Stop being a douche, man.

Get out of your head and stop analysing future things.

Had 3 dates at the new crazy golf park in my town. Its my go-to place. £3 for 2 people. Less than a coffee date!

haha she just gave me it but your right out with an old friend going for a drink so goinf to socialise abit take my mind off it
cheers lads

Hey XSpacedX,

From reading your posts on here i get the feeling your pretty nervous/worried etc about this. As Barney says, stop over analysing & as Kowalski says its not rocket science. The black & white thing here is your meeting a girl for a social interaction; thats it - when you boil it down thats really all it is. And who cares about facebook, forget about it? I have 472 "friends" on fb yet your probably lucky if I talk to more than 10 of them on a semi regular basis. Who cares?

Your going out to meet a girl, you should be excited and looking forward to it! Not over analysing or worrying about x, y & z, nor worrying about trying to "win her over". She's not the hottest girl you've ever dated; she's just an attractive girl,a normal human being. Your not going to try & win her over - your going to meet her to learn more about her as a person & likewise give her the opportunity to do the same.

I'm the worst guy on this forum when it comes to woman & any incorrect advice I give will be pulled up by the more experienced posters. But just go & enjoy yourself! Mini crazy golf sounds ace. Depending how it goes, you can teach her how to swing the club properly, or help her correct her stance which gives you a good excuse to get close for some physical contact. You can knock her balls away at times for a laugh if she is beating you. Try and look her in the face with some eye contact at times, smile & listen to her when she talks - take an interest in things she tells you.

This is admittedly slightly bad advice when it comes to scoring with a woman, but maybe just concentrate on being friendly as opposed to worrying about if your going to score, if an opportunity comes to get close to her and kiss her or whatever, just keep that eye contact and glance at her lips every once and a while. If she seems happy & relaxed, just go for it.

Don't make the same mistake I did with a girl I took out a while back - I spent too much time tryign too hard to impress her, and worrying about if she liked me, was she having a nice time, did she realise I liked her etc etc. By doing so I completely missed the point of the night which was to have a good time and enjoy myself.

So smile, chill out, go meet her & play golf and let us know how it goes.

What the fuck?????

How do u need to 'win her over' its like your starting from a negative place....

u win someone over when u have upset them!

that is clearly your problem. You see women as someone you need to get to like you... FUck em... be u & if they like you then fine..

u are better than her to begin with.

look at it like this.

"you are currently seeing if she is good enough for u to want to see her again"

1. what if she turns out to be boring as shit. so much that u can't be assed sitting with her?

2. What if her fanny smells like a sewer?

3. What about if she is so bad in bed u would rather wank?

4. What about if she is so thick that u can't have a normal convo?

5. What about if when u are kissing she kisses like a fish and makes u feel ill??? or her breath smells like shit?


all of these things pal, u are looking at it like "u are fit, that makes u better"

ITS FUCKING STUPID!!

the question is....

ARE YOU GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME BEYOND LOOKING GOOD!


have that mindset... and do that for urself.