You seemed too concerned with trying to figure out which one of your friends like you.

you're right nova. it just lies in my head. i need to sort it out somehow.

Dating within your own social circle is fraught with peril IMO, look elsewhere. You get a fresh chance to establish a stronger more desirable persona with every new person you meet. If you stick to people you know, you are moreorless stuck with their collective perception of you,

You know what. I never realized that. But you are so right sapphire. Thanks a lot. Ill make sure of this next time.

It's good that you have a lot of female friends - many guys would want to be in your position.

So keep those ones and, to echo the advice of others, go out and meet new girls! There should be plenty in Cambridge

Ya there are plenty. but I don't know what I do wrong sometimes. They end up being my friends rather then sleeping with me. And this my friend isn't a good thing.

Sounds like you need to add a bit of physicality into your interactions. Not talking full-on groping, but just enough to let her know that you're not looking to be just friends

I had a similar problem a few months back. You need to work on demonstrating your intent to them. You are not looking to make friends with new girls you meet are you, you are looking to fuck them. If they don't like it, then you can find one who does.

I couldnt agree more with Nova. great post.

"The only fix for your state of mind involves changing how you view women. This involves going out and pushing yourself to becoming comfortable with them. This is not a quick fix either."

There is no quick fix, im afraid

the only way you will get comfortable and "fixed" with them is to get "experience" with them.

I can tell right now at age 35 I have learned more about chicks in 3 years of opening, chatting to them, and fucking it up and then also from taking them on good dates, bad dates, painfully shit dates, but then, I learnt 50 times that being in on/off LTRS for 2 and bit years than I ever did in the 33 years before that ( and I spent 10 working with air hostesses)

If you ask any of my 3 wings in Luton, who Ive known for 2 and bit years and are now very close friends, if you ask any of them about my sunday afternoon tempers of the frustrations after a "bad" saturday night, they will tell you how I shouted at walls, threw the phone at the wall when my numbers flaked and didnt pick up...we have all been throught it mate, I promise you.

Ill give you an example mate, this is a post I made 3 years ago

http://www.puaforums.co.uk/field-rep...ne-flakes.html

Three years on, when I read this, and you know what, half of makes me cringe, the other half makes me laugh. I cant even remember what the girl looks like. I wouldnt know the chick even if she knocked on my door

And at a guess Ive probably opened/spoken to 250 more girls after that chick, Ive K closed I think about 15 ish and had 3 LTRS since.

The key to it, and its the hardest bit is not to get effected by fuck ups, flakes and things that didnt go right, you must concentrate on the things that DID go right, and realise theres ALWAYS another one around the corner.

When i told my ex girlfriend of a year, that before I met her I had 13 flakes in a row, she thought I was lying. Then after splitting up with her as she wasnt what i wanted and I knew (and had the mindset) I could go and get another one, I met one of the 3 girls im currently seeing 3 weeks later, after zero flakes. Only because Id just come of an LTR and I knew what needed to be done to do it again, my mindset was different, I didnt care. So i got my first close 3 weeks after breaking up with an ex. Something 3 years ago I was impossible.

At the time of writing that post I had near on zero experience with "being" with women, Id done a couple of dates and kiss a couple of girls.

I can also tell you right off the bat, the first thing that will scare a girl off VERY Rapidlly, is when you are needy, and if you are running logic to try to fuck them. they wont respond to logic, at all, they cant. So if you "tell a girl you like her" thats a double whammy... in my opinion (maybe not everyones) its needy... and its logic, it means

a= I like you
b= hopefully you will like me

a+b= lets fuck..

It doesnt work like that. they dont respond to it. One of greatest and powerful things ive learnt about game is learning to see the "game" unfolding in front of your eyes, and where and what stage you are at. I can guarantee you mate at the point you told the girl you like her, she wasnt attracted to you, and shes not attracted mate, and you cant force someone to be attracted, you can try and show value, confidence and DHV, but guess what, if shes not into you, shes not, you have to take the lump and hit the next one.

It will come mate, you need to hit up as many girls // sets as you can to get experience, be postive, try and not be outcome dependent and then you will be able to see when a set or girl is getting hooked, attracted and when you are flogging a dead horse.

I totally agree with you. N tbh this (frustation) is happening to me today after last night. I made out with 3 girls last night but I couldn't take neither home coz I don't know the next step. N I make the same mistakes again and again and then get frustrated. Honestly, in the past three years of my life I have made out with more than 75 girls. And in 99% of the cases I haven't been able to take them home with me I don't know why. It's like once I'm making out with her all of a sudden my mind goes blank and I can't think what to do next. I make the same mistakes again n again. N about telling the girl you like her. That happens all the time with some friend and I fuck up all the time and feel so fucking bad. Recently I told this girl I like her when I genuinely did. N she said you are my friend this that I don't like you like that. N I thought she was into me before I said that. The same night we got drunk in my room and went to the club. She tried to kiss my friend a couple of times which I didn't see but then when I saw I stopped then n I told him about the girl. He didn't knew she was my friend and then he was so nice to not sleep with her. She tried all night on him and then later she came to see me how I felt. I was so drunk n sad in my room. Then she came to mine we spoke and still she wanted him as he wasn't interested. Then he called me asking how I was and she forced me to call him to my room. Then we chatted for an hour n called her a cab home. Even then she tried to take my friend home. In surprised he didn't go coz of me. Then she called me so many times at night and I ignored. The next evening she called me n I told her I was really drunk (which I was) and also that I don't like her this that. We are still friends but I don't show much interest to her. This kinda shit happens with every girl. But when I pick up a girl and make out with her. I can never take her home coz I don't know what to talk to her after that point and what to ask. It just never works. I'm so frustrated with all this coz in the past two weeks including yesterday I made out with 6 girls and I couldn't fuck anyone of them.