That's your problem. There's no point throwing yourself in the deep end of a pool if you haven't the faintest idea how to swim.

If you've been told how to swim and have a rough idea then jumping in at the deep end might be just what you need but if you can't even stay afloat properly then all your gonna do is plummet.

My advice - learn how to float. i.e. learn how to talk properly before trying to pick up, trying to pick up without learning how to talk properly is a disillusioned approach.

yes i know Barney

You are giving him excuses not to take action here.

If the guy has a problem, then he needs to face it head on. Who cares if he sinks 'in set'. It's about character building. I fuck it up all the time with girls, and am still shit at 'picking them up', but I view each blunder as a learning experience.

Go forth!

I meant there's no point going out with the sole intention to pick up (which seems to be the centre of his mindset) if he already cannot talk to girls well. Doing that when starting will just reinforce a cycle of failure until 1 hooks out of sheer numbers.

Nova, you've got a good mindset so to see the positives. I just doubt he'd see positives, just failure. Thats why I suggested smaller steps.

For sure. Being bad/shy with women tends to be a wider problem, being bad/shy with people. It all needs to be tackled. The sooner, the better.

It has to be your truth for it to make it as your signature.

Congruent to the way you are and how you act. True to you.

I know the feeling, but let's start from the beginning.

I think this has been mentioned before, but you need to be comfortable speaking to others before you can even think about running down the street after someone.

Before I even heard about day game, I spent years speaking to random people on trains, so the idea of speaking to someone I don't know seems perfectly natural.

1) Open your mouth, say "Hello".

Say it to the bus driver, say it to the old lady in the supermarket, say it to the couple at the train station, etc.

Get used to the idea that people won't go bat shit crazy when you try and speak to them.

2) Open your mouth, say "Hello" and then start a conversation.

Ask them about their day, ask them why they are where they are. Give them a compliment, should you have one. Make them feel awesome.

3) Stop moving people.

Do all of the above, but with people who are walking.

4) Stop moving people in built up areas.

See above.

5) Stop moving people in built up areas, moving fast.

See above.

In truth, I'm only at step 3. I can stop a moving person, but my brain dies when I see a shit ton of people. However, I've got to be able to stop people in sparsely populated areas before I take on heavily built up areas, because I need the confidence to know I can stop someone to begin with.

Mr Natural

Don't put too much emphasis on "picking up"be yourself.
i would like to tell you what always works well for me, if anything its just a confidence booster, it makes you feel great and her too;

if i see a girl who i think is cute i will go over to her and simply say wow you look great, I love you hair. or maybe i will say i wow i love your boots they really compliment your outfit.

Then i walk away. She smiles and feels good that someone has paid attention to her and complimented her and i feel great for doing it. if you do the same to 10 women, each time you might think of something else to add on to the conversation.
The point is though... Dont expect anything to come of it. its just a compliment. its a confidence booster for you.
when you have done it enough times then approaching women will not be awkward.