Greetings from Rural England. Rome's representative of the community is home for Christmas

First of all boys, I will quickly say that all of you, from the newest and most confused AFC to the biggest guru or master PUA have truly enriched my life and I am becoming a better person with your help. So I'll say Merry Christmas to all of you and I hope the New Year brings you peace prosperity and success in all fields, including, but not only, girls and women.

My journey started in the Summer of 2009 (I joined several forums including this one much later however), I discovered it by accident whilst searching for body language on google, as I had to prepare an English lesson for my students in Rome on this subject. I absorbed every bit of (free) theory I could find on the internet, to the point that, when I finally managed to get hold of the game and the mystery method (I know they're not favourites in this forum, but they got me started at the very least), I felt that most of the techniques were already more or less understood. I am fond first and foremost of Style, not because he's the best pick up artist, but because Neil Strauss is a man as well as a sarging machine and in my opinion this is the best way to be successful in life generally. However, I have tried as best as possible to retrace the origins of his study, and have read posts by mystery, tyler durden (I know I know, but his ideas and posts are very useful indeed), Ross Jeffries, JUggler, Swingact, loads of them (in addition to the game and the mystery method).

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I first started sarging the comfort of my own workplace, which many said was a bad move. However, whilst I agree more with their opinion on that now, it did at least help to perk up my confidence. I often work as an English one-on-one teacher and have a lot of attractive female students. again I repeat that I know this is not true sarging as I have had the kill put right in my lap, but I learnt quickly how to attract women. There was a good thing and a bad thing that came out of this:

* I quickly learnt that I could attract women. However, they soon forgot about me once they left the school. I'd just planted a little daytime fantasy in her head, nothing more. She went back to her boyfriend most of the time.

* On a more positive note, I am by nature somewhat sensitive and this has consequences (at least at the moment) on my confidence. For the first time in my life I realised however that I do not need to just rely on the girls that chose me and that , in fact if I dress and present myself well, I am in fact a reasonably handsome guy (older women are usually more than happy to tell you that, even without asking)

However, I fell into that trap that Neil Strauss mentionedwhere one starts to realise that he's getting good, and no longer strives to improve further, which in fact sends you even deeper into AFC territory than before. I promised that HB8 from Summer 2009 would be my LAST one-itis, That turned out not to be true.

With all the above in mind, I have decided to make some New Year's resolutions, effective from New Year's Eve (may go out on NYE)

1. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES WILL I EVER ACCEPT BEING THE SECOND CHOICE OF A FEMALE. If a girl seems interested in another male, be it a colleague or friend, and afterwards she tries to get with me, she will be rejected by me also. I am a desireable man of a high standard, and expect to be treated as such. Similarly, I expect a high standard of FB/ LTR. Above all, I am no-one's backup plan.

2. I WILL NOT TOLERATE FEMALE HEAD GAMES FROM PREVIOUSLY FCLOSED FEMALES. A Russian HB9 that I fclosed a long time ago started telling me she "had never in life felt the same way about a guy as she did for me". I have not seen her in person since. She is not a good liar, and she has sworn to me that she has not had any sexual contact with anyone since last seeing me. I believe her. However, she will come to visit me in Italy next week and she has been acting hard to get, emotionless and full of retarded shit games. I asked her in a friendly way how much she wants to see me on a scale of 1-10 yesterday, to which she responded "on a scale of 10-18 how old dso you feel?" she has given me similar lines before. I decided yesterday that I am completely freezing her out until I see her and when I see her, I will seem a little out of reach. If she wants me back as before, SHE must work for it. If it doesn't happen I can whole-heartedly say I don't give a shit.

3. I WILL NOT RELY ON LOOKS TO GAME GIRLS. If you didn't believe that looks meant jack all, take it from me, they mean very little indeed. I am certainly not claiming to be a Brad Pitt look-a-like, but I always felt in the past that when I lost a girl to another guy (my win loss record stands at about 45 wins, 17 by way of Fclose and 9999999999999999999 losses), it was because he was richer than me, had a bigger dick than me or was better looking than me. In fact it was not. I am about an 8 or a weak 9 myself physically and that's probably the only reason I fclosed 17 to date, even if I am still a partial AFC. The reason I didn't get the other girls was NOT because she is a bitch, NOT because she only likes guys with model looks, NOT because she is a gold digger, NOT because she is a size queen and absolutely NOT because he is better than me. It is because I, yes I, did not game her correctly.which brings me to:

4. I WILL TAKE RESPONSIBILITY NOT ONLY FOR SUCCESS WITH GIRLS, BUT FAILURES ALSO. If I don't get the girl, it's MY FAULT. simple. Occasionally of course circumstances will work against you and I'm sure even gurus and mPUAs have this problem from time to time. But every sarge I do from now on, I will ask myself what I did well, and what I can improve on. Which beings me to:

5. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES WILL ANY EMOTIONAL REACTION BE ATTACHED TO A SARGE. It's only a f***ing sarge at the end of the day and, in fact it's a huge DHV for you if the same chick sees you with another pretty girl putting her tongue down your throat. She just overlooked the fun guy she always talked about one day finding with her friends. Her loss. Punto.

6. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES WILL ANY EMOTIONAL REACTION BE ATTACHED TO A FEMALE NEG, A SHIT TEST OR AN AMOG ATTEMPT. I actually know this in theory but need to improve at putting it into practice. I was doing a one on one lesson with an HB8 18years old. Physically she is exactly my type. She was flirtatious every time I worked with her and a few months prior to this had actually left me a note scribbled on a piece of paper saying "Do you want to go out with me tonight?" which she then after insisted she was joking, also citing (at the time that she a had a boyfriend and she's too young for me etc). A few lessons later she was talking about her school and she said she was sad because she doesn't have any young teachers... 5 seconds of silence later she said she meant in her high school. I know I didn't "react" verbally, but it was obvious that I felt that and this was a massive f*** up with that girl. I'm only 27 and should of known it was a shit test (and that she probably went home and masturbated about me every time she saw me before, given her blatantly flirtatious behaviour).

7. I WILL ALWAYS DISPLAY A WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY. it is indeed very true that a beautiful girl who is beautiful internally and externally is unique, but a girl of physical beauty is not hard to replace and this must be displayed in my behaviour. I will NEVER AGAIN display a strong desire to keep her prior to a monogomous relationship. She has more to lose than I do, this must always be reflected in my behaviour, attitude and reactions. If she knows that she has to prove her value to me, she will be more inclined to do it, also because I have increased my own value in the process.

8. I WILL PAY ATTENTION TO MY BODY LANGUAGE AT ALL TIMES. I will ask myself "how's my body language?" to ensure that I will be displaying alpha behaviour and attitude at all times. 70% of communication is body language after all.

9. I WILL STRIVE TO IMPROVE IN OTHER AREAS OF MY LIFE THAT ARE AT PRESENT, BELOW STANDARD OR COULD AT LEAST BE BETTER. I'm referring chiefly to my tidiness here. As f***ing ridiculous as that may seem, it has more importance than one here may think. Don't get me wron,g my hygiene and personal grooming are fine. However, I have a bad habit being messy and disorganised. I leave the kitchen as a shit hole every time I cook, and my room needs to be kept tidier. Even away from pick-up, it would be psychologically beneficial to resolve this. It will not be easy either. They say that people of a high IQ are usually very disorganised and untidy. I am your classic disorganised,deep thinking yet imaginitive example of this. It would be beneficial for me, and back to pick up, it would be nice to show an HB a well presented and trendy accommodation that I have, instead of an untidy apartment that still smells of last night's cooking.

In addition to this, I'm going to get back into my martial arts and exercise program.

10. THIS TIME NEXT YEAR, I WILL STILL BE HERE, AND STILL BE POSTING. BUT I WILL BE OFFERING HELP AND ADVICE, NOT ASKING FOR IT. I owe a lot to this community and will repay my debt with the same level of constructive criticism and support that I have received. All I ask boys is, let's not let the cat out of the bag too much and keep this underground.

Thanks for hearing me out. Feel free to comment, or even list your New Year's resolutions. I agree that above all the general consnensus is "do not give a f***", but instead of answering every single post for every single AFC with just "man up and stop caring", I wanted to be a little more analytical and detailed in areas that need to improve.

Have a great holiday chaps

Just for you to be aware
Russian girls are cunning and calculated, this is part of their culture
if you are in a relationship with a russian girl she will potentially still be seeing other guys until the point you put a ring on her finger-- at that stage she thinks you are truly serious about the relationship

they drum on about in their culture about wanting a serious man etc etc

Stop seeing everything in terms of 'wins' and 'losses'. Not every fuck is a 'win'. Life is much more complicated than that.

Last wk (post work xmas party) I fucked some crazy catholic girl from work who now won't leave me the fuck alone. That fuck wasn't a 'win' it was a 'lose'. Big time. Thinking about it makes my skin scrawl, not because she was rough (she's not) but because she's fucking mental and I think I've got a stalker on my hands now.

great post.. my new year resolution is to open atleast a set a day.. this is more practical for me because i often work on weekends.. But when i do get the chance to go out on weekdays il push up the numbers..

Also improve on other areas of my life, so that i can be that interesting person which would reduce the fabricated tales i include in my game.