'Nothing to lose' attitude.

By telling that girl you wanted to fuck her, whilst looking her dead in the eye, she probably started thinking 'who is this guy?' (in a good way)

I'm no expert but thinking back to the SNLs I've had, it's usually because I wasn't arsed whether it happened or not. BUT I did make my intentions clear in the early part of the conversation.

Hey GLG,

I think it takes some guts to be that direct.
I don't agree that every woman just assumes men want to fuck them; therefore you don't have to make your intentions clear.

I know I need to be more direct and quite frankly I'm a pussy when it comes to that stuff. I like Brad but do think he goes a bit too far with the PUA analysis, but it obviously helped you on the night.

Anyway see you soon dude, was a fun night.

You finally writing this book?

The title of his book is "Stop reading this, stop worrying and start fucking"

Great shout, I've been trying to get this point across to a couple of my mates, it's so true that if you're actively thinking about how things are going to go, or whether or not you're gonna fuck her, then it comes across in your game, and often ruins it.

As old school as it is, Cat-String Theory is so reliable that it's baffling, as long as you're in control of the situation, and know that you have the power to leave at any moment, you pretty much don't need to do anything else. For some reason, aloofness is like curry to a pisshead for most girls

This is still a sexual signal surely?

You do this, I imagine, almost naturally now. It is subconscious for you. By that I mean you just say stuff without thinking about it and it comes across that you are clear it's going to happen. Some guys don't have a clue how to and need to do it consciously before they can act the way you do.

Yes I agree with this. Bird I just left in London initially slept with me for this reason. I was pretty much the only 1 of my mates that didn't try it on with her and I ended up fucking her that evening and many times after. She is one of the hottest birds I've been with and pretty much said the reason she pulled me is the same as what you put above. However, I did obviously make a move at some point. I told her I wanted her to stay in my room and she did. When she was there I kissed her then fucked her. Some guys wouldn't have done this, as they don't know how. Also I think I was exuded confidence the night I met her. I guess this is what I mean by sexual vibe. If I had just been a a-sexual nobody ignoring her, she wouldn’t have even have known I exist.


Some guys do need to add something. There is something invisible. Confidence, charisma, sexual vibe whatever. There is something some guys have that others don’t. I agree with you that looks are obviously important, but pulling is not done a pure aesthetic basis. I’ve met loads of handsome guys who are shit with women and vice versa.

How do guys get this if they don’t already, by chatting to girls, up the flirting seeing where they went wrong etc and get to a point where they don’t have to try i.e. they are consciously attempting to get better with women and a big part of that is making sure they come across as sexual rather than just being a good friend (which seems to be the main problem for a lot of guys who are shit with women). Then when they don't have to try that’s when it will click and they will be better with girls.

Intent plus not giving a f*ck i think is the key here. If you're all focussed on intent you'll be too outcome dependant and all pissy if it doesn't go well. But if you're all, 'i wanna fuck you' and not give a shit if you do or not you'll be alright man. xxx

No. We are men. The strongest most effective 'sexual vibe' we can give off is not giving one off at all. It's the real joker in the pack that most dude's don't even realise they have. Women test and play games. They want you to show your hand, and the second you do you 'lose', you reveal yourself to be what she suspected all along just another 'ordinary boy' trying to get his end away.

The best way to 'appear' as if you have no hidden agendas or expectations is to ACTUALLY NOT have them...

'Nice' guys aren't nice. They are creeps! Most girls know this. If she's still letting him hang around with her it's because she regards him as a 'harmless creep' and welcomes the validation/support his attention gives her.

The only thing worse than a clueless fool that telegraphs his sexual interest at every turn is a passive aggressive 'nice guy' that's obviously hiding his.

Not expecting sex or pushing for it directly and obviously ISN'T the same thing as pretending you aren't interested in the prospect of it happening at all...

I spoke about this already in my last post in this thread, but yeah I get what you guys are saying