Ok I'm nearly 23 and have only had 1 girlfriend that I've had sex with (cute 25 y/o), I've had other girlfriends when younger just kissing and nothing serious so I don't really count them. I'm one of these guys who will sometimes and quite often pull when I'm out but it never goes any further.

When it gets to the point where me and a girl could have sex my thoughts start racing and I get really reactive and nervous.

My g/f recently left me and I think she's seeing someone else now, it kills me every day. She'd cheated on me with a couple of my friends in the same week when we weren't speaking. I don't know if it was just kissing or more.

I have been going out having lads nights out but I can't seem to get anywhere.

How I got my first gf I'd just pulled her one night, we'd been texting didn't really date but said hey u wanna be my gf and she took a while and then said yeah.

Had a horrible situation last night, had this female friend round at mine for the first time and we flirt, we got back to mine on my bed watching a film.. I tried to pull her and she was like "no, no" we laughed it off and she was all cool with it. So I've completely misread the situation, very awkward and embarrassing.

I just feel like I'll never be fucking another hot girl and I'm doing everything the wrong way. I'm completely confused and have nothing to do.

How can you show a girl you like her in that way or at least find out quickly whether she's worth making any effort with in the first place?

I wanna fuck hot girls not just have fucked one hot girl.

Help much appreciated, thanks

pull a few girls that are below your level-- pretty soon you wont care what they think of you and you will start to develop a killer instinct that then applies to higher level girls

how the hell did you end up with a girl in your bed watching a dvd with her thinking it was nothing sexual/physically related?
I HATE situations anything like that and i ALWAYS make my intent clear within minutes of chatting to a girl -- see if she starts creating a sexual/flirtatious interaction with you, if she doesnt you initiate it-- see how she reacts, when you walk somwhere grab her hand or put your arm round her if she shrugs it off--bin her off or even say 'whats up dont you fancy me?' if she says no or as friends- fire her off

Refl3x, you make so much sense.

Much love,

Craigus

Your problem is a direct result of not getting touchy feely early on. You got friendzoned. Don't act like a friend, act like a lover, make sure you're always ramping up towards sexual touching steadily. Don't expect anything to happen in your house on your bed if you haven't already kissed her outside.

you cant kiss her inside-- sounds like we are talking about oral sex

Well the Fri we were all out all friends etc I was being more physical than usual and she was reciprocating touching back etc flirty banter. No doubt she's attracted to me because 1) I've noticed it myself several times hardcore IOIs lol 2) that night she couldn't keep her eyes off me a guy I'd just met pointed it out to me too saying she keeps staring.

It was awkward but I did have my arm round her then go to kiss and she was like no and straight after I felt like she knew and I'd just been baited in to the situation.

She said if ever I'm bored and want company we can always do something together so we end up playing pool then go to watch a film at mine.

This makes me want to really be more straight forward and BLATANT like if ever I think a girl is into me I should just be like "well, are we gonna fuck yes or no" then there's no room for misleading.

I've kclosed a lot of girls, kclosed a different girl that night pretty cute she kept saying am I gonna walk her home so I think ok this could lead to sex but she's with her friend messing about for a good while, we have a lock in for about an hour or so I get sick of waiting around get food and go home.

This is so frustrating.

Another time I was with an OK girl (there was attraction on the night, kclosed her) then meetup I'm not as attracted but get a lift off her friend to the girls house, her dads there lol seems cool with it we go upstairs and I'm thinking I'm gonna fuck her which I would but I couldn't get hard and for the short while I was hard I said suck my dick she nervously laughed and wouldn't do it as if she'd not given a blowjob before... Absolute joke, lol.

What do you mean by below my level.. less attractive?

She's an emotional leech. I hate to say it but this is a type that really infuriates me. They give mixed signals and leech of the infatuation of others while denying any knowledge of their actions at the same time claiming they're just being themselves. They're the type who actively create friend zoned guys that are into them and then uses them to make themselves feel good all the time.

They then deny any consequences for their actions, place the blame on the guys and don't see any problem at all. They claim they don't like it that guys get like that with them yet continue to mislead guys and flirt with those they know are into them. Generally this kind of thing ends in serious emotional fallout for the guys involved.

Run away.

At which point you say somthing along the lines of ' Company? like collecting stamps together or somthing a bit more fun?'
'if she says just as friends' say ' dont you want to kiss me' if its a bad response bin her off

if instead she says somthing flirty then tell her to come here and kiss her-- again if she denies you, bin her off
If i was getting major IOIs off a chick and i tried to kiss her and she denied me--that would be it i wouldnt have anything to do with her after that, unless she crept under the table and sucked me off..lol

I see stuff like this as a game of poker-- its about making her reveal her hand (intentions) before you invest too much into the pot

as you get better at this type of thing you learn to pickup on things without having to be so blatant, but still there are always time wasting attention whores who will trip you up.

dont be at her beck and call-- remember youve got value!-- wait 5 mins then say 'look im off im bored- you coming?'-- dont hang around like you are waiting for scraps from the masters table like a dog.

happens to us all at some point dont worry about it and learn to laugh it off
i have a habit of taking lots of stimulants which plays total havoc with errections, ive always got a supply of cialis which i use somtimes if ive been taking a lot of stims or if i want to pull a monstrous shagging session out the bag
Having somthing like that around is uesful especially til you get used to shagging random chicks

yep less attractive-- hell; even fuck munters and swamp donkeys--you wont give a shit, you`ll rack up experience

I agree with everything pretty much except for fucking munters and swamp donkeys

Cheers

ya definitley show intent. tbh these days i'll either keep my distance with a girl to keep a bit of mystery and exclusivity or i'll show intent straight away. either way im never in those kinds of situations you describe.

i have a lot of cute female friends and i can honestly say its a fucking waste.