nat·u·ral/ˈnaCHərəl/
Noun: A person regarded as having an innate gift or talent for a particular task or activity.

How do we achieve this?

It's all well and good telling people to be natural and in my view a lot better than the alternatives. However, the biggest question I'm asked and ask myself is, 'How is natural going to help? I've been doing that all my life and isn't working!'

As a man who is striving towards this I have found the two biggest factors that help are:

1) Lifestyle - Develop a lifestyle that you enjoy and our positive about. You will then be a positive person who girls enjoy being around. You are natural and being yourself.

2) Trial and Error - just keep going! Just chat to girls. Find out what works for you and what doesn't. After time things that used to a problem will come naturally as you go through unconscious incompetence to unconscious competence.

Be interested in others views......

Great post and wise words! I think through trial and error, mixed with determination, you can become natural at what you want.

Interesting post.

So to take mine a step further how are other people on here working towards being genuine and spontaneous? Not as easy as it sounds with all the external factors going on, not to mention one's own ego and insecurities to deal with too!

I am in the same position as before, trying to live a life I want to lead and trial and error.

K's post reminds me of the four Four stages of competence.

Before reading the game I was unconsciously incompetent at approaching, flirting closing with women.

After reading it I became consciously incompetent. I'm still at that stage but working towards becoming consciously competent.

I know people who are unconscious competent at being social and attracting women, K's right it doesn't matter how they got there it’s the fact they arrived.

I know if I can get to being unconscious competent with being social as I've already done this in other areas of my life such as work and even learning to drive a car. I just need to take things at my own pace. I also want to get out and meet some more board members soon.

Mark

It matters to me how they got there! That's why I started the post. I want to arrive lol.

You're London based right? Come join us next weekend....

I'll send you a pm

When you start off to learn from A-Z you learn a whole lot about B-Y.