Wheres that? On the forum... I'll check it out later!

Hi, thanks for your advice, some real nuggets in there. I particularly like:

The main side effect of having fun is you'll find the girls will come to you.

chat... honestly, i've been so surprised that open people are! More people have chatted to me than I initially thought.

Dude this resonates with me so much, especially the idea behind talking to people being self-perpetuating. A good way to force yourself to do this is going out alone - it forces you to be in the moment and removes anyone you might use as a "crutch".

I can't wait to get back down to Bristol - I've been stuck at home jobhunting for the past 10 weeks. I reckon I'll be back around the 6th/7th October, I'll hit you and some of the guys up. Need to dust off those cobwebs!

Hi Rich,

Hows things, we need to catch up soon dude, seriously!!!

Just re read that report of when me and u went out, that was a great night!

Cheltenham is awesome dude, looks like bristol is fun as it always was

I havent been on here for ages, but ill be more active again

your last entry was solid man, practice, practice and practice, great advice dude

However, u can go out and only think about and do game and have awesome nights, but i know what u mean

ill have to pop down soon

ill let everyone know when the next BIG SOUTH WEST meet is, it will be a satyrday, in oct sometime

Wow! It's been quite a while since I've written up a field report but I had to tell you guys this one from Saturday night.

So BCB and I were out (we've been slowing down the trips out these days... but we're still very active!).

I've started seeing this girl; great laugh and we've been getting on well. We were all going to the Walkabout Saturday. BCB and I and her and a few off her mates. So, we did our usual thing and basically drank half a bottle of Vodka and rolled on down stairs to Walkabout (yes... it is literally down stairs!)

We burst into the place, get out drinks then hang round the side of the dance floor, chatting, having a few giggles when all of a sudden I get hugged from behind. It was this girl I'm seeing and she brought all her mates along; her best mate inclusive.

I say hello to my girl and she turns to her best friend and introduce us. She's told me lots about her best mate; fun and a bit of a girl. So I'm about to get my banter head on when I make eye-contact with her, I notice she looking at me curiously... I stop in my tracks as she opens her mouth...

Best Mate: I know you!
Me: (Stunned) errrrrhhhh... really?
Best Mate: Yeah! You and me kissed here about 3 months ago...
Me: …

Tumbleweed... + what seemed like a life time later...

Me: (sound of a penny dropping then a slow creeping expression across my face that can be vocalised as 'rumbled!')

I looked at my girl and she was in shock! Her best mate got ever more sheepish! The ship was slowly sinking so there was only one thing left to do:

Me: Haaaaaa! This is so funny! What are the chances of that! Well, to be fair, you weren't the only girl I kissed that night!

I just laughed and fobbed it off. It was nothing! The tension slowly lifted... me and my girl where laughing about it 5 minutes later! She said “Well... it's not like you slept with her!” But secretly I was thinking that even if I did sleep with her, I reckon I could have laughed my way out of it!

If I played it differently and got all embarrassed about it or was apologetic then it would have been a different story! I suppose that's what some PUA would call framing... and Phil would call “Absoltey nt giving a fuk”

One lesson learnt though... if you kiss all the girls... one day she's going to be your girl's best mate! And that's how threesomes happen!! Haha!

I helped out all I could (dancing with and generally distracting the +1 from all awkwardness), but I have to say that from an onlooker it was seriously funny, albeit a little awkward for a while...

Helped that you were there to laugh at with me (even though you were laughing at me!)... otherwise it would have been a lot harder.

Should have grabbed her and kissed her again!

Yeah, both ways. Ah, the power of the wing

Time for an update!

So i've been gaming for about a year. My game has become stronger through approaching set after set. About 9 months ago, I moved into the center of Bristol (with BCB) to get in the mix of it. Moving into the center of any major city is going to help you raise your game; you can't help but be social.

So, BCB has been emotionally tied up in a LTR and seems quite happy (fair play). He'll be moving out in about 2 weeks and I'm going to continue paying the rent on this place because I love the location so much! Off the back of that, I've taking a bit of time to reflect what's been happening socially, where my skills have become stronger and what I still need to work on.

