Ok Al_phaD i will do my best to just not give a fuck what anybody thinks of me anymore.
Right looks it is then,i mean thinking about it i havent bought any clothes since i put weight on,my point being ill slim back into my old clothes which i loved wearing.so ive been wearing the same 3 pairs baggy old ripped jeans for some years now.Your right i deffo need an appearance booster.Im gona start going to the gym with my m8 .However there must be more to being a cunt than this??!!
Also another question will being a cunt make me more comfortable being me?I realize my awkwardness translates through people i look at people and feel inferior and it must show.Where as if i though im the bomb that obviously will show as confidence,which is what im lacking in right??
Honest answer is NO i dont want to be with her its just not working for me.Ive stayed put for this long because im scared to leave.Ive never lived alone,ive never been in a relationship this long,ive basically just put my head in the sand and tried to block it out to save myself the hassle of dealing with the situation:S
Markuk i guess in a way its gives me comfort that my situation reminds you of you,ive got hope that it doesnt have to stay this way:)
how do you suggest pushing myself out of my comfort zones??What should i try?

Start talking to everyone you meet.
Stay in conversations even when you feel awkward and want to leave until they leave first.
Say hello to Ramdon people and smile.
Tell girls in clubs "They are shit at dancing" It's not really that cuntish and normally is true.
Start doing stuff, join a Salsa class. Get a hobby (I recommend mountain biking!)
Start taking risks.

For example I'm going to a ceroc class on Monday after someone recommend it at a Salsa class I recently joined.

For example I've arranged to go mountain biking with a girl at work after I took a risk and asked her to come.

Read "John Alexander - How To Become An Alpha Male"

Take people's advice on here try it and use what works for you and throw the rest away.

Mark

Ive already got "How to become an alpha male",so that will be top of my list to read.
Ive got a mountain bike sitting there un used so yeh i can start biking.Good for getting healthy right.
What just walk upto people and talk to them??randomly??
Hahaha I can tell people theyre shit a dancing thats easy;)
Dancing classes mmm i can see the opportunities to meet people at dance classes.A guy i know does salsa and he always has a different bird everytime i meet him.
Ok i will try stuff and keep what works and throw out what doesnt.It sounds a lot like trial and error with that regard??Hence why i need to be able to take screwing it up on the chin and keep going till i find the right formula for me,im still very dauted by all of this but if i can pick it up piece by piece i hopefully with get to where i want to be in the end:)

ok in order to get to that point u need to realise why your like that...

your beleif that other people liking you is important to your own self.

this is why you do what i said for a few weeks BE A CUNT, OFFENSIVE & RUDE with a big smile for a few weeks..NEVER APOLOGISE

it will help you realise that the negative feedback has NO effect at all on u, in fact, u will begin to find it amusing, make it fun for yourself....

'WOW WHERE DID YOU GET THAT DRESS.... DO YOU THINK THEY HAVE IT IN A SMALLER SIZE FOR MY GIRLFRIEND"

"U NEED TO LEARN TO WEAR CLOTHES THAT MATCH"

if you say it with a smile they cant really get offended & if they do, dont apologise, walk away with a smile

once u find people hating you amusing, you stop caring and can concentrate on people liking you without u trying. simple

By improving your looks I wasn't suggesting this makes you a cunt or that you should be one.. Just improve your looks cos you will feel better in life..

You don't have to do EVERYTHING all at once mate..

but I do suggest this: END your relationship ASAP. Who cares about living alone. You'll enjoy the freedom and privacy. Plus then you have a place to bring hot chicks back. There are always positives mate. At least you aren't stuck with kids? (or you haven't indicated so..) so get out whilst you can!

Nah no kids man,tbh i dont want em.Theyre just not for me.
Ok man im with you now i try to get to the point where people hating me is amusing and has no effect on my need for people to like me, ie not needing seeking other peoples aproval to feel worth.Im gona be on it as soon as, im sure ill get better at being a cunt the more i do it and be more into it once i start to get some results.
I now have a copy of rsd blueprint;)
I see now by making myself look better i will carry myself better and therefore give of a more positive vibe.
Ok man i will get this relationship situation sorted before the end of the month hopefully.True the plus is i will have a pad to bring chicks back 2:)

Ive had a real go today at being a bit of a dickhead.Not 2 much tho as i was at work and the only bird i work with is my m8s missus:s
But instead of running round after her and doing what she asked me to do like i normally do,i was negging her a good bit and having her do stuff for me!! ie she had biscuits and i made her feed me one,telling her she was being lazy and should work harder while i was just fucking about.Obviously couldnt go 2 far dont wanna get sacked or piss my m8 off.Obviously i need to ramp up the arrogance a good whack yet but its a start.
I can see already that my m8s gf was more animated in my company and had more of a laugh,where as normally she wouldnt talk to me much or be interested in me at all apart from to get me to do stuff.So a baby step, but a baby step in the right direction:)

Is it not very noticable though, in the workplace, when you go from one day being quiet and secluded, to the next day ordering her about and negging her?

I would say tone it down a little in the workplace.
Do it when you are out in public places etc..

Also, do not let this be your main focus. Focus on getting healthy, looking good, talking to women and being an interesting person..

And end your relationship

ye be like that is your main goal, and your right, dont be an ABSOLUTE cunt to people u will see again

only when your out & always with a smile on ur face, really cheeky like.

but thats how u should be with everyone, how u was. well done

I worry here that this guy is turning into a right cunt ha.

Seriously though, there are other methods of improving yourself. Worth noting.