Phenom's FR's

[Phenom]

Hey guys,

Im gonna use this thread to post all my future FR's on. This way i can keep track of all my ramblings and it keeps the forum more tidy.

Anyways i went to town last night. Thursday nights in Bradford are always packed out so i was looking forward to getting out there. The only difference about tonight was that i was going alone. ALONE i hear some of you scream....well im kinda lying here, my sister was out with one of her friends, so i did know some people out, but the main thing is i wouldnt have MY friends out. I wanted to do this because i knew it would make me uncomfortable and i wanted to see how id get on being out on my own. After all;

'Safety and comfort are mortal dangers for the soul' - Sam Sheridan

The night started well enough i was feeling confident and really couldnt care less what happened on the night. I got to the club and met my sister and her friend. We talked for a little while, i vibed with her friend quite well. Id only met her once very briefly, so it was cool getting to know her a little better. I didnt want to just hang around my sister and her friend all night so i left them and went to the bar. I gotta say i spent a lot of time at the bar or outside smoking, being on my own i kinda felt out of place and didnt know where to put myself.

I opened some girls at the bar but it didnt really get past 2mins of conversation, i just wasnt hooking at all. There was one girl who gave me some amazing body language IOI's but i ejected waaay too early. Looking back WTF Marc??! I should have stayed in there. Ah well we live and learn.

I went outside for a smoke and spotted a girl who i know through a mutual friend. We dont know each other too well but enough to say 'Hi' and exchange some small talk. This girls cute BTW, so i said 'Hi' we talked loads and i #-closed her and am in the process of sorting out a day2. Then one of her friends came over and was rude as fuck. I cant remember what it was exactly what she said so im paraphrasing slightly here but it went kinda something like this;

Her- What u doing with him? (said in a really rude cockhead way)
Me-Are you being rude?
Her- (Pause) Yeh i am actually?
Me- What u being rude for im only talking to H******
Her- Cos i fucking can be
(At this point i just turned away, i could feel myself getting pissed off and didnt want to look a cock arguing with this girls friend over nothing)

I made my excuses and i left. I mean i had been kinda off all night but man my state felt fucked. I dont know what happened but my confidence slumped, i felt AA creeping up on me. Every group of people i saw i thought 'Oh i shouldnt go interupt them'. I remember standing there thinking to myself 'WTF this isnt me'.

I remembered something from Blueprint Decoded where TD says something about recognising being out of state and acknowledging it but taking positive action to push through it. I stuck around a little longer but i felt it counter productive to myself to stay too long so i left.

In the taxi i was full of excuses. The club was too busy. The music was too loud. I didnt have my friends out. I was too tired from training. Any excuse i could think of i used it. But you know what guys. EXCUSES ARE FOR PUSSYS!!

YouTube - Warhawk Matt Scott in Nike 'No Excuses' Commercial

When i woke up i felt much better about it. Fuck man i still approached some hot girls and got cool responses, ok maybe i didnt hook any of them but i still had some cool yet brief interactions. I got a fuckin #-close, ok we might kinda know each other but i still had the balls to get her number. And best of all i had enough balls to do something most people would never do, i fuckin went out on my own (pretty much). Even though to me last night was a disaster i still had a fuck-ton of a better night than i would have done a year ago before i knew about any of this.

Today im feeling philisophical about it. Iv read some Tolle and Osho and iv listened to some music and im feeling right back where i should be. I actually cant wait to get out there again tomorrow.

Seriously guys were all gonna have good and bad nights. I think what makes or breaks somone in this thing is how you handle the lows. Il leave you with a quote from the movie 'Elizabethtown' which kinda helped me out today.

"You Have Five Minutes to wallow in the Delicious Misery. Enjoy It. Embrace It. Discard It. and Proceed."

Peash out guys.

[LLOYD]

Ach mate shit-days come like the night tonight, friday in Northampton...when i realised how muchoffa AA i have developed throughout the long time of practicly social abstinent life style.... dahm... anyway for an alone prowl u did good mate, kudos to ye...n betta luck next time!

P.s. From past experiance id suggest to keep up the alone prowls = ull get stronger game...n stuff



LL

[Phenom]

Hey Guys,

Id arranged a Day2 on sunday with the girl i #-closed on Thursday night. I fucking love Day2's there so much fun. I see them as an amazing opportunity to show a girl who you are and what your about under a nice relaxed chilled environment.

We went for a walk around where i live. I live in the suburbs of Bradford where theres some beautiful Yorkshire countryside. The walk lasted around an hour and we talked and laughed and generally had a cool time in each others company. After the walk i was hungry and suggested we eat. We went for a pub lunch and got talking about films. I told her i wanted to see the new Inception film and she said she did too. 'Fuck it then, after weve finished eating we'l go watch it' i told her. She agreed and after the food we went to town to watch the movie.

Inceptions cool and well worth a watch btw.

After the film i told her that id had an awesome day with her and that i didnt want it to end yet, and asked her if she wanted to come back to mine. She agreed. When she came back i told her to make herself feel at home. I suggested she put a dvd on. She straight away said she'd rather listen to music. Cool thats fine with me. She puts a cd on and we lie on the bed chilling out talking some more. A few tracks in we move our bodies closer. Halfway through the cd clothes were off and makeout was in full swing. By the end of the cd a good time had been had by all involved and i dropped her off home to conclude and awesome day2.

[aofelix]

Awesome close man!

[maestro]

These are the type of field reports I enjoy reading - positive and uncomplicated, and written without the bullshit arrogance. Good stuff man!

[Phenom]

"Fa i fatte e no parole"

- Dont talk about it. Do it.

[Phenom]

Went out on Thursday night with a friend id not seen in a while. Started off at the pub he works at. They have karaoke at this pub on a Thurs night. Now guys iv done karaoke before but its usually when im ridiculously wankered and have to be egged on to fuck by my friends to do it, oh and i cant sing for shit either. Tonight though i thought 'Fuck it im gonna do karaoke, fuck what everyone might think, im gonna do it for me'. Ok i was a little fresh but was definitley not drunk like i have been in the past when iv done it.

Why did i want to do it i hear you ask? Well two things really, it was going to put me out of my comfort zone and make me do something im not comfortable doing and i was having a laugh with my friend and thought it would be funny.

So i got up there and sang Bee Gees - How deep is your love. Man it was funny, some people even applauded at the end haha. This put me in an awesome mood, we had a few more beers and hit town.

Town was packed. Packed to the point where you could hardly move though, which wasnt cool at all. Anyways i persevered made some approaches got blown out a few times and also had some cool conversations with people. Got pretty drunk got some food, had a great night with my friend and went home.

So whats the point of this FR then if you didnt have a 4some with blonde supermodel triplets Phenom?

The reason im posting is because on Thursday it was the first time that i conciously realised how comfortable and happy i felt in myself. It happened after i approached a really hot 2set and got blownout. The convo died really early so i said 'Right then m'off' and walked away. Iv been blown out loads before and whilst i dont let them bother me to the point im gonna go cry in a corner id be a lying if i said they didnt bother me at all.

This time was different, as i walked away i didnt feel a single negative emotion. Quite the opposite actually, it felt good, i felt happy in myself, i was well and truly completley unaffected.

Sometimes iv felt a loud club evironment to be kinda intimidating, but that night i felt the same as i would if i was sat chilling in my bedroom. It was awesome, me and my friend had an awesome night and met some really cool people.

Saturdays lesson was very different though guys, but il write more about that tomorrow. In the meantime il leave you with this quote, take from it what you will.

“I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.” - Maya Angelou