STOP using FarceBook in this way -- see what good has come of it? None

(I have assumed FarceBook usage)

STOP being an asshole -- see what longer-term good has come of it? None

(I assume you meant fucking rather than just "dating" in purest chaste sense.)


If you had been upfront to all female parties, then you could have increased the odds on being able to individually fuck multiple women at same time without any of them labelling you with this asshole tag:

• clear communications on what you are looking for
• that you want to keep things casual
• that you will be looking to also see other women
• ask, how does she feel about that?
• a clear and unambiguous chat which is honest enough to result in chance that you might not see her anymore [because she is, like, so totally NOT "OK" with it])
• don't upload any such photos onto the Internet (FarceBook / Flicr / etc is just recipe for disaster in your situation)
• even with above, a women can pretend to agree with your agenda and pretend to be liberal when really she is not. She has feelings too, funnily enough, which she may mask.
• it is bad judgement to have been simultaneously individually fucking three women who all KNOW each other, as... unless it is a very liberal group, then... they all KNOW each other and you can't directly control what people say, only influence via you prior actions (see all of post above)!
• in summary, you're fucked. But change your ways and it might not happen next time.

REBUS, thank you for your advice i am sure it is all true but what you just taught me is how to fuck a number of women without being considered as an asshole, but what i need to know is how to get that specific one girl back with the fucking bad circumstances that i have already, i need to do it quickly because there are other guys seeing her everyday ... damn it

She's seeing other guys as well, and you consider this a problem? When you've made it perfectly clear to her that you're also a player?

Look from the first post the sense I got was that she fuckin loves it that you're a player. She's kissing you and saying 'I don't know why I'm doing this... Oh this is so bad... This is so wrong...'

Here's something for you: Girls love bad, they love wrong. If she really thought it was bad and wrong for her to kiss you, you know what she'd do? She'd stop kissing you.

But she didn't.

So look, here's the thing. She's got you down as a player, someone who's an asshole to women. That doesn't seem to have stopped her. The boundaries you've set are 'Its cool to fuck around with a load of people'. So don't be surprised if she does this as well.

You're not gonna change her perception of you now. She thinks you're an ass, that's that. But is that necessarily a bad thing? It strikes me that your best chance of prolonging your relationship with this one is to accept that perception in this case, and act accordingly. You're not going to convince her you're an angel. Get over it, and let her know you wanna wallop her and get on with doing it.

I hope that's clear enough. And for what its worth - I agree completely with Rebus that the way to stop having to lie in certain beds is to stop making them in the first place. Use your noggin a bit!

Thanks for advices guys ... the pressure between us is solved now ...
she now thinks that i will not be cheating on her and that i like her as long relationship material..

I listened to her words the last time we were together and i realized how she perceives me, she perceived me as the guy that just wants to have his job done, it means that i wanted to fuck her and say goodbye, next level ...

The next day she found a picture of me taken in october where i was doing the nasty stuff ... she was really mad ... who wouldnt be ? But, it was not serious between us when that pic was taken so it was not so bad ... but that picture is ... just let it be ...

What i did then ..., i did what i considered the best thing to do, i told her SORRY diana, i know that i must be the biggest asshole in your eyes now, i feel bad that that i hurt you cuz i honestly like you, i thing the best thing to now is just forget about eachother ... once more sorry, bye ...
The next day she wrote on facebook that she is not mad at me anymore, that she is mad at herself because she knew i was like that, we talked a little bit ..
I told her then, ok listen dianka, i still like you, forget about that bitch, it doesnt have to finish between us like this, i promise ... she was ok with that but she still had some MAD statements but now shes OK .. she know knows that I dont play with her.

This drama taught me one thing, once u r the guy that that doesnt take things with women too serious u will be seeing 2 types of girls.

first type is that the girl will start chasing you like a hunter, ull know from the first moment that she likes you ... these girls are boring.

the second type is .. hmm .. some girls, especially those who have really many options with men, those who know how social dynamics work ... they will start acting even harder to get, maybe even arrogant, they want theirselves to be perceived as the targets,

Diana, she was the girl that is the second type, she was always trying to act cool when we were together, in this moment, at some point, it is good to tell the girl ''stop acting arrogant because i know u want me and i want u too'

maybe some of the things i told her might be what u guys call 'nice guys' things.. but believe, there was nothing else u could tell a girl if she finds a pic of u fucking another girl ... this is simply different ...

Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen!

Pleased this one worked out for you Bouncer. Don't go soft on her now though mate, seems like she responds to a bit of push pull. So don't pull too hard, let her do the work.

and theres nothing wrong with 'nice-guy' things sometimes.

women are strange creatures, its about learning to say certain stuff to them, not using one technique and sticking to it.

Everyone learns this the hard way and anybody who says they haven't are liers and up their own arse.

Expecting a reply from kowalski right now.