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nareik · **Charisma Arts Exercises -** 24-03-2010, 05:26 PM

There's been some interesting discussion recently about knowing yourself, I've also noticed some increased interest in Juggler Method, and so I thought I'd post these exercises from Dan of Dating Decoded (formally a charisma arts instructor who I think also taught belly kino with the back of the hand which I've found amazing !!). These exercises don't cover everything but they really helped me to get better at the Charisma Arts method.

For those interested in the method I recommend reading some of the threads in the sandbox over at the Charisma Arts forum, as well as looking at the websites from the current and past instructors. I think that the ebooks from Juggler are good but I found that I really needed a better understanding which I'm starting to get by reading around the method a bit more.

Anyway, hope they help

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CONVERSATION AND CONFIDENCE EXERCISES
Personal Interview
What if someone wanted to know who you really are? What would they ask you and what would you tell them? These questions are not easy to answer. You have to have a strong lock on who you are, and have to make some decisions about where you are at and where you want to go. These questions will cause you to have to think a LOT about your life; that is the point of this exercise. When you are able to confidently answer all of these questions you will start to see strong gains in confidence and a better self image.
1. What is your passion?
2. Tell me 5 interesting things about you?
3. What makes you really happy?
4. What is one character trait you have that you appreciate about yourself?
5. What are the important things you need in a partner?
6. Why are those things important to you?
7. If someone wrote a list of things about you that fit their needs in a partner, what would they be?
8. What are your dreams for the future?
9. What are 3 defining experiences in your life that have made you who you are?
10. Name 3-5 beliefs you have about yourself that hold you back, and you would like to change.
11. What are your weaknesses and how could each weakness be viewed as a strength?
12. What really scares you about meeting a partner to enter a long term relationship with?
13. What are your assumptions about most of the opposite sex out there and their attainability, worthiness of a relationship, and their thoughts about you?
Five Topics
Think of five different topics you would enjoy talking about, as well as someone of the opposite sex would enjoy talking about. Come up with an open ended question to start you off into that topic. Ex. “What is your relationship situation?” for getting into a talk about relationships.
Emotionally Relating
Make a list of every positive emotion you can think of. For each emotion write down a short headline to a story, moment, or experience, when you felt that emotion.
Story Telling
Write down a story from your experience. Headline it, add emotions, details, and tell it from the “I” perspective. Now take that story and add more emotions and details. Remove extraneous facts and explain how and why you felt those emotions during that time. Keep adding more details and emotions until the story is so expressive you know there isn’t anything else you felt that is not in the story.
Deal-Breakers
What are the things about the opposite sex that are deal-breakers for you? A deal-breaker is any character trait, action, or belief that makes them immediately disqualified from ever being your romantic partner. Here are a few I want you to add to your list
1. Physically abusive
2. Verbally abusive or insulting
3. Lies more than once about anything important. (Or lies frequently about anything)
Don’t list things you think you should; list what you feel strongly about. Remember a deal-breaker is something that if it is revealed, you don’t just walk, you run away. Any present or future romantic relationship with this person is over if a deal-breaker is found.
Also don’t feel bad about adding a deal-breaker that others might not agree with. If you don’t want kids, and you find out that kids are important to your partner, that is a deal-breaker. Don’t expect them to change, either you decide you are truly ok with having kids, or you find someone else.

Source: http://www.charismatips.com/conversa...nce-exercises/

nareik · 24-03-2010, 05:48 PM

This is another related post that I'd saved from Troy, another CA instructor. Knowing yourself and sharing yourself really seems to be the bread and butter of the method.

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Like i've said time and again, natural game isn't as easy to learn as you think. Its just a simple alternative to the scripted approach thats been spawned by the community at large

2 points

1) How much do you really know yourself?

If you don't have very concrete ideas about yourself -- your values, adventures, vulnerabilities, life turning points, desires, = WHY YOU ARE UNIQUE etc -- then your only option is to talk from a TOPIC-based conversation, which we all know by experience, can easily run out.

You can't ask a personal question that you don't even know the answer about or are not willing to put out there. I for one, make sure that my personality gets conveyed out there as soon as possible by talking about personal experiences that makes me UNIQUE. So she has, a very good idea in her head of who the guy she's getting attracted to is.

if all she knows about you is a black canvas, which will happen if you do question trains, topic-based convo, etc...then she has no idea who you are...and its no surprise why the interaction hasn't escalated.

2) How much are you willing to project that out there?

Not only do you have to know yourself, but you have to be willing to share that out there and verbalize who you are, at anytime, any rate. You will have to gain the confidence to know that you are an awesome imperfect being and an awesome imperfect being is what people are drawn to because they can relate to it. How many times do you talk about yourself when you interact with people? How many times do you express your own personal view on things, your own perspective, and your own unique experiences? Impressing other people is irrelevant. The more you give insight to yourself, the more women will be drawn to you. Start talking to a lot of people and share yourself. If you can't do this, its a inner game issue wherein you'll need to go out and keep doing it. If your verbalization sucks, then you may have to practice storytelling skills + knowing yourself + the habit of verbalizing it to others to get your message across.

Bottomline, Know yourself and be willing to share yourself

And if you really do run out Johnny Savior had a brilliant line dealing with mind blanks.

"I've run out of things to say, now it's your turn to carry the conversation."