Originally Posted by Shahanshah

As the night progresses I may do 'proper approaches' but thats what it is, if you are in my space I will speak to you and chat.

Next is instead of seeing each interaction as if I HAVE to go mack them and go for the pull, I simply speak and socialise with them, IF they seem cool and my type then I might take it further. Which to me is a greater frame than feeling as if every girl I have to chat up somehow, if you know what I mean.

Also another thing Im noticing is I'm too funny and playful with girls, maybe this sounds stupid but it seems like any success I've had has always been me barely doing anything whilst girls where I am being funny and throwing my personality on (Even if its genuinely from pure self amusement and not to impress) will gain no attraction but a great friend.

Like I almost feel like I should never try and be funny or anything in any situation that involves making friends or girls again. I know it sounds ridiculous and over-the-top but its how I feel.

I love to laugh though and make jokes and have those conversations with random people on nights out where you're both like "FUCK YEAH hahaha oh shit!" about everything you say to each other but when it comes to attraction and 'status' it seems like being a boring bastard is pretty much it.

Please will someone explain to me why I'm wrong!! or is it just my real personality is unattractive :P

Ramble over.

Originally Posted by SmileyK

You're in a good place at the moment Shah...being able to conversate with anyone is the 1st step, and with girls you will feel if there is a vibe - it may be there straight away, or build the more you speak to each other.

All about the vibe.



Not sure what you mean by this?