Bristol. I love the place. So much to do and see. I've hardle scratched the surface. When I joined up a year ago, there were quite a few people around; Summer Junky (not sure where he went to), Blanca (moved away! Such a shame dude!), Pav (crazy but cool polish guy who decided that he didn't need wings anymore), Ali (heading up the Cheltvegas branch now!). The only guys that are left are Cefai (who I see here and there – but will be moving faaaaar away soon) and Sweden (who is my main wing these days... but I still wish we could go out more!). There have been too many PUA one-night-stands to even mention... (Noobs! Man up and stick with it!!!)

In all honesty, the scene in Bristol is pretty much dead. Sad. But True.

To the experienced of us here, you'll know that this is a side-effect of an PUA community. People will come and go. Just like gyms; seems like a good idea for about 2 weeks but the noob enthusiasm dies very quickly. Especially round these parts.

I'm seriously considering hauling ass and getting out there on my own but that seems a little drastic. As I'm still relatively fresh to this city, I haven't utilised some of the other social avenues. Meeting people in other groups and start going out with them. Gym, Hobbies, Music, etc. My work is about to move into the heart of Bristol too so that will definitely increase the potential to meet awesome groups of people on a less 'gamey' (sounds gay!) basis.

Bristol being slightly dry of keen players, I have been traveling down to London a lot to Day Game. There seem to be a lot more people who take it seriously and are pretty experienced that are out to game but aren't PUA Nazis (you know the type!). I paid for some Day Game training with Yad after going to the Daygame.com seminar which if I'm honest, blew my mind! (yes, yes... I know your thoughts on paying for training...) It's been so amazingly easy to meet awesome girls just by saying 'Hello!'. Something I would have never had the confidence to do if I didn't do the course.

From there, I managed to get hooked up with a couple of guys (who trained me) that we're amazing at the day approach. They've been tied up with a guy called Beckster (as a guy who doesn't keep up with the who's who of Pick Up – I never heard of him) Though I haven't seen his game directly (yet) the internet seems to big him up as of Legends. So that will be interesting to see how getting mixed up with those guys will pan out.

So skill wise my approach has been more confident. I've realised the importance of social momentum; if you think you'd like to speak to someone, just speak to them. I just the first thing that comes to my head (being natural). Okay, the first few times it feels awkward, but after a while, I stop caring which in turn makes my conversations and lot more fluid and engaging. When I start a night out, I tell myself, I have all the conversation skills I need to get chatting and I have faith that I will do what I need to do to get her number.

As some of you may know, approaching was (still is) a massive hurdle for me. Stopping girls in the day time was probably, my ultimate approach fear! Getting over that, has helped me overcome my AA massively. Find the thing that scares you the most and just fucking do it. That one thing may still be hard for the next 2 to 3 years... but, by god, everything else becomes so much easier when you face up to it (in my case, night time approach is becoming a cinch by comparison).

On the face of it, things are going well! I know the importance of going out and being social, so I manage to get out twice a week at the mo. Once I find my feet a bit more in Bristol, I'm sure that will increase. Still have the London avenue that I'm taking full advantage of. I've got an office down in Victoria that I make frequent visits too. Now the summer is here, I'm sure I'll be out Day Gaming a lot more.

So that's where I'm at right now! Could end up writing a shite load more about the finer details but to be honest, the only detail that matters is I just get out there and just start talking. Fuck the rest.

On a sign off, let me just say 3 things:

Number 1) If you haven't yet, try the stopping a girl in her tracks to say hello in the day time. It's fucking amazing!;
Number 2) The only the thing that matters is conversion. If your goal is to (insert goal here, i.e. shag girls), the amount of openers you know doesn't mean shit, the amount of approaches you do doesn't mean shit, the amount of numbers you get doesn't mean shit, the number of day 2's doesn't mean shit. Stop getting hung up on the ancillary.
Number 3) Ali still has the best cold night approach of anyone I've seen; You rock dude!