Oh and btw the tinder girl flaked.

When I moved, I thought everything was going to change overnight. It did in some aspects, but for this you need sustained effort.

I didn't do much pick up for bloody ages. I dabbled here & there, but mostly was finding my feet in a new place, & also finding a permanent address & getting settled.

The thing that bothered me though, was daygame, in particular this Yad stop. It does take major cajones to do, & when you've not yet done one, it seems fucking impossible. It took me nearly a year before I actually did it, & that was after seeing it done right in front of me, & even at that he only did a half arsed one where she walked on past him. But psychologically or something, it made me immediately do one. I don't care what the biology or psychology behind it is or was, it kicked me into gear. Although, it wasn't a quick fix because I didn't do it again for months I think.

Until the end of last year I decided this simply had to be grabbed by the balls & taken control of. I'd still not got this down & I'd moved almost a year & a half before, so I made it a new years resolution to take charge. I had made the same resolution the year before but never done anything, I was like "Not again. Not this year"

The year before I only knew one guy into it though, & he wasn't into daygame (he is now). The point I'm trying to make is that if you want to get good or at least begin to take control of this then find some lads who are into daygame & go out with them. It will be a lot better than living your life wanting to do something but not being able to do it. Don't get me wrong I did do daygame & got numbers, it was just this dreaded full frontal confrontational stopping of a moving target that troubled me.

Once you start doing it though, it's awesome. You get a natural buzz. Then you get to a point where you're excited to go out & do it (my current state).

It's a hell of a turnaround to about this time last year where I'd tell myself ALL the fucking time, "I'll do it on Friday" "I'll do it when I get back to Belfast" "I'll do it when I finish my assignment" etc etc etc, but never done nothing except maybe feel motivated, until it came to Friday, then I'd say "Ok, tomorrow"

It's a never ending pit of shit. Don't get stuck in it. Move in, get sorted & settled as quick as possible, then take charge, meet lads who are doing it.

It took me a year & a half before I was taking satisfactory action but I don't regret anything because I've got my life in order & I'm happy that I'm doing it now.

I'm giving myself a week or two to get settled in then I want to be doing things to progress.

I don't want to be getting shit-faced and forgetting girls names like I've been doing. Some night game obviously. But as you said, I need to bite the bullet and get out and into it during the day. If I don't try I'll never forgive myself.

I tried some tentative approaches during the day last summer in London. Now I need to take it by the balls and do it properly.

One thing about the move is I've stripped myself of a lot of the excuses I've been using up to now (logistics, etc).

There's no excuses left. I've got a chance for a fresh start, a clean slate.

Saturday 15 March

After the first week in my apartment in London I'm pleased with how I'm settling in. Two nights during the week I was abroad. Work is crazy busy at the moment. the next 3 weeks will be even busier. I don't mind that though. As long as it's not like that for too long.

The sun has been shining since I moved in. Seems like a good omen.

Everything is new, a bit scary and exciting. Even getting a bus into oxford street this morning to get stuff I needed was an adventure. I needed curtains cause the bin liners I'd taped on the windows meantime made it feel like I was living in a squat.

The girl in debenhams at the soft furnishings dept was cute. Shops on Saturdays are great because the saturday girls are still enthusiastic about their job. She was slender with long dyed red hair, dazzling green eyes, and was very tidy looking in her debs uniform.

I forgot all about curtains after a minute and started just chatting her up. I made her laugh. But when I started looking at the kettles nearby she lost interest. Home electrical...she handed me over to another girl. But I got the curtains half price.

I also needed a roller blind but they didn't sell them. I tried a local place later on and the heavily made up (but not unattractive) mature woman selling was really chatty. Their stuff was top quality but I was looking for something cheaper so I didn't buy. She understood that. She was just enjoying the chat.

As I was leaving she said "you can pop in and see me if you're passing again". I wasn't expecting that.

I had bought a duvet for the bed. When I went to unfurl it it caught the bare light bulb above (which was on), bulb hit the ceiling and exploded, showering me, the bed and carpet with tiny fragments of razor sharp glass. Next half hour I spent on hands and knees cleaning it up before I could resume.

When putting the curtains up I observed the residents of my block coming and going as the door is next to my window. Several nice looking girls. One was really fucking hot. But do I want to shit where I eat? For her I'd probably chance it.

This evening I went out for a wander around the local bars. Within a 10 minute radius of my flat there was about 4 or 5 bars, all rammed and all rocking. I found it a bit overwhelming tbh and didn't go in any.

I found a bar that was quieter and went in for a pint. Got talking to the blonde slovak barmaid who had terrific legs. I told her I'd just moved in around the corner and she told me about the local area and that it's always busy.

Sitting outside the pub having a ciggy I noticed the place is teaming with drunks. A lot of them girls out for a night. If I can't pull one here I'm just not trying hard enough.

It'll take me a while yet to get comfortable but I know I've made the right decision with this move.

Sounds very similar to my area, I'm surrounded by pubs & clubs, & my street is lively literally all year round with occasional periods of quiet.

It's exactly what I wanted though, so I've never complained.

I think you'll get on fine. Take some time to settle in & get used to your new life. Enjoy the process. Good luck.

I joined a gym today. It costs money but it was a main priority for me.

The sales woman who showed me around the club was very attractive. She had a slightly eastern look to her...perfect body. I did most of the talking. I was talking about the benefits of regular exercise. Eventually she said jokingly "you should be working here".

I went down later on to try it out. It's much smaller than my previous gym but it's got all the right gear for what I need. Everyone seemed friendly.

I've joined some group thing that's like circuits but more intense. She told me it's about 50/50 men and women. Could have been the sales pitch but we'll see. I did see a good number of women around the place.

I've never managed to approach in the gym. One girl I noticed had a 10/10 ass. It's always somewhere for me to go and should keep me in shape.

You seem more interested in potential of gaming in the gym than the gym itself!

No. I'm not like that anyway. Being too nice has been more my problem I think.

That can also be a problem.

Sometimes telling a girl how awesome she is and how wonderful it is to be with her can create the idea that you're exclusive. You need to be dead straight if you get involved telling them you're not exclusive and there are other girls and making sure they are down with that - because when they see another girl leaving your pad you don't want them to get pissed.

It's also not just words but your behaviour has to enforce it too. You might tell her you're not exclusive but if you're spending more than 2 nights per week with a girl, catching movies and dinner etc you're behaviour communicates such.

This is wear newbies go wrong with casual relationships, they get some sex, want it regularly > The girl thinks the regular intimacy is commitment > the guy doesn't put her straight because he thinks the sex will stop (and sometimes it does) > girls doesn't get committed relationship and guy doesn't get several FWB

Not so much gaming, more wondering if there is any social side to it as it's a health club. In my experience people tend to go in to do their workout then get out asap. I do that too really. But always on the lookout just in case.