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Originally Posted by Knave
Women today are different to women 20 years ago end of.
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It's not end of. Explain why. Marketing, advertising and brand management would completely disagree with you. 20-30s haven't changed, 30-40s haven't changed, 40s+ haven't changed. How is selling yourself now any different to selling yourself then? Why are women different now?
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My only point and it is by no means a personal assault, it’s probably going to sound like it. You sell real life attraction, how do you’re clients know you didn’t just write this in your bedroom one afternoon?
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I did write it in my bedroom one afternoon. Just like every single other thing written by every single other person in every other company posting on forums or writing blogs. You're highlighting something interesting though, perceived credibility. What makes anyone credible at all?
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Sure you may be cheap, but this does make it ok. I’m not suggesting for one minute you are a charlatan, but what gives you that ability to pass on your knowledge?
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Nothing at all. I'm just another guy, just like every single guy out there. Just like Mystery. Brad. Sinn. Style. Tyler. Wygant. Juggler. Gambler. Just like anyone. What qualifies any of these? The majority were mentioned in a book that blew up because it was well written with a story that actually sucked people in, it was equally well marketed (it looks like a bible for a reason) and controversy kicked off a fever that blew it to number one. Being a name in a number one book by a guy who slates everyone else in it (he even rips into people he considers his best friends) while bigging himself up throughout (further selling himself). Does being in a book qualify any of them as quality teachers? No it does not. I won't even go into how Gambler just appeared one day, what qualified him? Slick marketing? He blew up as a known figure by giving 100% affiliate sales. Absolutely every company out there started pushing him because he was giving away 100% what they made from the sale. This made him a name and gave him "credibility" because he had been "endorsed" by all of these other companies. Bollocks, I don't want endorsement from any of these companies - they're all unethical fuckers using every trick in the book to deceive and market themselves as best as they can. RSD attempts to be better than the rest but fails to engage people and contradicts it's ethical talk of morality with it's sales spiel.. Something K thankfully pointed out in emails with me as I was also doing it at one point, which I was unaware of as it was copywritten for me. I very promptly fixed it.
I'll tell you what qualifies anyone as good. It's not marketing. It's not being the subject of a book. It's not being endorsed by any number of other "known" figures who only have their qualifications from either being subject of a book or being endorsed somewhere down the line by companies or figures mentioned in said book. What qualifies someone as good is the content they produce, the quality of what they write, whether the knowledge they try to impart unto others is bullshit or whether it has genuine truth. What matters is how they pass what they know on. What matters is whether they can pass any knowledge they have on in a way that others can apply to themselves. Someone should be judged, constantly, every single day, by what they put out, what they talk about, the advice they give, what they write, what they try to pass on to others and whether they pass it on in an understandable way.
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Why only online courses? You can’t learn shit sat in front of a PC. I spent months reading and watch stuff before I went out. I learnt nothing until I started doing it.
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It's not only online courses and you incorrectly categorise what I do as offering no practicality to it. People have tasks they have to complete, they have to keep a private journal of their tasks. This goes on for 10 weeks, with things escalating as they learn more and apply it. I don't teach in bootcamp format. 3 days of sitting in a stuffy room and a flipchart having your head jammed with routines and then nervously being forced to "go approach that girl over there" does not change who a person is at the end of it. It takes weeks for any real change to occur in someone. They are taught and they then have to apply things, practically, at a gradual pace. The majority of guys that take courses (with any company) are extremely nervous with little experience at all, low self esteems and just desperate to get a relationship of some sort. The first 3 to 4 weeks are usually just confidence building, escalated through routine work. Many people shoot down scripted routines but I beg to differ, I think it's an integral part of the journey almost everyone goes through to become truly proficient, well rounded and truly attractive men. I found that without the use of contrived routine work in the early stages it took much longer for people to progress. I personally believe this is because when they're giving something that they believe works they gain confidence from it. It speeds the process along before throwing out all the contrived nonsense that's really just wearing a mask and hiding the true self. In short, taking an online course doesn't mean said course does not require a person to gain practical experience.
On the point about offline courses, I do take offline clients, within a certain area. I am limited in that it is impossible for me to offer a 10 week course at just £200 to anyone outside a certain distance. Travel to and from a location, once a week, 10 times? It just doesn't add up. I refuse to take more than one person at a time for face to face and I refuse to charge more. 20/hr is quite enough and the online course is reduced to 100 to reflect the lack of needing to travel to people.
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Look you seriously need to tell people what qualifies you because if you talk the talk but not walk the walk then I don’t know what you’re selling.
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I'm not selling shit here Knave. I use these forums because the talk here is genuinely high quality (most of the time), members question the status quo and nobody here is an indoctrinated zealot loyal to x idol they think is some GOD or whatever. I learn things here. I get new ideas here. I like the people here, even if they don't like me or there are disagreements from time to time. The interest I get from members here is by far not worth the amount of time I put in here. In order to ensure that what I write remains quality it is necessary to remain on top of active discussion with others. The exchange of thoughts and beliefs constantly drills into us our thoughts. You could call it a kind of practice I suppose? Without constant discussion on a subject I find that the information starts to dwindle and doesn't remain at the forefront of the mind. I also participate in other communities, such as the subreddit I moderate(/r/relationships), where people don't even know I own a company, merely giving out advice on relationship questions. I'm also not selling anything there, just helping folks.
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Emailing a course to someone is NOT the same as taking them out and showing them how you talk to girls. Look here is perfect opportunity for you to make me look like a cunt who doesn’t know what he’s talking about.
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People don't need to be shown anything, in all my time doing that I never once found it to be a better method of teaching. It was particularly effective at making people feel awe for you while equally highlighting that they had severe issues, much of the time making them feel like they had even bigger mountains to climb. Compare it to learning guitar - many people feel like their guitar playing is inadequate when they look at someone who can shred.
What people need to do in order to get better is have their own interactions with others, they don't need to see something done, they need to do it for themselves and learn for themselves. No amount of being shown how to do a skateboard trick (is that a shit analogy?) can make you able to do it, you just have to go and do it. You can't watch a video of two people having sex and be fantastic your first time (or even know what the fuck you're doing at all - was anyone's first time NOT a clumsy mess?). You just have to go and do it.
Being shown something makes you mimic what works for someone else, by being guided you do what works for you.
Again. I'm just a man. As is every other person out there. The difference between us? I won't take part in the brand, I won't label myself a guru, I won't label myself a master. I'm a guy who's been on a long journey of change and learned and inordinate amount of stuff along the way who believes he can pass a few things onto people. I do this here. I do this through courses. I do this for free. I do this because I love doing it, because I was once (I know it's a fucking cliche shut up) a complete, total, utter, ridiculously epic, stupid reject who changed. I understand where people are coming from, I REALLY empathise with them too. (To see just how bad it is for some people check out /r/foreveralone over on reddit -
depressing warning).