So last week I decided to take my foot off the gas as I had been trying to damn hard to get the girls. I had been attempting to escalate with all of them in order to somehow reinforce things, with no regard for their comfort and in turn scared most of them off after the first date. Luckily a couple of the girls hadn’t been scared off yet as I hadn’t managed to creep them out with my pua escalation routine.

One thing that has suddenly clicked over the past couple of weeks is my texting. I have allowed myself to be fun and flirty, and a lot more independent of outcome. Not only has it led them to be more interested in meeting with me, it has led to a situation where the girls were subtly helping me to set up the date.


Girl 1: I had been out one date with this girl 2 weeks ago. I text her to initiate date 2 and she threw up a fair few obstacles. After suggesting we meet up again:

Her: I have to work 6:30-10:30 Wht do u think?

Me: I think that you will be tired from having too fun being Forever 21 (the name of shop she works at).

Her: No it's 6:30pm-10:30pm. Where do u want to hang out with me?

Just by being comfortable in not chasing her for the date she changed her tone and asked me what we would be doing. She then told me she’d ‘let me know’. She didn’t. So the night before I reinitiate contact totally unrelated to the date, had some banter and then confirmed. Again she threw up some obstacles pretending she had forgotten.

The date itself was awesome. We were taking the piss out of each other and the only kino was us pushing each other or her punching me, or touching my cool hair. I did slap her on the ass at one point, but that was more a reflex reaction, and she just hit me back. We talked about relationships, love, politics and a blog she had written about the male and female attitudes towards girl’s underwear... as well as my opinions. The highlight for me!


Girl 2: This girl I have been working on for 2 months after getting her Facebook details in the high street. I had suggested a meet up 2 or 3 times but she resisted. Things changed the other night when I messaged her:

Me: Hey, I might go and see some bands at a pub in Salford this sat. You're welcome to come.

Her: what kind of band? rock?

Me: Rock n Roll

Her: not my type... in my memory, rock band is pretty noisy ~~ haha

Me: Yes very, plus there's punk bands too haha! (i.e. you really won’t wanna come)

The next morning I wake up to her text: Hey, when will you go to see the bands? In the evening?

We went to the gig to watch one of the bands, and then spend the rest of the night in the pub and another bar. She even wore a black leather rock jacket with metal studs just for the occasion.


The moral of the story for me waking up today from all this is ‘being not doing’. Previously I assumed I had to demonstrate my confidence through physical actions, i.e. kino escalation. Now I am confident through just sitting there and being me as opposed to doing things for the sake of it. This in turn has allowed some suspense to build. I am giving away less now, whereas before I would give the whole damn game away on the first meeting.

All you need now is a killer one liner and ur complete

Who lies more ....

"hi"

Too creepy?

I saw you from the other side of the room and i couldnt help but thing we are meant to be together....

do you have any glue?

Get in the van...

" I hear girth is more widely accepted than length nowadays"

Best used in a bar with strangers

Contrast what Nova said here with that other recent thread started by someone else. Which is more worthy of reading? Hmmm tough one....

Although I do think that depending on where one is starting from, sometimes you have to do before you can be

"now then, now then, now then"

Been field tested and guaranteed to work on boys as well as girls

I find the way gay guys flirt is horrendous

Stare at you like a wierdo
Walk past and " bump" shoulders

list goes on

Went to a gay bar with my mate, it was a ropey gay bar in mind

And the experience was horrible, I actually felt what it would be for a fit girl to go out and get hounded by lads

Im sure not all gay guys are like this.. well I hope so