Hey guys, - am really new to all this so am just looking for some pointers to try & develop my own material. I have trawled forums & other places for some cool openers etc. & a lot of them are quite good, but a lot of the story material seems quite far removed from me, so I was going to use a few of them as boiler plates to develop my own ones, which will be easier to tell for me as they're true (if a bit embellished at times) and they'll be easier for me to remember / improv if necessary. This seems more real to me than just memorizing a bunch of stuff & repeating it verbatim over & over like a social robot
The possibly negative point to this is that I've really had some hurdles in my life & just by running through the stories here quickly I was hoping if you could steer as to whether these would be viewed as DHV or DLV, as I think in some ways they could be both, but as they talk about 'bad' stuff which I suppose happened to me they might do more damage than good ( the possible DHV element could come out of my triumphs through adversity)
OK.
#1 (& part of the main reason for my struggle for validation from people):
I'm disabled.
Not in a wheelchair, but I do have a limp & only partial use of my left hand. This occurred after an injury at school, it doesn't hamper me in any way really (for example I'm just about to embark on a RTW trip) but i'm not sure if talking about a childhood accident might make me seem like a whiner, when I'm just trying to make conversation & talk about stuff.
The up-side of this story was once when I started a new job, at a night out, I was explaining what had happened to me, including the accident / injury / hospitalization etc, in the same fashion that I'd told a thousand times before, however as I looked up towards the end of the story, I noticed that all 6 of my work colleages ( guys & girls) were
completely captivated by my story & were hanging on my every word (which made me feel good) - but conversely I've also told the same story & been told "
Wow, you know how to bring down the mood huh?!" - so I'm just wondering what views are, - should I find a way to tell it that has DHV spikes (if that's possible) - or avoid entirely? - at least IMO addressing it clears away any questions that the target might have about my limp etc. and should hopefuilly create a situation of ease(?)
#2 my childhood/adolescence Best friend killed himself when we were both 22!
(I'm not sure how I'd put a +EV spin on this one) - it might be more of a wait until we're opening up to each other - and only if the situation is right - type story.
#3 My wife left me for another woman(!).
- Not the cheeriest of topics either, but it does leave itself open to some humorous 'Ross from Friends' type analogies, which could be a stepping stone to other topics, - and as I understand these 'chains' can be vital in connecting together several pieces of material.
So yeah, - thoughts & views welcomed, please don't pull your punches, I'm a big boy & am happy reshape my ideas if your suggestions are good.
cheers,
- Andy