GenePoole, do you have issues with insecurities?

Why do you have to see these guys as barriers, problems, competition, distractions or whatever you are trying to avoid naming in this thread?

having Game is about being social, as Al_phaD said in a thread, he chats to women and blokes alike, getting numbers. If a guy's interesting then just go with it, you might even learn something from him...

To some extent, yes. I never have insecurities about guys just hanging about a girl I'm with or like but I do have insecurities about guys hanging about who have already been with the girl. Maybe it's a personal preference but once I find out a girl has been with a guy in her social group and they still hang about as friends, I dump her immediately.

First step is admitting insecurities so kudos

Perhaps this is a personal preference.. but I am trying to be much more open minded. I'd had sex with my exs friend before I got with her.. and she'd had sex with my friend before as well.. but you just have to get on with it and forget about it.. it doesn't really matter.. if you live in a small town, half the 18 - 24 yr old population is guna have slept together!

I'm meeting a girl who's nice possibly relationship material and she hangs with her exs and ex fuck buddys but its just life isn't it.. as long as girls are faithful you don't need the insecurity about this

Hope this helps

Yeah, you see for me I couldn't do that, I just wouldn't be able to see those people as her friends...especially the fuck buddies. My insecurity in that situation would be of the "why did you let this guy use you?" Of course she could have been using him as well but then the relationship is stripped down to a purely sexual one. It's just a lot to get through so I prefer to see girls who don't have all that history. It's also why I don;t stay friends with any of my exes.

I get what you're saying about small towns and maybe that's it, I always grew up in big towns so don't find it that normal.

Doesn't this kind of confirm that orbiters have a high probability of wanting to fuck the girls in their social group

TBH, in the relationships I've had I've always made rules for myself. Some people call them insecurities, I'm not really sure, but I don't like girls who have slept with men in their social circle even if they keep them friend zoned afterwards and I don't like girls who have had threesomes. I'm not really sure why I have these rules, it's just something I feel is wrong somehow...as in I wouldn't have a LTR with those girls as it's a major turnoff.

If you can't trust your partner you cannot be happy with them

you will not rectify this by adding rules, only mutual respect

I've always trusted my partners, that was never the issue. I knew they wouldn't go after the orbiters as they were friend zoned - it just doesn;t leave me feeling great when you have to go on a night out with your partner and to have to see some other bloke (let's call him twat 1) who you know has been inside your girl.

how old are you?

I'm only 21 but have already overcome this mental blocking way of thinking.

Its cool if a girls been in a threesome! It is actually beneficial as she will not feel the urge to cheat on you with two strangers to fulfil the desire to have one in the relationship.. plus if shes game for a threesome, get her hot chick friend in!

And as for exs in social groups.. your the one banging her now, not him!

almost all situations this is true, but it depends on the guy. if he is shy then yes. but i have a girl mates, if i wanted to fuck them id say...

infact of my girl mates who i wanna fuck... and havent i say, when are we fuckin, it will happen at some point.

the ones i dont wanna, i dont say it.

orbiters are the types of guy who get into pua.