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06-05-2011, 01:05 PM
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06-05-2011, 01:30 PM
I maintain a brutal honesty policy. I will not lie nor colour the truth rosey regarding what I think of someone. If they don't like this then tough. I feel that showing this honesty promotes a far closer relationship than one where people tell each other they wouldn't change a thing about them when the reality is that they would.
This kind of honesty adds far more trust in the long run, when you tell someone not to worry they genuinely have no reason to worry at all because you've never told them anything that they could possibly feel wasn't entirely true.
Shit tests in my opinion do you a favour. If you're honest and "fail" these tests then that person does you a favour by getting out of your life because they're not compatible with you. Passing them is a load of bollocks, consider someone else shit testing you as a chance for you to test them. I wouldn't want to be with anyone I have to lie to in order to get.
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06-05-2011, 01:48 PM
Craigus. This attitude tells me you feel almost under the spotlight to pass a girl's standards. Live by your own standards.
girls just wanna have fun
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06-05-2011, 02:02 PM
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I maintain a brutal honesty policy. I will not lie nor colour the truth rosey regarding what I think of someone. If they don't like this then tough. I feel that showing this honesty promotes a far closer relationship than one where people tell each other they wouldn't change a thing about them when the reality is that they would.
This kind of honesty adds far more trust in the long run, when you tell someone not to worry they genuinely have no reason to worry at all because you've never told them anything that they could possibly feel wasn't entirely true.
Shit tests in my opinion do you a favour. If you're honest and "fail" these tests then that person does you a favour by getting out of your life because they're not compatible with you. Passing them is a load of bollocks, consider someone else shit testing you as a chance for you to test them. I wouldn't want to be with anyone I have to lie to in order to get.
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Fair comments - I agree that being honest is always the best thing to do.
But just to clear things up about my examples above:
I was being honest about this girl too - I genuinly wouldn't change anything about her, neither in terms of her personality, nor her looks. I am very much into the girl, I trust her implicitly, and we do have a very honest relationship. As mentioned in the text to her, that probably sounds like a cop-out but its not. Obviuosly no one is perfect, and I'm not saying that she's perfect. But neither am i going to start telling a girl with self esteem issues about insignificant imperfection for the sake of being 100% honest.
With regards to the the small lie about pursuing the other girls, neither of these have gone any further than texting. And we do have an open relationship - she says that she is not ready for a committed relationship yet, because of trust issues (all covered in another thread). I don't see the point of risking hurting her by telling her that yes, I'm keeping my options open.
That said, I wouldn't fuck this girl around, no way. I plan to make things clear about me and her before I ever get to the position of starting another sexual relationship with another girl.
Much love,
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06-05-2011, 02:11 PM
A bit of melodrama is being created by your rock chick. Some of that's a fun game between you two, but there's limits in the medium term to how much you may want to play along. RLAJay on the money about honesty, etc. Also having banged the bird a number of times, you would think she might reduce the melodrama. But you both seem to be enjoying drama for now anyway.
A bird texted me she was at fashion show, blah blah, intimidating with all these tall models. I had replied by picking up on only the insecurity / shit test footnote: I said that she was gorgeous and smart at the height she is, and I would rather hang with her than unhealthy tall models with vacuous mindset.
Over the years, birds have shit tested me about whether I lie their new clothes, about their figure,about other lovers, other girlfriends, about whether I see them or my mates, etc.
Now some generic points about shit tests in general:
I like birds to be fun, not hassle. Fun includes witty and smart, but not full of "needing to be reassured" style tests. In scenario of a melodramatic bird doing a ton of shit tests, it would be easy to grow weary of it. It's not relaxing to have that prolonged. Sooner or later you trust each other and just vibe OK together (or don't, stop seeing each other, and get different lovers).
I write this in a lazy mood.
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06-05-2011, 02:12 PM
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Craigus. This attitude tells me you feel almost under the spotlight to pass a girl's standards. Live by your own standards.
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A fair conclusion to make. Not sure whether that is true or not tbh - I do feel that I am very much my own man, and that I have my own mind - none of that was a conscious attempt to jump through any hoops that she set up for me, just my way of responding to some tricky situations that do genuinely arise in early relationships like this one.
How would you have responded to those two situations, Nova?
