Right I know the whole change thing is supposed to be good and all but at the moment I feel like Im living some crazy lifestyle and loving life so much one moment, Then when I take a step back to look at the bigger picture its kinda depressing to see where Im actually getting in life. In fact it has got me seriously depressed today...

Basically I came into all this PUA stuff because I have tendencies to just learn whatever I come across no matter how random it is... Google is my best bud when I wanna fill time. But I mean I came into this with options, I had a few girls interested, I had a place on a fairly respectable uni course, I had a job and more money than most people my age, but I lived life with my head down eyes shut basically in a trance to the world around. I pretty much lived the totally perfect average guys life.

This is where I am now after just over a month of PUA...

Quit Uni, Girls seem to be coming into my life a lot faster but I never see anyone in a relationship frame anymore, I work part time, I've got my own place, Sold my car cos I live near town and work and it was pretty pointless, I'm saving cash to move somewhere bigger and better (hopefully abroad or travel a little I've got just over 2 grand so far), I go out about 4 times a week different places I go visit mates in bigger citys when I can due to spare time from only working part time, My health is probs a little better than when I started this but my sleeping pattern is terrible, I now spend 80% of my time in a unreally good mood and then 20% really down in the shits when Im thinking about my car, ex gf, living with parents, college/uni, ect...

So basically I have changed my view on life loads. Like shit loads, and pretty fucking quickly, I think I know its headed in a better direction for me now but I'm just scared things might not work out. And for some reason I can't get my ex out of my head even tho she wasn't in it to start with (I think this is because I've not been any more than someone's fuck buddy since and I sorta see no need to be its not because I can't get a gf its cos I honestly don't feel like I want one right now).

I've got some crazy ass philosophies about life now but Im just scared and such as today I sold my car that I was pretty dam attached too (sorta with ex too cos we practically lived together and like the car was always involved somehow lmao) and then after that I've came home to my parents for the night and just seen all this memory shit... Man it just hit me how crazy I've been living... Fair enough Im loving it but I just wanna know if what Im saying in this is rational or what... Because I really feel like I have no idea what is going on right now...

Anyone else go thru anything like this?

Cheers for any help people,

Love Dave xX

I see where you coming from bro; I get bouts of depression. I think you need to think what you want from pick-up, sounds to me like you want a relationship again. And also, keep your chin up, you're still really young (cliché much). You gotta enjoy life while you can man so don't regret being adventurous. You're just going through a natural reaction to change; people want security but thats boring and at the end of the day life is about having fun, not being normal.

It sounds like this is the first big shake up your life has had. This is bound to be scary. But you can't have the life you want, the one most people are scared to live, unless you make the big changes.

Don't worry about the car and the gf, you'll get over them. I think you are just remembering the stability they offered.

Gosh, you’ve made some serious moves there buddy. Im not against drastic action when called for but its important to think it through, especially quiting uni to chase girls…?

I can relate to some of your post tho, I was half way through an extra qualification to help me take over the world of accountancy but have literally put it back a year while getting more in to “gaming” and women as it was too much to do both. Am questioning this now and don’t see the two as exclusive as now I don’t see picking up women as energy consuming it just happens so hope to get back to the books soon.

Change is good, but fast change can be traumatic, we take time to adjust and really soak in whats going on.

I agree with Flake with keeping in mind why you are in the game, some people have different motives, some just want a lot of crazy sex, other want to meet someone better than what they are used to pulling. I am losing sight of this and need to focus again. Last night I went on a date with a girl I number closed and we went back to hers and had lots of sexy time. Now Im tired at work and to be honest I didn’t really enjoy it that much either. Hmmm!!

Its a bitch, I was thinking about a girl I was seeing last year, really nice, clever, georgeous - but I wasnt ready for it and ended it. Now I wish I had a women like that in my life again, maybe Im ready for it now.

It all ties in with your view of life and what your mind set it. I have my own beliefs and the guys will vouch that I have my own crazy ass theories but everyone is different.

Right back at you Dave.

Love - Dophin Dave.

Xxx

I know it sounds like I quit uni and everything I had been working towards to chase girls but I really haven't.

At first my motives for joining the community was to gain a fancy skill to show off to my friends, Now its to adopt a new life. New friends. New area. New career path. New me.

This is what Im looking towards. I wanna drop the old me, socially conditioned, worried what people think me, and just be myself.

I watched fight club again the other day, thought I might as well seen as tho Tyler references it repeatedly I thought it must have been better than my first opinions of the film. When I watched it and read into it deeply I could relate to that film on so many levels. Not literal levels because I already had a good social circle and girls in my life before getting involved in this, But on a more deep level and I feel like I've snapped out of this trance that everyone else is in... Like I feel like every action of my life previously was sorta me on auto pilot and that i didn't make decisions or think for myself if you get me. Pretty mad like but thats how it feels. Now I feel like I've got control but no direction if you get me.

Best way I can describe it literally is that I feel like before I was driving a car like a robot not making decisions but doing fine in the average life, and now Im driving a car for myself, learning first hand how to if you get me, as if I've never driven in this way before. I have no idea if anyone can relate to this but thats just the way it seems to feel. Maybe Im just seeing life from a totally different angle now lol.

Tbh I think I know deeply that Im gonna live some pretty crazy adventure filled life and be really successful in my own way. I think I have some serious potential and Im slowly working my way to unlocking it.

Much Love
Dave xX

You might want to check Eckhart Tolle's Teaching - The Power of Now. Here's a link to a thread that Darood started...!
The Power Now
Gonna write more but Im rushing off my feet atm...!
Google it and it will hopefully open your eyes...

Much Success...

Cheers bud. Im watching the butterfly effect I'll have a look thru soon as thats over...

Love Db x

Cheers K, Its pretty reassuring to have someone say that when Im on the edge questioning my sanity lmao! But seriously, Thanks.

Much Love
Dave xX