ye but you know when the interaction is over, and i always kinda made sure i didnt drag it on.

but if your mid interaction or just new to textin someone, u instinctively know whether they are biting or not. if not, just let it go & save your dignity.

(altho my last GF i even called her mum and said "u best make sure she phones me")

got a call a few weeks later... that however is rare.

most of the time, they are already in somethin with a lad they may like.

timing is everythin.

Yeah, I probably am to be honest. I played texting pretty cool, I didn't ask interview questions and I structured texts such that I came across high value (I hope). I really should have called her, but the problem is we didn't get too much into 'comfort' in the club, so straight away calling would seem too intrusive (at least to my perceptions).

Yeah Phil, I definitely didn't text for the sake of it and she was definitely attracted. I'm kind of thinking your last point may be relevant in this case..probably got another offer on the table which is furthers along than ours was. Shame as I've never had a failed day2, building attraction and comfort in a date setting is infinitely more natural to me than in a club.

I'm going to try the double flake bluff method tomorrow 'hey sorry I haven't been in touch, had a crazy busy weekend'..haha, got to love some of this PUA material, totally counter intuitive, but subcommunicates positive things by the bucket load

When you say you feel you would be intrusive, are you saying that you don't feel worthy of disturbing her?

I meet girls I barely know all the time, I ring them, sometimes I only know a couple of things about them. But hey, you get to know people through conversing.

No. weren't you the last to text her?

Just find another girl dude.

No.1 - Please just now forget about her. I'd never send multiple texts unless it's after a few weeks and I'm just trying my luck (and only on a girl worth chasing).

No.2 - Like Nova suggested, I'd get into the mindset of calling them. Not to start off with, but while the texting is still hot - maybe drop off for a day or two and call her out the blue. Just for a chat, finish with 'I'll take you out soon' or something. Don't arrange it then tho. Just chat to her for a bit, bitches love chatting. If she doesn't pick up, follow the call with a text just saying 'hey gis a call back when you've got a mo, I have an idea...' - get's her intrigued and also if you're this way inclined, won't leave you hoping she didn't think your call was needy of whatever (basically it helps stop yourself going inside your own head).

No.3 - There are 1000 reasons she's not into you anymore. Most likely nothing to do with you. The most likely ones are she is either still attached to another guy (or becoming more attached to a guy whose got a bigger dick than you - cos that's all that matters) or she genuinely just has a lot of work on/is really busy at that time in her life.

Believe it or not, some girls seriously don't care if they're not with a guy for months - they might be protecting themselves from getting hurt.

No.4 - Eurgh. Stop with the 'methods' n shit. Move on. She'll get back to you as soon as you stop caring. Heard Carly Rae Jepsen's song?...

"...and all the other boys,
Try to chase me,
But here's my number...

...You took your time with the call (ignore this bit, you an't no player)
I took no time with the fall
You gave me nothing at all,
But still, you're in my way"

...boom, bitch get's it. And she's a girl.

Yeah move on

Just arranged 2 dates. Example of good flow of txts...

Girl 1

...

Me
1/29/2013 7:32:17 AM
we'd never get along...we'd be like mr and mrs smith where we start off beating each other up and end up on the floor making out.

Her
1/29/2013 7:40:31 AM
Haha! That's pretty funny, but luckily, I'm a nandos fan..so no fighting for me lol

Me
1/29/2013 7:41:25 AM
high five

Her
1/29/2013 7:42:43 AM


Me
1/29/2013 7:47:05 AM
quite the conversationist. are you one of those that always have to have the guy make the effort? i'm gonna give u a second to think of something interesting...i'll be waiting

Her1/29/2013 7:48:15 AM
No not at all..I can chat for England, just don't want to bore you haha..so you work for an engineering place, but it's just a job? So does that mean not a career I take it?

Her1/29/2013 7:48:33 AM
As much as that wasnt interesting at all :-/

Me
1/29/2013 6:22:59 PM
Well, you are either: the coolest girl I've ever met OR a total weirdo, so tell me 3 interesting things about you...

Her
1/29/2013 7:03:00 PM
Well it's obviously the first option..
1. I've been on the news eating bubblegum flavoured peas..
2. I've raced hotrods
3. I'm shit hot in bed!!

Me 1/29/2013 7:21:31 PM
1. wuh ??
2. thats quite cool i guess
3. the proof is in the pudding

so the question is, when are you seeing me ? x

Her 1/29/2013 7:29:47 PM
Yep, was experimented on at primary, for "adventurous foods" :-/
Well the question back is, when would you like to see me? Lol x

Me 1/29/2013 7:34:08 PM
Mega busy this week. but i spose my weekend seems to change alot these days. hows yours looking? maybe sunday?

Her 1/29/2013 7:36:52 PM
Well I think this weekend has got to be my quietest in a long while, but Sundays good

Me 1/29/2013 7:48:20 PM
Cool, just 1 drink and a game of pool incase you're the weirdo

Her 1/29/2013 7:51:11 PM
Haha, sounds good, but glad pool, coz then I can use the que to attack if you're the weirdo..haha x

Girl 2

...

me 1/29/2013 6:22:34 PM
Well, you are either: the coolest girl I've ever met OR a total weirdo, so tell me 3 interesting things about you...

her 1/29/2013 7:06:07 PM
Definitely the first!
Well I could but maybe I actually am a spy and so
would have to kill you
Ok interesting things about me..
Im damn good at the downward dog and warrior pose in yoga
Im an adrenaline junkie.. Trying to convince my friend to come shark cage diving (ok this could make me seem more of your second judgment)
And Im easily bored..
Your three?

me 1/29/2013 7:28:39 PM
Some cool, some weired....Part of me wants to stay here with you, but another part wants to run away!

her 1/29/2013 7:36:31 PM
I'm innocent really...

me 1/29/2013 7:39:28 PM
ha I'm only teasing you. guess your alright )

So the question is, when are you seeing me ?

her 1/29/2013 7:53:37 PM
Well what if your the weird one

me 1/29/2013 7:54:27 PM
1 drink and a game of pool, so i can make my excuses incase you're a weirdo

her 1/29/2013 8:10:38 PM
Ok as long as I also have an easy escape route!

me 1/29/2013 8:11:50 PM
Mega busy this week. but i spose my weekend seems to change alot these days. hows yours looking? maybe sunday?

her 1/29/2013 8:16:40 PM
Mines looking pretty free, soo I should be able to fit in a game of pool on Sunday..

Weren't they just like, the same conversation?

I tend to say and talk about the same things when txting multiple girls. You can say it's lazy, but whatever works and all that bollocks.

This is awesome guys cheers

I'm done with her, you're right, she's probably into some other dude and if she changes her mind at least I haven't been needy or anything.

I really like that '3 things about yourself', I think I may have kept it a little impersonal and as such didn't create any comfort. Ironically, the fact I found her hot probably hampered my game by me overthinking everything and trying to play it cool, and instead I just come across as bland and uninterested/ing.