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Originally Posted by Phil
once people hit 25 they start to grow up
Perhaps, I am 21, I'm trying to sort my shit out now though..
there is a fine line between a MAN who shares a little
and where she gets bored of u wining and starts sayin to her mates
"he is turnin into a little bitch"
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This has resonated with me. I can see it is true. I look at how needy I have been in the past, it makes me cringe. I need to be the MAN and stop whining.
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Originally Posted by Refl3x
this is spot on the money
I learned a slow gradual hard lesson over the past 2 years
Show as little weakness to women as you possibly can
they want a strong man they can rely on, a rock
biggest mistakes i made with women
DO NOT tell girls you have suffered with depression! -- watch the fuckers run!
DO NOT come out with needy shit -- Im lonely, feel a bit down etc etc
i learned those lessons after making those mistakes with a LOT of girls
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Again, like with Phils post, I can see this now. If I feel I want to say all that needy shit, I'm just guna bite my tongue, think to myself "don't fuckin say it!!!!!!!!!" and then think about something more cool
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Originally Posted by al_phaD
Well I would NOT be okay with my girl meeting exs...
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If she preferred shagging him to shagging you she would still be with him and not with you.
Call me immature but I just don't agree with the girl who loves you, WANTING to go and meet her ex for "lunch". I've met a girl who had a boyfriend for "lunch" before and fingered her in the cinema. (back in my days of having no values) Of course I cannot control women or situations or feelings or any variables, but I just find this odd. I don't call my exs up n go for lunch with them. But there are probably many schools of thought on this.
To be fair, 95% of men spend their whole lives feeling just like this. I used to be like this myself. Honesty I was the neediest man-bitch on planet earth when I was young. Not only that but most mens reactions to what happens when relationships go wrong is become even more needy and desperate - to "try harder" to please and suck up to the next one.
At least you know that you have to change so your already ahead of the game compared to most guys. Your obviously getting some flow of decent women even in your current state, so just imagine the uber man-whore you will become when you get this shit sorted, use that as inspiration, TBH I'm already jealous of the endless procession of fanny you will one day enjoy  |
Hmm.. thanks, thats an interesting perspective on it.. I do need to stop being a man-bitch NOW
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Originally Posted by Phil
yes, infact its all this sharing that ruins relationships.
u dont need to know
it just causes jealousy, anger, resentment & more insecurities.
Just dont ask, and enjoy whatever u have in the moment & what u do together.
what she does away from u shouldnt concern u, its her life.
relationships should be about telling if you want to, never prying. & just bein there for eachother wen nessry. and havin fun!
not talkin about ur feelings, draggin eachother down, asking if you still like me, do you love me, who was your first, do u love me most of everyone u loved, how many u fucked, am i the best, please dnt leave me...
lets talk more about negative stuff with a hope of getting a reply that makes me feel a little less insecure for a few seconds.... then feed on that need
ITS CALLED (emotional) LEEEEECHING!!!!!!!! (my word)
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Yeah I have been an emotional leech, and looking back, I've had insecure girls but none of them are as fucking leeching as I can be. Why do men seem to be worse at this?
Also, I do ask SOME questions about her past, how many she's fucked (you don't wana marry mrs bargain bucket do ya) and I am interested in what she's sexually NOT done, n what she has done and enjoys, and I don't feel threatened providing I don't get intricate details, just the basics like "done anal and loved it".
The only time I felt intimidated is when the girl came out with it in a conversation that one of her exs was a bodybuilder, n that's just cos I wana be ripped as fuck but currently am not where I wana be at... so guess I'm not valueing myself enough right now which makes me insecure. Feelings are shit. It is so much easier to just switch off from emotions
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Originally Posted by AJay
In order for a long term relationship to work, both sides must feel all emotions in the spectrum, happiness, sadness, jealously bla bla bla........... There are many physiological reason for this, which I cant be bothered to go into. The keys is to have the correct balance of these emotions. Most people fail as the balance is fucked up, or one feels it and the other one doesn't, the emotional bond should be mutual between both parties.
AJay
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AJay, why does the balance fuck up? What is the solution?