OK first off, the title is just a joke, i appreciate everyone has their own tastes, and if you like a bigger girl, thats cool with me, each their own!

However, this rant is more based on the fact that i was effectively lied-to by a girl about how she looked, and when you see the evidence, im confident you will agree....

for the initial backstory, please refer to my last post, 'Need Assistance'

basically i was on PoF and came across a girl, number closed and got chatting and arranged a date. Here are soem photos i was equipped with to make that decision!

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So from these, i would say 'vey hot' if you pay particular notice ot the face-shape, very well defined, and no signals of morbid obesity....


what follows are actual images from her facebook, which i obtained after having already agreed to go on the date.....

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Shocked??? Not as much as i was, beleive me! And i thought i was good at deciphering dating-site pictures....




anyways, what can we learn from this!? may thigns, but let me start by saying 'always get a full body-shot photo of a girl before you agree ot meet her' - this would have saved me a lot of trouble...


on her profile, she referenced herself as 'a few extra pounds' which is unfair, there was a 'bbw/large' option available, which she opted not to take, this i beleive is deceptive as 'a few extra pounds' is what I WOULD put for MYSELF, and im 6'3" and 13stone. Slim, but with a little bit of softness orund the edges....


would u describe her as 'a few etxra pounds' ?


anyways so how did i get rid of her...


after seeking advice on this forum, hre is a text-by-text account of how it went down...

[these are raw unedited, and any feedback on her actions OR MINE would be appreciated]

Pic: 'Hi, i checked our ur facebk but i think ur profile on plentyoffish is a bit misleading, i feel a bit tricked so i change my mind about going out, im sorry for being direct but i think its bets for both of us, hope u find who ur looking for x'

FB: 'in what way was it misleading?' I am fine with that but just wondered?'

Pic: 'Ur a very pretty girl, but ur a lot bigger than how u appear on PoF, theres nothign wrong with that but its just not my thing, im sorry for being harsh, but maybe u'll be more successful after knowing this? :/ x'

FB: 'Fair enough your entitled to your opinion. With regards to success though i have never met anyone from online who didnt want to see me again, so maybe your opinion isnt the general concesnsus.bye'

--- could of ended it here, but i keep stirring, i want to test how someone reacts to receivign harhs information, i also begin to reason with her, elave her with some HV ---

Pic: 'Perhaps not, either way, sorry if i got ur hopes up'

FB: 'Hopes up!! Do you not think youre alittle bit patronising? Like i said you are entitled to your own opinion but you should let your head reduce in size slightly as youre not that great. like i said, goodbye'

Pic: 'i know hun, ive been rejected before for being bald you know but if they arent into that, then who am i ot change it? But i dont let it get me down, il eventually find someone who likes me for that, as you will yours x'

--- at this point, im really drawing this out, which im glad i did as i think she reveals more of her true character as it goes on ---

FB: 'But this is my point, i am not down, i am more tha happy with me and my life, and when u takl about me 'eventually' finding someone it is a slight jokea s you dont know me or my love life. i ended my last 3 relationships, and i can assure u I have no problem finding people to 'accept me'

--- i was thinking 'why are you on a datng site then love?' lol ---

Pic: 'ok if im presumptuous, sorry, im just giving u some advice form a mans perspective, i owe you that much'

FB: 'You owe me nothin, so get off your soap box and stop preachign to me, it is ridiculous for you to think your opinions matter to me, i chatted to you for half an hour, it had no impact on my life, so this is quite pointless'

Pic: 'then im just glad ive not hurt your feelings'

--- retaining value ---

FB: 'Arrogance is not attractive'

Pic: 'that should be easier for you then, i was trying to be nice about this, but clearly im wasting my time lol'

the next 2 messages either way didnt really caryr any value, just ended the conversation...


that was the raw unedited meat of the conversation!

if you guys think i handled it well, let me know?

or.. if you think i was being unreasonable at any stage, again let me know, its all valuable feedback, and im by no means perfect so i can still learn more form this!

Please remeebr with the textign, i did also try and provoke her into a reaction, mainly for the beenfit of the knowledge, i had already lost her (thankfully) but wanted to extract as much feedback from her as possible, so it can be used to judge reactions for future conquests etc....

Thanks in Advance!

Picard!

i agree, i did push it...

what do you think about the picture-honesty???

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You handled it well mate. She seems happy to falsify people's first impression and thinks you're arrogant for suggesting this. If anything I would have literally told her off for not putting a photo of her body as things like this are pretty f*cking important to us guys.

yeh, i mean, she did effectively lie by having deceptive pictures...

it strenghtens my view of online gaming, being more trouble than its worth lol

i seriously still find it fascinating how she is massive, yet theres not an ounce of fat on her face LOL

oh my god she looked lovely on the first pics and then i scrolled down and thought wow, how could someone look like that on one pic and so different on another, Well like i said online is a dangerous place to be, thats why i dont do it maybe this has taught you a lesson pic?

a hard lesson worth learning, thats for sure!

That is some funny shit right there. I shouldn't laugh really. Yeah first pic she looked pretty hot. I can understand why you'd feel mislead. Gotta say though those tits are fucking huuuge and I'm a 'boob man' although im not into big girls myself it's not often you're gonna get your hands on tits that big, so for me the dilema would be 'one go shouldn't hurt'....would it?

I think after you said your piece though mate you should have just left it at that and regardless of her response should not have responded back. It came across abit like 'bear baiting' to me. Regardless of your intentions of giving her value back and retaining your own, I didn't see any of that. I think she is right to suggest you were being arrogant, that's how i'd have interpreted it myself. Kowalski is right, people are not toys or pieces of equipment in a 'social experiment' they are real people and I wouldnt be suprised if this girl feels quite hurt by this.

It can be an honourable thing to stand up for what you believe in and confront second rate behaviour but it's an entirely different thing to make someone feel like shit because their behaviour has offended you.

lol, i DID think of that tbh! lol


what u said towards the end aswell, fair play, i've had cooler days thats for sure, the most important thing is that we can all benefit from my experience here!

really cannot wait to get bakc out 'Real Life' sarging on New Years... it will only be Alcohol then which distorts my view on a womans fitness then haha!!!



Picard.

The first 2 pics actually make her look gorgeous. Like stunning eyes, tanned skin, slim neck (!), nice hair. I reckon she gets a lot of dates.

But she isn't just big, she is massive! This girl has a really beautiful face, and if she lost a couple of stone she would genuinely turn into someone very hot. It doesn't take much to lose weight, she wouldn't have to go on a crash diet or anything. Just working out and eating healthily and cutting out snacks. If she did that, within 6 months she could leave internet dating behind, guys would be queueing up for her.

No wonder she does PoF dating judging by those pics. No guy in real life would ever approach her.

From her responses, though, I sorta sense she has built up a defence mechanism against her weight. She clearly doesn't consider it a problem, when it clearly is a problem.

The first part of solving a problem is accepting there is a problem to be solved. Until she corrects this fundamental, I don't expect she'll get very far.

.... not gonna lie, i actually cannot agree more with everythign in this post!

it's like, if i was her mate, i'd really encourage her to go out to the gym and stuff, coz she has potential to be amazing!

10/10 Covert!