Hey guys ! first question, here i go....Was just browsing facebook, like you do when your bored, and came accross couple girls, added them, so far one has accepte me. Now she is easily a 9 from looks. Now i want to speak to her, and meet her, now the thing is, im not too good at getting girls to meet me? I have a little chat with them and that then ye they just end up ditching me basicly, and i make connections and excuses (a reason to meet), this even happens with some girls that iv known for a long time and have been mates with from school...so i dont want these two to go that bad way, because they are the one in 100 type of quality...if you understand what i mean? the good point is one of my girl mates knows her and im quite good mates with this girl, how ever one of her good mates ho is also a girl pure likes and always trys to get with me etc doesnt lik it becaus ei wont and calls me a cunt and everything lol...but ye, any tips guys?

There are several things you need to change in terms of your mindset:

1) "I make excuses/reasons to meet [the girl]"

Why make excuses? Tell her straight up, "I think you're cool, I want to hang out with you and get to know you better". She can either say yes or no. If you're not bothered either way she's more likely to say yes, and even if she doesn't, she's no loss. This brings me neatly on to my next point.

2) "They are the one in 100 type of quality"

No they're not. An important thing to learn in this process is that no woman is "special" or "truly unique" or "one in a million". Au contraire - go into town on any given night and you will see anywhere from 10 to 100 girls of real 9/10 calibre.

Anyway, it's good that you're asking for advice. Your journey starts here my friend!

I'd say to make sure you get this chick's number before you try to arrange a meet. Let's be honest, meeting some random guy who she met on the internet is not going to sit well with her, so get her number and have some text banter back and forth (see the numerous threads on text game) and maybe even ring her. The best way to do this is to say, as part of a normal text "I'll give you a ring later, we can arrange something" and then ring her.

Just remember to play it cool and don't get heavily invested in this chick. She's just one girl and you'll do yourself no favours by being outcome-dependent. After all, you're the coolest mother biatch on the planet - she should be fishing for your approval. Other than that, be strong and decisive and try to avoid the typical "how are you, how was work" boring chit-chat. If she starts on that, a good thing I like to do is cut across and say "you don't really want to know that, let's talk about something good. If you could go on holiday anywhere in the world, where would it be?"

And as for the Mother Hen bitch, just ignore her. She's just jealous that you're giving her hot friend attention and not her. It can play to your advantage - use it to get your girl jealous. There's no harm with a little healthy competition, and it's nice to have a choice. And if you're really not into this friend (ie if she's fat and/or ugly) just tell her straight up. Don't make any apologies - you can't help if you don't like her. She should just accept it and move on the same way you would.

thanks guys, ummm the 'one in one hundered thing'....thats nothing about me puttin them on a pedistal or anything, im being serious Swindon is SHITE for good quality females...it really is. on a night out in town i got to most of the clubs and only see about 3 9's on average somtimes even less....even in the day time round the town center, theres not alot. Ye iv already told the girl that i dont like her, and thats why shes gone to calling me cunt ect and just not talking to me no more, i mension this because she will probly be bad mouthing me ? and wouldnt the girl im interested think im not going near him because my mate likes him? or dont girls think like that? i know you tryed to answer my questions, but any thoughts on why girls keep stitching me...even the ones iv known for years? do you think they just playing hard to get or somthing? i dont know

im liking the face book thing aha

Hey mate,

Just to answer some of your questions;

- The girl you're not interested in may or may not be bad mouthing you to the girl you're interested in, in any case if what you think she maybe saying to this girl is untrue why should you care?

- No, not all girls think like that. I've had 'best friends' fall out over me in the past because they both liked me, womens relationships with each other can be quite fickle.

- No idea why they keep 'stitching you' only you can really look into answering that. I don't think anyone here's actually met you yet so we can't make any suggestions based on your persona.

- Yeah quite alot of girls like to play hard to get, but after a while you'll soon discover the difference between when a girl is playing hard to get and when she's really not interested.

Best advice I can give you is, not too put all your eggs in one basket here by putting all your efforts into this one girl. To be honest I'm sick to death of these 'There's this one girl....' stories. There are plenty of fish in the sea, cast your net far and wide my friend!

You do not get good with women by 'conquering' the one you've been after for so long but by being able to establish connections with a variety of women on various levels.

Finally just to add to something Blanca said, when you get a girls number, don't maybe call her, do call her. Like he said, text back and forth for abit if need be then drop in, 'i'll call you tomorrow'. I learnt this from Nova and it works pretty well. If you call girls and speak to them over the phone before you meet up for a date they sort of feel like they know you already and will put more trust in you and therefore feel more comfortable meeting up with you.

Thanks for that buddy ! I think i need to get out there and just get some experiance because i havnt done any proper sarging or anything, I am starting to gradualy do it, but not full on go out just to meet girls, i do it when i get like the easiest chance and even then i dont go all the way to a convosation and gettin the number, iv only ever done that 3 times. So ye i have ALOT to learn, and im VERY keen to learn ! so thankyou guys, and when i get some money ill be wanting to meet up with some of you for some sarging if thats alright? (: all of the girls i have ever gotten with have been through my social circle, and that is very limeted i want to be a girl pully machine aha ....

Yeah i remember that group Kowalski, legendary!
My tip man, is BE CAREFUL! She may look good in a photo but that's no guarantee she will look the same in real life.
Obviously, if you have met her before and you know she's hot, and you wish to persue her, I would say exchange phone numbers and communicate that way, rather than through facebook. You will built rapport with her much faster in a phone call than through text/emails etc, making her more likely to give you a positive response to asking her to meet up with you.
You don't have to plan out what you are going to say in the conversation, as long as you have a vague idea of a few conversation topics and aren't just going to breathe down the phone like some crazy stalker!
You'll find that when on the phone with a women, you'll get to a point when you hardly say anything because she won't shut up anyway. This is a good sign!

Ritz

yes have a look at picards example of a girl online she turned out huge lol

LOL, nahhh iv seen this girl about, she is a very out going person...she gets into the dj booth and everything, she just one of those very high status everyone wants girls, i still havnt said nothing to her and she accepted my friend reqwest last week, i dont know where to start :\

You could try an opener like: Who are you? You know why you suck? (careful with that second one).