This is another related post that I'd saved from Troy, another CA instructor. Knowing yourself and sharing yourself really seems to be the bread and butter of the method.
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Like i've said time and again, natural game isn't as easy to learn as you think. Its just a simple alternative to the scripted approach thats been spawned by the community at large
2 points
1) How much do you really know yourself?
If you don't have very concrete ideas about yourself -- your values, adventures, vulnerabilities, life turning points, desires, = WHY YOU ARE UNIQUE etc -- then your only option is to talk from a TOPIC-based conversation, which we all know by experience, can easily run out.
You can't ask a personal question that you don't even know the answer about or are not willing to put out there. I for one, make sure that my personality gets conveyed out there as soon as possible by talking about personal experiences that makes me UNIQUE. So she has, a very good idea in her head of who the guy she's getting attracted to is.
if all she knows about you is a black canvas, which will happen if you do question trains, topic-based convo, etc...then she has no idea who you are...and its no surprise why the interaction hasn't escalated.
2) How much are you willing to project that out there?
Not only do you have to know yourself, but you have to be willing to share that out there and verbalize who you are, at anytime, any rate. You will have to gain the confidence to know that you are an awesome imperfect being and an awesome imperfect being is what people are drawn to because they can relate to it. How many times do you talk about yourself when you interact with people? How many times do you express your own personal view on things, your own perspective, and your own unique experiences? Impressing other people is irrelevant. The more you give insight to yourself, the more women will be drawn to you. Start talking to a lot of people and share yourself. If you can't do this, its a inner game issue wherein you'll need to go out and keep doing it. If your verbalization sucks, then you may have to practice storytelling skills + knowing yourself + the habit of verbalizing it to others to get your message across.
Bottomline, Know yourself and be willing to share yourself
And if you really do run out Johnny Savior had a brilliant line dealing with mind blanks.
"I've run out of things to say, now it's your turn to carry the conversation."
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