I approached a girl sitting on a park bench reading. We were chatting about books and quite a normal conversation. With hindsight I realised I could have dropped in something like "I thought you'd be reading a romance novel" (said with a smirk) just to bring an emotional spike into the conversation and show intent.

You could also say why you came over at some point or what you wanna do after with her

Or... you could have 'made a move', there and then.

[quote=kowalski;89410]What is your intent and how would this show it?

Romance = sex. It's subtle but it fits in the context of the conversation you're having.

Or you could just say, "you're cute" which is easier.

[quote=Serendipity;89415]Yeah, have to agree with Kowalski. Romance doesn't = sex.

The comment you made just comes across as a normal comment to me, doesn't really insinuate your interested in having sex with her at all.

[quote=BroadswordWSJ;89417]There's the non-verbal communication going on. If you touched her thigh as you said it that would make a difference...and maybe lick your lips as well.

[quote=Serendipity;89420]Did you do this?

I was joking about the lip licking. Lick her lips maybe...though only with her consent.

I didn't actually say the line to her about the romance novel. It does sound like it's just being friendly and is too convoluted.

With that one I didn't start off with a direct compliment like I did with the others. But I could have dropped one in at almost any point and it would still have had the effect.

I've never been one to agree that you have to show your intent straight away, however I do agree that you have to show intent soon after meeting.
I do both but I've never really seen a vast difference in results.
After stating intent as an opening, many guys who havn't been doing this for long, dry up because as far as they're concerned they've shown intent, sucessfully approached her and no matter the outcome, they have got across all of what they wanted to say in the first couple of seconds. Then they stumble, the girl realises that they haven't got a shread of authenticity in what they've just said, they start to plough but fail and the conversations dies almost as quickly as it started.

Clarity - There is no point in doing a direct approach just in order to be efficient if you cannot carry the conversation on.
Most girls know when you're hitting on them.

Serendipity - There is no need for this. Funny though coz I have a habbit of lightly licking my lips when people talk to me, only realised a few weeks ago after a few female friends told me during a game listing 5 of the sexiest things that person does during everyday life.
But really, sublties are fine but without verbal intent it comes off as weird and sly under-the-radar.
Communicate-physical ... state intent-physical

Don't dress a line up to try make it sexual when the line is as ordinary as they come.

If the convo's going well, taking their hand at some point speaks volumes. For guys like me struggling with sexualising conversations it's probably a good move.