I have been seeing this German-Italian girl for about a week now:

http://www.puaforum.co.uk/field-repo...lian-girl.html

She invited me around to her house one night and cooked me a fantastic meal. She was really all over me and treating me like a king, which was great. After the meal, we had sex again.

It was a Saturday night and I got a text from my Irish mate, asking if I was coming out. His brother was over visiting him and he had been very enthusiastic about introducing me to him.

He kept on ringing and I had promised him that I would go out with them. So I asked this bird if she wanted to come and she said ,"No, but you can go if you want." (bit of a hos or bros dilemma)

She said, "Go and come back," and handed me the keys to her flat. I told her, "I don't want to disappoint my mate. I'll just be half an hour or so. They are in the piazza just around the corner...."

Of course... three Irish lads together a bit of banter and quite a few beers later, I realised that two hours had passed.

I made my way back to her flat. understandably she was a bit pissed off and the next morning was very cold with me. It was a Sunday, but I had a lot of translation work to finish off, so I told her I had to go. We had a little kiss and she walked off into her room leaving me stood at the door so I just left.

Later, I sent her a text to say, "Sorry about last night, I got carried away, it was inconsiderate of me." She sent one back to say, "I had imagined the evening and today differently... happens."

I didn't reply until I had finished my translation, that evening. I wrote, "I'll make it up to you, if you let me. I'd like to see you soon, if that's ok..." So she texted back, "I've been thinking about you, can you come now, it's not too late."

I went round and immediately she was hot again and all over me. We had sex and she said that she had been thinking of it all day.

The next evening, I texted her to ask if she was doing anything. She said she was with a girlfriend who was staying over at hers for the night. I didn't respond.

The next evening she texted me to invite me around for dinner. She had bought fresh riccotta from Corleone (the town from the Godfather).

Again she was hot, but it was a bit late and as soon as she had finished eating she went straight over to the bed and said she was tired and wanted to go to sleep.

I said, "Oh, what do you want me to do then?" She said, "Do what you want," and turned over and went to sleep. The other times we've slept together she was dead clingy but this time no...

I was restless, so I went and washed the dishes while she slept.

In the morning she commented on a tattoo that I have. This is really chody I know but I have a girl's name on my arm from when I was 19. I really should get it covered, but I just never think of it.

Another night that we were out she had seen that I have my sister's name tattooed on my other arm and my son's name on my forearm. She had asked me, "Do you have any other names?" and I had replied, "No."

She commented on this... "You said you didn't have any other names." I shrugged, "Yeah, I don't really notice it... I was a teenager... it's kind of like a scar."

Then she seemed to be fine and was kissy cuddly with me again.

That evening I texted her to ask if she was doing anything. She replied, "Sorry, I have some friends coming from out of town and they will be staying with me so I won't be available for the next few days."

I didn't reply for a few hours as I was busy working. Then I suddenly thought about the tattoo thing and wondered if she might be pissed off about the white lie. So I texted her, "There was a bad story between me and that ex, so when you asked me if I had any other names I just didn't feel like talking about it at that moment... we were having a nice time."

She texted back to say, "I wasn't thinking about that at all, really I just don't have any time this week. Don't be paranoid, please!" I replied, "Oh ok, that was just in case. Have a nice time."

Since then I haven't texted her or heard from her. I thought I'd just back off a little and see what happens.

I have a Ukrainian girl couchsurfing at my house too right now too, so it came at the right time. I don't fancy this couchsurfer though so I haven't bothered with anything...

Any words of wisdom guys?

Seems pretty normal and healthy to me, I don't even see this as hot and cold she just has her own life and respects that you have yours. Wouldn't read into things too much, just assume she's good unless she explicitly tells you otherwise. The one night of not wanting sex happens, sometimes people just don't feel like it, no biggie.

giv her a text

midas u are an issue case mate... every girl u meet u have this same problem with..

ur a bad control freak ur worse than me, stop bein a girl. take a few days out, clear ur head.

u need to stop thinking stuff as negative.

i havent even read the above post, but i know its gonna be somethin like... words wer said, mixed signals, she hasnt been in touch...

some other boy

etc.... u need to calm urself

Mate you are driving the hot and cold responses with your own behaviour.

You’re veering from being the stable and centred man who get’s her hot, to being the henpecked husband who overly courts her favour, which get’s her cold.

Not saying you have to be 100% selfish, for instance if you ditched her the first night when you had plans, saying no to your mate might have been the choice.

Just saying the little logical loops of worry that you get yourself into when she throws up little challenges that don’t really matter, are buggering up the energy between you and you’re letting it.

Re-read your post and see if you can see the correlations. Hope helps.

PS

When did this site turn into 'My girlfriend problems page'?


If these kind of posts are going to continue how about a new section as above or 'my girfriend's giving me grief section'

Or 'I gamed this bitch and now she wont go away' section

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I don't know if its wisdom exactly but I'd fuck the Ukrainian if I were you.

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