I am new to the art of picking up women. Up till now I rarely approached women because I was afraid. I read about pick up for months and months and never did any approaches cause I was too afraid. I wanted to learn everything before I even started.

Lets face it I'm afraid to approach women. No matter how much I do it I still end up feeling afraid. Its probably impossible to totally get rid of it

Screw it!! Screw getting rid of fear! I finally realized that being a man isn't about not having any fear. Being a man is about having the courage to face fears. Thats what conquering fear is!

I have figured out that there are three keys to getting beyond fear and actually approaching women. One is the power of your intention or your will to succeed. This helps force you to approach.

The second is fury. I mean the kind of fury that the PUA Tim from RSD talks about. Fury fuels your intention. When you get rejected by a girl your anger builds up and your intention to succeed becomes stronger!!

The third key is dilligence. If you're too lazy to get off your ass and do the work required to get a woman you will never ever, ever get a woman and you will be a lonely loser FOREVER! I realized that women are really never going to do the work for me.

Furthermore you don't wanna be the guy who is too afraid to approach women. You will continually feel disgusted with yourself and shamed by your lack of confidence. Whatever you do don't be the guy who is too chicken to approach!!

Here is a breakdown of the mental processes I actually go through when I approach girls.

First I make a deal with myself before I go out. I tell myself I WILL feel like a piece of shit loser if I don't manage to approach at least one girl when I go out. This gets me angry and boosts my intention to approach women no matter what! I can't stand coming home depressed and disgusted with myself for chickening out again! Even if I approach just one girl and get totally rejected I WILL feel awesome. I will feel like I dealt with my fears.

This anger gets me fired up and ready to approach no matter what. After I approach the first girl and get rejected I feel great. I say "Yes!! I faced my fear!! I don't care if I get rejected. I'm tough!"

Now even though I smashed down my first goal I still don't feel satisfied Its just not enough. I wanna get rejected again to prove to myself that I can deal with it. I also feel super pissed off that I just got rejected and this makes me SO ANGRY that I just have to keep trying until I don't get rejected. This is the power of the fury and intention.

I use the anger to smash through all fears! Then if I get rejected again I actually laugh at how the rejection doesn't even matter. I could get rejected an infinite number of times and it wouldn't kill me. I might be mentaly worn out but I'd still be alive LoL

The angrier I get the more excited and ready to approach women I get and the more I approach the more powerful I feel. I feel like I can deal with anything and that I can face my fears. I do this until I feel like I could approach any woman. All you have to do to get in this state is get through the first approach and the others get easier and easier because you feel more excited and your intentions are stronger.

Then really weird things start happening. Guess what. After I go through this process I start to feel so confident and powerful that I just radiate confidence and all the women around me pick up on it and start getting very attracted to me! Then I end up actually picking women up.

Don't be lazy, use your anger and intention, and if you get rejected feel more powerful. You can deal with it.

Great post man.

Its not always as easy as that though, as its amazing how your past influances your mind. I know the first time i tried an approach i took one step and froze and it almost felt like someone had stuck their hand in my gutt and was squeezing my stomach. Thankfully hypnotheraphy fixed that and changed several other things as well as a side affect.

Now as you say, it's just a case of having that intent and following thorught with it.

Retro

My internal dialoge when approching

"DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT, she's nice Mmmm, DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT"

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