Here's some cool shit I found on Vince Kelvin's Website.

Cold reading + Some NLP (Embedded commands)

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When starting to introduce cold reading in your Pickups, after a bit a practice, you'll soon notice that when accurate, it is probably what

causes the strongest responses, and will most rapidly generate intrigue and attraction...


But how do you get to accurately cold read a woman? What do you cold read? And how do you include mini-patterns into your cold read???


Here is the Secret System I created and have been using!


1. WHAT READ IS THE RESPONSES SHE/THEY HAVE TO WHAT YOU FIRST SAID OR DID. FOR THAT, OBSERVE AS YOU TALK AND INTERACT!


2. IT HELPS TO CATEGORIZE WHAT YOU NOTICE SO YOU CAN MORE EASILY IDENTIFY AND ANALYZE IT!


The categories I personally came up with and go by...


a. IMMEDIATE RESPONSE:


- Anything you suggest or say and she responds right away, sometimes even before you completed the sentence. For example, you comment on a bracelet, and she extends her hand

to show you. You extend your hand to shake hers, she goes for it right away.


b. CONTRADICTORY RESPONSE:


- She goes for the opposite of what you suggest. She doesn't participate, you lean in for a hug, she leans away, you say something, she disagrees.


d. COMPLIANT RESPONSE:


- She simply follows along, without either holding back or being overly eager to respond.


c. HESITANT RESPONSE:


- She is a bit hesitant, her body language is uncertain, she isn't comfortable.



3. CREATE A MINI-PATTERN THAT SERVES SEDUCTION FOR EACH OF THE ABOVE CATEGORIES!


Starting your cold reading with:


"IT'S INTERESTING THE WAY YOU DO X (answer, talk, move, shake hand, etc.) BECAUSE IT REVEALS SOMETHING ABOUT YOU, YOU'RE PROBABLY NOT EVEN AWARE OF..."


If her response to you saying that is...


IMMEDIATE (for example "tell me, tell me...)


- I sense you're a person that when there is something that YOU WANT...ME, I can tell, YOU'RE GOING TO GO FOR THIS (SP) WITH ALL YOU HAVE...


CONTRADICTORY (for example "that's not true...")


- I sense you're a person who sometimes will say or do the opposite of what you're being told...


THIS SENTENCE IS GOLD AND IT IS YOUR SUCCESS "WARRANTY", BECAUSE, NOT ONLY YOU CAN RELY ON IT ANYTIME A WOMAN DISAGREES WITH YOUR COLD READING, IT'S ALSO A WIN NO MATTER WHAT...


She agrees, you're right, she disagrees that she disagrees, you playfully say "see, that's too adorable, there you just did it..." (laugh with her, not at her).


COMPLIANT (For example "Yea that's so true...")


- I sense you're a person you kind of just flow with life, and you SIMPLY LET IT TAKE YOU WHERE YOU WANT IT TO GO (discreet point between your legs)...WITH ME...I find that to be an interesting quality...


HESITANT (For example "I am not sure about that...")


- I sense you're a person, at times in new situations you may not RIGHT AWAY BE MORE COMFORTABLE...WITH ME, I can also sense that...when YOU CAN TELL THIS IS OK, you can start to BE MORE AND MORE COMFORTABLE AND OPEN...TO ME, it seems to be what happens when...


EXERCISE:


1. Start to notice those four main generalized types of responses.


2. Familiarize yourself with the mini-patterns.


3. Identify the four categories AS YOU TALK in the field.


4. Be willing to stumble a bit at first and start to Cold read those women you meet.


Advanced recommendation:


I personally have created so many different systems of organizing possible categories of responses (in a non-filtered or non- judgmental manner, to not clutter your perception), so if you feel advanced enough to do that, create and name your own categories, and a brief pattern for each. ACCURACY, SIMPLICITY, AND OPTION TO RECOVER FROM OPPOSITE RESPONSES ARE THE KEY!!!


And for more on Cold reading, allow me to recommend my absolute MUST HAVE "Cold Reading" CDs, check them out!


