I wanted your guys take on the bitch shield. How you go about getting through it

Here my take on bitches. If they are a bitch they can find someone else to be a bitch with. I really can't be arsed with people like that.

I know some genuinely nice girls who can put on a bitch shield when out in clubs. They do it without realising. It's a necessary strategy for a pretty girl otherwise they'd have weird guys following them around all night.

I find a lighthearted playful neg tells them you're not going to be messed with. Remain unaffected by their attempted 'shoot-down'. This instantly shows confidence that 99% of men don't portray.

This too.

girls put up bitch shields for 3 main reasons:

1. They do not want a a guy hovering around them all night like a mosquito, just because they were nice to enough to politely have a conversation with them. They dont want someone hanging around when they are trying to talk with their friends.

2. She is simply having a bad day, we all get in bad moods and is just in a pissy mood.

3. She is using this as a test to find the real alpha males.




Now its easy to say i cant be bothered talkin to girls who seem bitchy, but your missing out on alot of girls if u do this. Also what if u have your eye on a girl and you go to approach the group and the the alpha female is bitchy, i guess then u just have to tell her to fuk off and miss the chance of getting that girl u had your eye on.

Not only this but if you get angry when a girl asks bitch, yea it can feel DAMN good to tell her to go fuck herself, but this is a temporary feeling..

Your state may go down and your can be put in a bit of a mood urself, why let her do that..?


Instead when a girl gives you attitude, validate her..

example

guy walks up to 5 hot girls at a table


guy: hey quick female opinion guys
bitch girl: (holds up hand, in a dismissive way) um we're not giving you any opinion unless you buy us all drinks first..(smiles at her friends)

wat would your reply be?

a) how about u got fuk urself

b) i dont buy drinks unless i know people first

c) um ok sure

a=fail and ur now in a bad mood
c=epic fail

b) good chance she may just dismiss you, " well then ur not gettin our opinion"


Now wat do you do i hear you ask?

Guy: (look her in the eyes and smile ) im not buying ur friends a drink..


girl is about to say something


guy: im gona buy you a drink.. because your the only girl who had the balls to ask me that, i like girls who are outspoken like that..theres too many nice, quiet girls around here..

guy:but u know what you gona drink somethin that i choose, not that pink cocktail uve got there but a real drink.. (take her to the bar or have a waiter come to u or watever)

The key is to not get emotional or angry, to actually validate what she says and turn it into a positive, somethin you like, giving you the value...


also if you approach a girl and you ask her opinion for example need some advice, what type of shoes should i buy my friend? if u sense any type of agressiveness in her facial expressions or tone of voice, interupt her is she tries to say anything, with "now think about i want something original here"

if she asks why or why are u asking me? then reply with something like " well you look like the type of girl that has good taste" you arent saying this in a needy way, you are validating her and giving her postive validation, you have higher value..


I hope this helps to deal with those bitchs shields out there, but remember its called a bitch shield not a bitch core for a reason, its a shield she puts up and tbh with you i would prob do the same thing if i was in her shoes..

peace

What that man above me just said ^^

ok just an example, but if i try an opinion opener and get told where to go by one girl, i normally say something like "its ok, i was more interested in your friends opinion anyway". if you dont say it in a nasty way, just as a sort of fact, its a quality neg. you can normally back it up with a reason, like if it was a fasion opinion i was after id say "its ok, i was after her opinion really she looks like the stylish one of the group" secretly, all girls love to be told they are better than thier mates they r all in competition with each other

yeah to be fair... im with kowalski on this... if she is a bitch... i cant be assed tryin to win her over like she deserves it.

as far as im concerned she is my equal or im better than her THERE IS NO OTHER WAY

tbh i would basically feel the same way and if a girl was a bitch i would prob just tell her to fuk herself, but its still handy to know how to deal with it imo, theres been plenty of instances were the girl turns out to be lovely but just is conditioned to putting up a shield as she may have been hasseled one too mnay times.