hey i just need some tips i went out last night and i practiced some openers that i just learnt it was my first night last night and i gat a number so proud of myself it happend out side a club i was standing there with my friend and a girl come up to us to see if we had a light i said no but my friend has so he give her a light so i thought yea i will start a conversation i dident use an opener as dident feel was necisary as she had come to us i asked her
(me) "you all done for the night then al clubbed out?"
(her) "yea, have you just come out?"
(me) "no i just come to see what the entrance fee was just come from another club how was it in there?"
(her) "yea good its my friends 19th birthday today" (she points to her friend slumped on a pathway)
(me) " looks like she had a good time"
(her) "she laughs i says yea im a bit drunk at the moment and im dressed a bit slutty.
(me) "(i interupt) yea you do a bit (i smile) im only joking you look ok.
(her) "i dont usually dress like this (she smiles)
(me) "dont worry i think you look cute, sorry whats your name?"
(her) "Annemarie"
(me) "Dan" ( i put my hand out to do a squeeze test and she squeezes back)
do you no how cute you are"
(her) "aww thankyou so are you i could eat u up with a spoon"
(me) "woo you going a bit far in the relationship arent you at least by me a drink first (i smile)"
(her) "(laugh) arent the men supposed to buy the drinks".
(me) "well im no ordanary man"
(her) "are you not"
(me) "listen i got to go i think you are really cute and i would love to talk too you more can i take your nomber and we can go for a drink"
(her) "yea if you can remember my name (i acctually forgot it at this point)
(me) "it beggiiins with a c"
(her) "NO!"
(me) whats my name then"
(her) "arr dan"
(me) "no its darren"
(her) "darren ?"
(me) " darren ? no im dan"
(her) "what? didnt you say your name was darren"
(me) "no you said i was darren im dan"
(her) "what i said darren"
(me) " no you said dan, dident she say darren? (to my friend)he says yea.
(her) "oh i was thinking that in my head but must have said darren (laughs)
(me) "thats ok so what was your name?"
(her) "annmarie, (me) "aw" (hug her dosent pull away hugs me back)
(me) whats your nomber
(her) (gives me number)
(me) "ok il give you a txt with my number"
(her) " you better"
"i will ( gives me a hug and kiss on the cheek then on the other one)
( i then go )

this was pretty much how it went i txt her in the morning to give her my number but did not get a reply what do you think will she reply i did make some amature mistakes like forgetting her name so had to confuse her so she forgot about the point of it wich worked in my favor but what could i do better and what was good this girl was very hot by the way but i stayed confident and my friend said i did a good job do you reckon she will txt back and when is the usual time for this to happen.

does anyone have some good negs to use and material to use after the opener. thanks
dan and need a nickname any advice on one im rubish with nicknames.

Since you didn't build comfort at all, she will have woke up the next morning with the vaguest of memories and a phone number.
She has no idea who you are man, so you're not really gonna be able to follow this one up.

Also, it looks like she may have been hammered sh she probably won't remember a thing.
Look around on here to learn material. If you stick around, you can eventually get into the filesharing forum. Kaboom!

Yo man that sounds like a pretty good interaction you got going there. Good thinking on your feet too!
On the subject of her flaking and not texting you back, its as Tw1sted says. Though you built initial attraction, there was no comfort built up and so in the morning she thinks of you and feels nothing. Also, adding to the fact she may have been drunk means that she may not remember you.
I think if you had the same interraction during day game you would probably have had a text back/her answering the phone, but due to the lack of comfort built up, she will not invest.

My limited knowledge on with this area is that basically you have to talk to them a bit more, find a bit more out etc.

By the sounds of it you'll have it covered before long anyway. It aint you, its her man! As Kowalski and Swype have said to me in the past "You are AWESOME." And don't forget it!

Ritz

yeah man

sounds like it went down well
!!

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thanks for all your replys so its the comfort thing does anyone have any techneques on how to do this because i am clueless maybe this is what im missing and crazy d yea sounds good but will they think i am actually crazy or am i just being a bit negative.

what does everyone think about the nickname buddha by the way as i like to collect them and i am very into his teachings and quite tranqual inside

I dont like it matey...how about Monk. Its a lot cooler. Anyway, if you decide on a name, maybe Jaz can change it here..! But I stick with Dan, nowt wrong with it..!

Much Success!

hey danban, with the nickname just go with whatever you want, at the end of the day its what YOU are being called, but remember if your introducing yourself to sets with it then you should have some way of justifying it.

"hi, im jokefeatures"
" cool, im annie, why do people call you jokefeatures?"
"errrm,"

you know what i mean? lol

yea thanks guys yea that is a good point i would be lost if they said why but i like that monk that is cool i may acctually use that il see what reactions it gets in the feild and what big names are there in the uk for the pua's i know the americans but im so new to this that i havent even heard any uk names and is there any seminars held here for free as i cant afford to pay 100s or 1000s of pounds to go i dont earn much.

Why would you get lost dood...if HBs ask why u called MONK, then you already have the answer when you said


Dont think there are any free seminars I know of BUT find a member nearby and go and get the field experience..it is worth more than any seminars, including the free ones...!

Much Success!