So my girl gets her place at uni in Cardiff I'm in London. Which she never even got the results for but they still want her money and accepted her and now I'm entering a ldr and started acting like a complete pussy.html

The first time I saw her after finding out was at a club which she invited me along to, to celebrate. Then that night I stayed round hers and slayed her like a dragon. Next morning we banged again. Then we did a bit of shopping came back to hers then booked our holiday for just before she goes to Cardiff then for the next 2-3 hours after that I begged her for sex oh it was fucking disgusting I was like a beta blue power ranger. She eventually gave in once we was done I then went home.

I don't even know what has come over me I've gone all soft and started getting upset and shit its horrible. I wanna give this ldr crappie ago but how do I do it without making it look like I'm latching on to her surely ldr just makes you look like a leech and that your only init because you can't get anyone else.

What the hell do I do? And why am I posting this at 6 in the morning like a nocturnal bat.

Give it a go, If you want...

I think I just react weird to certain situations.

i think your obsession with not being beta sounds a little weird man.

also it seems like you're simply not a fan of LDRs... its fine. if you need that physical contact a lot then an LDR is going to be really hard for you to do and will probably end badly. if shes someone special, you wouldn't be posting this in all honesty.

Do you know how retarded that sounds? I mean talk about arresting your own development.

I know, i know I need to chill out and stop worrying. What do you suggest?

You just said it!

Id bin her.

I had the EARTH SHATTERING thing happen to me that K meant.

Never again will i become that needy person, id rather die of aids.

if i started to feel like that, id just end it. coz when it happened to me, the pain has gone, but the sheer shame i felt hasn't, and will never ever leave me! FML i was pathetic & that will never ever happen to me again.

coz im a man. Get rid, and get some self control

Too late.

LDRs are really hard work. They're shitty for several reasons, but ultimately because you go for long periods of time without each other, you get the shit part of infrequent sex and the shit part of relationship problems (which LDRs are peppered with) - it's literally the worst of both worlds.

You think so lowly of yourself, you already see yourself as a 'leech'. You're in a bad place right now. But it's all in your head. You should be the oak tree, she should be the squirrel running around (RSD).

The worst bit is you know all this, you're just too scared of loosing what you have to flip it round. Seriously, you need to strip back what you 'have' and start afresh.

But you won't take any of our advice, you'll just loose her slowly as the distance (and primarily your pathetic attitude) takes it's toll.