you mention, your emotions driving the behaviour you mention. Just because they are generated within you doesn’t make them automatically credible. You need to step back and see this, it’s very liberating to know that whilst your issues may churn and grind away within you, they’re not productive. Seeing this gives you the power to start to stand up to your issues, bit by bit.

Imagine you live in a bubble. Everything within the bubble is your life as it is now, everything outside the bubble are the things that concern you. What you do is break the fear down into little bits that are not so dramatic to tackle, and slowly train your nervous system not to be afraid of them. So you do “newbie missions” like Chillem suggested. Just walk down the street with good body language, next time add a smile, next time add eye contact…etc. This is like leaning on the inside of the bubble just a little bit, the bubble grows and contains more each time. This is how you break down the fear into manageable chunks and retrain your nervous system.

As a side note, if you saw someone else punishing themselves like this and making everything hinge on a simple action that takes seconds, what would you say to them? You’d say stop punishing yourself and get into perspective! So do that!

PS

Welcome back Adam..

I'm with phil on this. grow a pair. we've offered all the advice you need. in the words of Ronnie Coleman "only thing is to do it"

thought it was 'WHAT you talkin'bout WilliSs??'

I was referring to the body builder. He also says YEAH BUDDY!!