Actually I'm not sure it matters that much.

When I'm horny, there are no thoughts other than that I want to fuck. A plane could crash into the building and I wouldn't notice!

That's what you need. Your worries about performance and inexperience have a stranglehold on your perception. You've seen the benefits of changing your behaviour already, all you need now is something to finally tip the scales so that lust takes over.

I think that something for you, is lust. Work on what you want, feeling attracted to the girls, and it will start to drown out the white noise in your head. By which point it'll be on like donkey kong and you can choose to tell her or not and she won't care either way. It may not even occur to you!

You can support this by doing other little things. Watch porn but don't wank. Drink a little to lower inhibition. Lift weights a bit but don't do cardio.

Just wanted to update my post. I'm no longer a virgin and am doing really well with women. Done it by being direct honest and congruent. Still a way to go but keep going out day gaming and stretching my comfort zone. Thanks for the support.

There was a time where I had problems getting hard in the bedroom area, just have a bunch of foreplay, work up to it slowly, and if it's not going in, just say "I've had a lot going on in my life right now and you're a bit stressed", so that's why.

Also see how receptive she is to sucking you off, play with her pussy put her hand on your dick, make out with her and see where it goes whilst you're both horny. If she gives you a BJ you can either try and go in, or just let her finish and this might help you relax next time you try. Sometimes it's awkward having sex with a new person even if you're both not virgins, you have problems getting it in etc.

Up to you if you want to tell her, you can always mention it after if you want. That way there'll be less pressure on you.

Don't ever think like that and bravo for you for taking action to improve like that. It's never too late.

You never know, some girls actually dig that kind of innocence and that makes them feel special.

If anything I have learned from Pick Up is actually to be open about vunerabilities and be okay with them. As essentially the act of approaching a random strange girl leaves one vunerable. And usually I find the sincerity of the approach (Without being needy) is usually what makes it work effectively (At least in daygame scenario - nightgame scenario their other obstacles working against you like AMOGs, loud music and alchohol. But daygame it's all you).

Keep at it, be positive and don't compare yourself to others. Celebrate your progress and how far you've come so far.

And don't worry about not knowing what to do anyways. Most girls don't really know what their doing anyways and just usually starfish and lie there. And if you've watched porn, you know what you're doing