that goes without saying

Guy: Are you friends with your exs?

Girl: Well.. erm, not friends per se, but we do chat sometimes, sometimes go for coffee, but its nothing like that, we're just friends now, but not friends, if you get me? Like, we just chat sometimes, that's all, jeez stop grilling me about everything the feelings have gone now !!!!!!

Guy response A) cool (unreactive). Then you won't mind me being friends with my exs.
Guy response B) what? no. People aren't friends with exs! Look, drop them all, or I drop you (emotionally of course). Simple.

I dno my point. I'm thinking out loud

This is overthinking the situation.

You would notice your girlfriend chatting to or spending time with a guy. At what point you can address the issue if you feel threatened by that situation.

She wil also grill you about Ex's before you grill her so take that opportunity and discuss who are her ex's are they still friends?

no no no no


Me - whats your plans tonight chick
her - bens coming round
Me ben????
Her- my ex
me- erm random!
her- dont worry hes just a friend
me-cool (enters wargames mode)

week later

Her-hey gorgeous what you upto tonight
me - Kimberleys coming round
her- whos that (strained voice)
me- oh shes just a good friend of mine dont worry

later after shes checked facebook to see kims a hot blonde

her- jeleously rant
me- your friends with your ex- dont be a hypocrite
me- ok then we have a rule..(dictate terms)

the end

hhahahah!! that is brilliant

This all depends.

Take for instance a girl you loved more than anything in the world...could you still be friends with her after you split up? Especially if you didnt want the break up? I couldnt.

Girls get even more emotionally attached to guys they love, even if they break up they will still let the old feelings take over & allow themselves to be used by their "love" months & years down the line (ive seen it)... whereas guys, once hurt, will (mostly) say "fuck off bitch you messed me around so fuck off"

What im saying is, the way us guys feel about ex's etc, girls feel it more (jealousy) i think some of you have literally already said this here, ive just said it differently.

So basically, unless she is a virgin...the inscurities will continue to eat you up.