Vince

I'm back. A few things I've realised. A lot of the appraoches I've been doing- were girls I wasn't even that attracted to, some not at all. For a beginner, I can see that this might be good practice, but I think I am past the point of approaching just for the sake of approaching.

More to the point, sometimes I would number close just to feed my ego. Which I am stopping as of now! Example- I was out for a friends birthday last friday, I had said to myself that I was just going to have a good time and not worry about gaming.

We were a big group- all guys. Very chody. We were dancing and genuinely having fun- real fun. I wasn't giving a second thought to girls.

I wasn't drinking either, as I have now stopped. I was just having fun in the moment. I found after a few weeks at uni with no money that I can now go out sober and manufacture the state/feeling that I used to have when I was a happy drunk. Haha.

There was a two set dancing behind us- HB4 & HB7. They kept giving off IOI's while we were all dancing. I opened them and got them involved. We were all dancing like twats so I invited them to join in. (For dance floor game I now only do this- be the source of good emotions i.e. stupid dance offs, or I appraoch directly and take the girls hand and dance with her. It doesn't work all the time. My dance floor game is pretty shit.)

I wasn't even attracted to the HB7 and I number closed and kiss closed her anyway. Literally for the sake of it, to polish my ego. I felt like such a prick afterwards. Think about the mindset I had:

I'm just out having fun with my friends, no girls tonight. Oh wait! There are some girls, they're not even that hot, but I'm a "pick-up artist" (Am I fuck-I'm a chump) haha. I don't like her but I'm going to close her anyway to prove to myself I can do it.

Frankly- thinking about this now, it's all a bit pathetic.

So I've decided (after an inspiring blog post)

There is absolutely no substitute for putting in effort and taking action

that I'm going to approach everything in life with a 1 or 0 attitude. Obviously situations will arise that require more thought but the simple things can be approached with a 1 or 0 attitude.

What does this mean?

1= Yes. You do the approach. You get the number/make- out/lay.

0= No. You didn't.

There is nothing in between. No excuses and no stories justify why you didn't do or achieve something.

I'm a firm believer in posting reports online- for feedback and so everyone can learn. But I don't intend to post anything on here from now on which tells the story of why I didn't close. Because they are just excuses.

As I've already mentioned, a lot of my appraoches have been for the sake of it. And this has stopped! I genuinely have very high standards. So why approach a girl if I don't genuinely want her- there is no point whatsoever. A number close just to prove to myself I can do it? Fuck that.

If she's hot- genuinely hot and I want her. and it's like a switch goes in my head. I approach. If I'm thinking about if she's hot or not- I don't, because the approach is just for the sake of it.

I approached a girl working on the checkout in tesco the other night. Hot! It was really late and I was just grabbing some milk etc.

She called me to the till and I turned it on, literally like a switch. I approached:

Alright rockstar?
...
People that shop late at night are weird
...
More late night shopper banter
...

I put my stuff in the car and went back in.

Hi Rachel. I'm back. I missed you. Rachel, you're interesting- do you have a boyfriend.

Yes she did!

Aww- that's a shame, I bought all this milk just to talk to you...bit more banter than I told her I'd be back to check if she was still with him.

It was a great experience. I kept pausing after everything she said. Instead of trying to relate to it or think of something to say. I literally was just holding eye contact and saying the first thing that came into my head. She kept laughing, but in a hot/nervous kind of way. The sexual tension was great.

I didn't close, in the same way that I didn't close a girl at a BBQ I went to the other day. Fucking hot! She lived like 100 miles away from me or something but hot!

But with both situations I didn't care about the result. I wanted them, of course I did. But I didn't think about it twice when I didn't managed to close them. I didn't get self-conscious and go into my head- thinking of better things I could have said- I just kept having fun and kept being happy.

I've also killed off some of the girls I'm seeing. For a few reasons- things are getting pretty serious with one, and with some of the others- the attraction is fading- and was only physical initially.

Essentially, I don't want a rockstar lifestyle. (Good blog post)

not getting the rockstar lifestyle

I want go for what I want, everytime- without hesitation. And not care about the result- but care about trying. (Check out the blog post by Sinn below)

The Sinns Of Attraction: The Right Mindset