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06-05-2011, 02:12 PM
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Recently, she sent me this random text:
Her: if you could change anything about me, what would it be? Xxx
I waited about ten minutes before replying
Me: lol, why'd u ask that? Hmm. I know this answer is goin to sound like a bit of a pussy cop-out, but I truly wouldn't change a thing about you. U r the kindest, warmest, most generous spirit iv come across in a long time. Ur gorgeous, and sexy, and just thinkin bout u turns me on. And u really make me happy. What cud I possibly wanna change about any of that? Xxx
I then sent another text immediately after
Me: actually, there is one thing I'd change: I'd make u more decisive! Now are we hanging out at urs on thursday nite or what?! Xxx
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Massive fail in my book
FAILED
you just showed her that you are well and truly wound into her web and she has you right where she wants you-- you have also just been very non alpha and asked her to make decisions when you should be making them
Id say:
Her: what would you change about me
Me: heck, are you falling in love with me or somthing... probably your attitude unfortunatly you are stuck with that face
Her: what do ya mean?
Me: Shush and go clean somthing
id then throw a little bit of pull her way later on or next time we hook up
-- result is she is confused about wether i am into her or can just do one at any time
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Another Shit test recently came while we were talking on the phone. Out of the blue she asked if I had pulled anyone since we met (at VR). I didn't want to lie to her, so I told her that a couple girls had given me their number, but that I hadn't acted on them (ok, I lied a little). She asked why not, to which I said that I just didn't feel anything between myself and these girls - there was no chemistry. She seemed satisfied with that answer. I asked her the same.
She said that a few guys had asked her on dates.
To that, I didn't act jealous or put out by it. I just responded with the nonchalant 'oh cool - I aint suprised in the slightest!' I then left a long silent pause. She obviously didn't get the response she wanted, because she filled the silence by telling me that a guy had been texting her a lot lately too. I asked about him, and she told me that she met this guy shortly after our first rock night - he apparently was a dead-ringer for a rock singer that she really fancies, so she got talking to him about the band. Again, I didnt act jealous or needy, and instead teased her about having met her ideal man. She was keen to point out to me that they had only been texting, and that she had no intentions of pursuing the guy.
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i cant answer this one i have not resolved this issue in my head yet about honestly with girls.
Her: have you met anyone else while weve seen each other
Me: Yes ive had sex with 5 different girls in the last 2 months while weve been fucking, ive also got a POF profile looking for a 3some/4 some
Her: WTF....sicko
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Over the next few days, I carried on teasing her about her 'lookalike-lover' - at one point I sent her a silly voice-note via bbm: I put on a gay, ott voice and pretended to be the 'lookalike-lover'. A transcript:
'Oh, hey - its ur 'lookalike lover' here. I just wanted to let you know that I think Craig is so much more awesome than me. He's much better looking too. Also, I have a small penis - its like a peanut - its quite embarrassing really. So yeah, that's it really - I'm a douche-bag, and Craig is awesome! Byyyyeeeee!'
She thought this was absolutely hilarious when she listened to it. And then she made a point to tell me that she wants me, not him. And not anyone else.
PASSED.
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if you didnt give a shit like you want to portray then why even mention any of it. surely thats a fail also
What do you want with this chick? because my instincts are telling me you are really into her.
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06-05-2011, 02:30 PM
Refl3x, that's really not my style at all, and I don't think that would help at all with this girl.
I did go to her's that Thursday night, and we did get freaky, so in that sense, I PASSED.
You are right, I am really into her, but what's that got to do with anything? (I realise that the obvious answer to that is EVERYTHING! But please be specific)
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06-05-2011, 02:41 PM
i dont beleive in shit tests...
i think some girls wanna hear the shit most lads feeds.
i think there are 50 % or more AFC's doin better than most people on here.
people have been gettin laid long before THE GAME! and i think over anylising it is part of the reason alot of guys are gettin stuck..
if all guys lost fear of approach, but knew NO game strategy.... he would do better through trail & error...
than all the shit u hear in books, it just fucks with ur mind
ITS FOO FOO... all the MASTER pua;s are still shaggin ugly birds up untill they get rich, then women wanna fuck them, and its not coz money makes women attracted to u, its just some hot women are money whores & like champagne & nice things.
Try this: next time u go out, forget what u know
act urself, say what comes naturally, if she does somethin dont go analytical HOW DO I PASS THIS STAGE
just have fun.... dont think about ANYTHIN
if u get fucked off, it wernt a shit test, she just wernt interested, move on
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