Hey guys,

Wanted some opinions on getting back with ex girfriends who brush you off and how to play it, and if anyone has ever managed to do it successfully - if so how? Or even if its worth trying and just moving on to a new girl?

Background:

Met a real tasty girl a few mths back, started seeing her, had sex etc and she started telling me she was really into me etc. TBH honest I was into her also. Anyways one night she just ended it out of the blue, saying it didn't feel right. I then started calling/texting her etc like a true gimp (cold replys from her).... so have given up the chase as its clear she has moved on. Yes I know I had one-itis, scarcity mentality etc but when you like a girl not always easy to be clear headed...

I analysed my game and realised the one part of my game I really need to work on is building comfort/connection. I must confess to getting lazy effort-wise once Ive boned a bird a few times. We started getting into a boring routine of watching dvds and other non-interactive stuff. So this could have been a cause. Was a bit down about it but want to try and learn from it.

I'm actually in contact with other girls now and am ok with the fact its over (I know it might not sound like it!) but the experience made me wonder if anyone else had an experience with an ex-gf they liked that ended but was able to turn it round, as from my experience its really hard/impossible to re-hook up with a girl once she ends it?

Any comments would be appreciated..

Peace

I can completely empathise with you. I was with a girl (I had liked her for months before we starting going out) for a few months, there was some confusion and we split. I only found out after it was too late but she liked me more than I realised when we ended it. I was stubborn and felt hurt so I didnt bother trying to rekindle it. We ended it this time last year and for various reasons (I have had a lot of fairly serious family stuff going on in the last year) I only managed to get over her recently.

Look at the way you have acted since you broke up, would you want to get back with a girl who was doing that to you. Analyse the situation and make a decision whether it is irreparable, or if it is worth putting the effort in, or if you honestly want to. Your the only person who can make the decision but my advice would be to move on. She may be the best you have had so far, but never tell yourself that's the best you can get. The only ceiling on the quality of girls you can get is what you set it as.

I know this didn't really answer some of your questions but you should definitely take it into consideration. I know how much of a crappy feeling it is (and I still think about the girl occasionally) but instead of obsessing over her, treat it as a learning experience.

Boz

Bozman - yeah I def give her to much credit. I think I was more obsessed with trying to prove to myself I could hold on to a fit bird for my own validation than I was in actually being with her... when I was on fb the other day it dawned on me how many other really fit birds there are, helped me get some perspective...