Just looked it up on trusty google and seems you're right kowalski, I've been using "off the whim" for ages in this context.

Well that dude from on here was just an embarrassment. Some people can't handle their drinks but christ I don't think he could handle friggen orange juice!

I might ask my mate, see what he says. I think the 'push' to approach is what I need. Either that or start with someone opening and then go from there. I've done hardly anything in clubs so I don't know if it's different to any other approaching or what really.

What is Improv?

So I'm working my way through each day of 'Rules of the Game' as I feel this will help me gain the confidence I need to 'let the self come through', help me develop clear mindsets and improve them. But most of all just relax.

For some reason last night and today I was thinking about props as these can help people carry a certain amount of confidence, depending on the item but also I'm kinda good at just going off on the cuff telling a silly story about why I carry this particular item.
No-matter what people think, I think its worth a shot and if it doesn't work then I'll hold my hands up and acknowledge it. Learn by experience.

So this afternoon I completed my day mission of 'Rules of the Game' and then it hit's me... 1 of the better props would be a simple lighter bought in packs of 10's or something.

But I don't smoke!? Well when someone ask if I have a light (and that question is pritty inevitable) I'd say something like "yeah sure but I need it back, I only carry 1 as part of my new city survival pack" ...
Then if it doesn't catch the person intrigued or laughing or whatever then I'd just leave it but if it does then I'd just do some silly talk about it off the cuff and then just yeahh, see where it goes.

Since I find it hard to convey stuff via just normal talking atm then using a prop and a silly story might help me out a little. That's the idea I'm getting at here, sure something along those lines has been done before and the use of someone elses lighter is always a possible conversation starter.


Clutching at straws a bit maybe.

I think performing different methods of hypnotism would be beneficial when picking up chicks.

Too much work for 1 chick, in my view.

Today was the start of my new supposed IT course, although it was more like answering a few questions that a complete novice could answer. So all in all, the first day course wise was completely shit and I've got 8 more days of this abomination. Thank fuck it’s only 9am -12pm.

However, if I look upon it from a meeting people and socialising point of view then it was a fun and productive morning. In total I talked to 9 new people today, a mixture of males and females and all voluntarily apart from 1; the older Australian born course tutor. Kinda fit, must admit. I talked to some more than others, didn’t ‘game’ as such, I decided to just be myself whilst letting the self come through with things I've been working on such as voice tone and volume and been aware of my environment whilst refraining from analysing and judging. The analysing is quite a big problem for me that I’m trying to correct.

I've noticed 1 girl that has taken a liking to me, she near enough ran to walk with me from the IT suite to the conference room using the excuse “I don't know where to go” when she quite obviously did. Anyhow I'm not really wanting to analyse a bunch of interactions as there really isn't anything concrete to analyse apart from to say I had fun, realised that people don't bite your head off if you talk to them and helps me build on myself and gives me an adrenaline shot of confidence which hopefully I can pocket and use at a later date.

I've noticed I like to talk about myself, stories of how I'm going to the formula 1 race in Monaco etc… it must be boring for someone who isn't interested in it. So I MUST start taking more of an interest in the person/s I’m speaking to, asking them questions and getting them to divulge stories. This could probably be a big flaw.
I also noticed that after the course I was walking around town and I was literally looking at people with the INTENT to open. Before I wouldn’t have the intent, instead I'd just make up shit to make me believe that I'd likely die in the interaction or something. So this is a big and positive step.

I feel better in myself for it too.

The comment about hypnotic techniques was a joke.

Are you sure you're Barney Stinson?

I know it was dude.
My belief mindset it open atm so things people say I'm taking fully into consideration. I feel I'm at a pivotal point here so I'm just trying to keep everything straight in my head.

Today during my breaks and in the IT suite I was talking to people that I only met yesterday now at considerable lengths and having a laugh etc.. I was talking to a Ukrainian girl who recently moved over to the UK to pursue her relationship, which has now got serious. We talked about travelling and different countries etc.. was really good.

A main focus for me is that I'm talking clearer, enjoying myself and everything but I still talk quite fast. I need to slow down! Maybe it's confidence, maybe its just Northerner's; either way it needs to change.

After lesson I was walking through the shopping centre when I saw an absolutely gorgeous looking girl looking at the entrance to the shopping centre that I'd just came from. When I got closer I could tell why many guys weren't interested in her; her clothes weren't of the fashion, she wore some unusual footwear and she seemed like a shy person with her body language totally closed.
But her looks were just amazing, seriously put some latest fashion shiznit on this girl and she could be a model. I was gobsmacked that such a woman existed in Hartlepool; often considered by me and the world to be pritty damn dirty/slutty/hoeish.
She was clearly waiting for someone.

Anyway I walked past her nearly brushing arms with her whilst constantly thinking "talk to her man, talk to her, talk to her... fucking talk to her!!!". But I didn't. And I'm pissed at myself for not approaching.

So I go to the bus stop feeling really shit about this. I look at the bus timetable; 8 minutes till the bus comes, 2 hours till the next 1... Right, attempt 2!

So I go back in the shopping centre, entering the same way and she's still there. Perfect. I walk close to her, she see's me, she's probably thinking deja vu. I'm there, going up with heaps of intent... BOOM I get a phone call that I NEED to answer, damn. I take the phone call.
I noticed she was looking at me, made eye contact a few times for a couple of seconds. Her body language was much more open. She was playing with her hair. All this silly little signs people say girls do when they are interested in a person. I feel like she wanted me to talk to her, she almost handed me a "go-ahead".

Finished the phone call and looked at the time. Shit, 1 minute till the bus comes. I decided in that split second that I'll leave it to go for another day. I was majorly pissed with myself on the bus. Fucking hell I just can't win!
So I made a deal with myself after hearing the fate story either Stylelife or RSD sent out. I said to myself:
If you ever and I mean ever see this girl again you will go up to her, straight up to her and have a conversation with her, it's not hard! Be chilled and relaxed, just have fun and a laugh. See where it goes, maybe nowhere, maybe somewhere.

I am confident I'll see her again at some point within the 2 weeks.
I will also approach others in the meantime.

I think this will be pivotal for me. Once I do this I'd of hit anxiety on the head. It shall be the breakthrough.

Ahh I've been doing great interaction with new people for 2-3 days now, awesome infact.
But with this girl it's the feeling of "the one that got away"...

This is bad thinking. If I see her again I'll approach, if I don't so what, plenty more.

Just an update.

Even though I'm feeling beyond the definition of 'ill' I forced myself out over the weekend since it was sunny and bank holiday.
I got 11 phone numbers over the course of the weekend and 5 skype id's, some gave me both (a bit strange with skype). This was predominantly through the day. I'm trying now to work on ways to develop sexual tension before the number close, I feel like this is a no show through my interactions.

Anyhow, got not so much a problem but rather a slight hindrance when it comes to the shittyness on my local area; there's not many places to go for dates etc..

Apart from the likes of a beer bar or cafe, where else do you personally go on dates? - wanting stay away from cinemas and stuff like that