Being in a relationship but wanting MORE!

[CHERISH]

No not kids or marriage!.. But the player lifestyle!

Somone once said you can't be half a gangster, that rings so true!

I have been in 2 serious LTRs and I'm in the 2nd now and this GF is great, caring and does a lot for me. We've been together nearly 2 years and in both relationships I've had amazing experiences. I expected to stay single and keep doing my thing.

My problem in my life and relationship is I feel I've reached a plateau and I'm not truly excited about anything anymore - I'm no longer arsed about anything. The fantasy and reality of hot girls is what makes me happy, having a challenge and fun.

My first GF I was cheated on, 2nd GF I can trust and is at heart really caring. She knows I admire this player lifestyle but I've never really truly practiced the right way when it comes to cold approach. I was more social circle mess about and I did go out with you Manchester lot once which was great and so different.

Now with my current GF... I want her in my life but I want to be able to go out clear headed and without feeling guilty or like I can't talk to or pull hot girls. She's said herself its like I want her but I wanna be single. I've never had a threesome or two hotties sucking my cock but I'd like that!

I moved in to an apartment with her its been nearly 6 months now and the question now is do I live with her elsewhere or go back to my mums?

I've had some of the best sex and get on with her great but I've also had some major low points messed up sleep, losing a good job and friends (I dunno if relationship alone has caused me to lose them, seems to be the case).

Its so tough I feel like my real life and my mind are going in two opposite directions and I'm stuck.

Anyone been in similar situation, any advice?

[D!ce]

Man I've been in the same situation and to be honest I'm only just getting past it, and I've done exactly as K mentioned, you've gotta be single its gonna fucking suck ass breaking up but your living life away from how you truly want it, your only going to get one chance to do it right its better to spend time figuring yourself out and having an absolute fucking hell of a time doing it than settling for what you think you want in the end game.

Life's about the journey bud don't settle for the end game, its how you get there that defines the type of person you are when you actually get there.

[D!ce]

Just reading that back I realise how cliché it sounds haha, sorry about that

[Phil]

Originally Posted by CHERISH

No not kids or marriage!.. But the player lifestyle!

Somone once said you can't be half a gangster, that rings so true!

I have been in 2 serious LTRs and I'm in the 2nd now and this GF is great, caring and does a lot for me. We've been together nearly 2 years and in both relationships I've had amazing experiences. I expected to stay single and keep doing my thing.

My problem in my life and relationship is I feel I've reached a plateau and I'm not truly excited about anything anymore - I'm no longer arsed about anything. The fantasy and reality of hot girls is what makes me happy, having a challenge and fun.

My first GF I was cheated on, 2nd GF I can trust and is at heart really caring. She knows I admire this player lifestyle but I've never really truly practiced the right way when it comes to cold approach. I was more social circle mess about and I did go out with you Manchester lot once which was great and so different.

Now with my current GF... I want her in my life but I want to be able to go out clear headed and without feeling guilty or like I can't talk to or pull hot girls. She's said herself its like I want her but I wanna be single. I've never had a threesome or two hotties sucking my cock but I'd like that!

I moved in to an apartment with her its been nearly 6 months now and the question now is do I live with her elsewhere or go back to my mums?

I've had some of the best sex and get on with her great but I've also had some major low points messed up sleep, losing a good job and friends (I dunno if relationship alone has caused me to lose them, seems to be the case).

Its so tough I feel like my real life and my mind are going in two opposite directions and I'm stuck.

Anyone been in similar situation, any advice?

GO be single

u will regret going single at some point when u realise it has no substance.... but so what, u will enjoy it for a good while.

this relationship clearly isnt 4 u.

its a cycle you do... over and over. ive done it.

end it asap.

[Phil]

Originally Posted by Jaz

This is is one thing that pisses me off about allot of men

You Tell It Girl.!!!!

[CHERISH]

I know guys, I didn't plan or want to get in a relationship myself but I ended up doing so out of fear in a single moment of doing so. Writing this down and having feedback has helped me gain more perspective.

How do you guys deal with girls who wanna see you all the time, do you just have to actively limit the days and time you spend with them?

I have an ex where we avoid each other and act like strangers, with this one she's more loving and caring but cant seem to imagine completely cutting her out of my life. What about keep seeing casual or is that just unfair?

Cheers

[D!ce]

Totally unfair, you have to remember that breaking up with her (whilst still the right thing to do) is going to really hurt her, keeping things going 'casually' is either going to give her hope that your getting back together so you end up with a relationship in limbo or just completely fuck with your head. Trust me on that one I'm going through it now.

Best thing I can say, is to completely break off contact for a while, you can become friends again in a few months, or after enough time has passed for you both to move on and figure things out. I still have casual sex with one of my exes of about 4 years, and she lives back in my home town so I only see her every few months, pretty sweet deal actually.

[SmileyK]

OP - I agree with Dice, can't have your cake and eat it. Turning your current girlfriend (whom you live with) into a casual affair may or may not work. My money would be on it not working. I think she would respect you more, even if she was angry and upset at first, if you were honest about ending the relationship i.e. you can't be fully committed to it