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Default Is it silly to feel completely outclassed by another guy like this? - 09-08-2020, 03:46 PM

Last year I was visiting a night club, and one very cute girl caught my eye there, so I decided to walk up to her and flirt with her a bit.
She seemed a bit hard to get, but I felt that I started to make quite good progress after maybe 10-15 minutes or so.
However, at that point another guy appeared, and one thing that made him stand out a lot was his height - he was probably almost 7'0 tall, and he also had a very muscular and proportional build (and a really handsome face as well).
This was a very significant difference to myself, since I am 6'0 tall and have an average and pretty slim body type, so it was quite intimidating to have someone like him in my presence.
Either way, the fact that he was very tall - and had a powerful build - made him get a lot of accidental attention, and people wanted to take photos with him and talk to him.
And I also noticed that the girl that I was flirting with started to glance at him, and then suddenly her eyes opened wide and she seemed to whisper "WOW...!" to herself, and literally eyed him up and down and started moistening her lips and fluttering her eyes at him, and then she said that she was just going to ask someone something - and walked straight up to him, and started flirting and trying to act cute for him.
That was a very strange experience - in the beginning she was the hard-to-get type of girl who I needed to work with for a while, and as soon as she noticed that guy she herself started acting like that in front of him, and he hadn't even done any work whatsoever with her.
He had like 3-4 girls around him - including the girl that I had been trying to get - and all of them always tried to find excuses to have physical contact with him, like asking to feel his arm muscles, or asking him to try lifting them.
Last thing I saw of that situation was when he grabbed the girl I had been flirting with right under her arms and lifted her up, and she made a delighted squeak and seemed really really into him.
And when I made a small attempt to get the girl's attention, she just shooed me off with her hand and ignored me, and started flirting hard with this other guy.

At this point, I had honestly given up.
I felt totally invisible, and I felt that this guy was miles ahead of me.
I usually never feel threatened by other guys, but this guy was something else - I didn't just feel threatened by him, I felt completely outclassed by him.
I just knew that I didn't stand a chance there anymore, so I left.

Maybe there are times when it is better to accept defeat like this?
Or what are your opinions about all this?
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Default 10-08-2020, 11:22 AM

Meh, just one of those outlier situations. People like that are out there but not too common. Sure, it's annoying, I'm annoyed by the very existence of Dan Biltzerian, but hey, what you gonna do. It can happen in multiple ways too. Think that's a mindfuck, one time I was in Vegas and got my girl stole by Meatloaf.

Whether or not you let it bother you is basically whether or not you can accept the fact that you aren't literally the most handsome person in the whole world and the absolute best at everything.


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Default 10-08-2020, 01:16 PM

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Meh, just one of those outlier situations. People like that are out there but not too common. Sure, it's annoying, I'm annoyed by the very existence of Dan Biltzerian, but hey, what you gonna do. It can happen in multiple ways too. Think that's a mindfuck, one time I was in Vegas and got my girl stole by Meatloaf.

Whether or not you let it bother you is basically whether or not you can accept the fact that you aren't literally the most handsome person in the whole world and the absolute best at everything.
Yeah, I realise that, but the whole situation still felt really unfair.
I mean, there I was approaching a cute girl and tried to show my best and most charming side and knew that I also looled good, and she eventually started to seem interested, and then all of a sudden this much taller and much more powerful-looking guy simply shows up and immediately gets lots of attention from that girl and 3 other girls, like nothing.
It wouldn't bother me too much if he just had the other 3 girls, but the girl who I had been flirting with also got weak in the knees for him.
I really wished that at least one of those girls could show me that level of strong interest just like that, but he got all of them without even trying.

I did however accept that he was miles above me - even though I have always been considered very handsome myself - so I just left and let him enjoy the spotlight.
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Default 10-08-2020, 08:25 PM

You've been hanging on to this man for too long.

Forget about him.

Go and do cool shit that interests you.

Become better by doing better.


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Default 18-08-2020, 06:18 PM

Sounds like he done you a favour if she is that shallow. He probably has a Dick like a Walnut whip, anyway.
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Default 28-09-2020, 10:48 PM

Best to move on in situations like that. Once a woman has her sights on another man when you interacting with you it game over with her. Have seen it many times in clubs, walk away and see if there someone else available/prospectively interested.
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Default 08-12-2020, 06:29 PM

I felt the same way about a guy in my college class a little more than a year ago.
He was maybe 6'7 and a muscle man, while also having a very pretty face, like an exceptionally beautiful boy band member.
I noticed from the very first day that the girls in our class gave him glances over and over, and made an effort to start conversations with him, and they seemed really nervous and flustered around him - some of them just kept looking at him while biting their lips and trying to control themselves - even though he was fairly quiet with a smile on his face and didn't speak that much.
It was common that several girls would hit on him at the same time and try to get a date with him, and he would always seem flattered and say that he would have to think about it, or simply walk away with one of them - and he constantly had different girls.
My most direct accidental observation of him was when a girl had come over to his apartment and was waiting outside of his door, and I was walking through that same hallway - he opened the door, embraced her, kissed her, slapped her butt and took her inside, all in just a couple seconds, and the moment I crossed his apartment I could already hear them having wild sex, like probably only 10 seconds later, and the girl was definitely on fire, to say the least.
It was crazy.
They literally seemed to think of him as a sex doll, and someone who they wanted to show off to everyone.

I am not sure if this is only a good thing, because a lot of guys were really jealous of him, and he didn't really seem to have that much of a personality, so he will eventually stop being able to surf on his looks like this.
But maybe it will be enough for him at that point.

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Default 18-12-2020, 12:14 AM

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Meh, just one of those outlier situations. People like that are out there but not too common. Sure, it's annoying, I'm annoyed by the very existence of Dan Biltzerian, but hey, what you gonna do. It can happen in multiple ways too. Think that's a mindfuck, one time I was in Vegas and got my girl stole by Meatloaf.

Whether or not you let it bother you is basically whether or not you can accept the fact that you aren't literally the most handsome person in the whole world and the absolute best at everything.
Isn't meatloaf 70+, when was this ahahaha.

I really think that situation is a great opportunity to step back and realise you can't always win, so cherish the wins and learn from the losses. If a girl literally ditches you for another guy, find a hotter chick and walk her past the girl who ditched you. Or go cry about it, both ways you'll have wet fingers after.
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