Here is something i found on another forum and thought it would help (i didnt write this)....

Author: ThePanther
Site: Thelss.com

What follows is a list of attitudes/behaviours that can hold you back from having full control of your life and dissipate your inner energy. And some tips on what to do about it. Most of it is stuff i had to deal with myself, or that I had to help someone deal with.

The idea is, if you find yourself consistently doing one of these stuff, actively work on stopping it. Game is not that much about what to do to get success, but it's usually more about getting rid of everything that you unwittingly do to stop yourself from getting success.

Please add to this with your own ideas and suggestions:

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1) Attachment to your old self-image.

You are used to the idea of who you are, and are unwilling to do anything that is inconsistent to that. Whenever you read about something that seems to work, you dismiss it with the idea of "that's not me, that's not something i'd do".

Having a strong identity and being congruent with it is a great thing, but it is YOU who gets to choose what that identity is. It is not your past experiences and circumstances. You are not the person who you were yesterday: that person exists only in your memory. You can prolong his existence by copying his patterns of belief, thought and behaviour indefinitely, but you DONT HAVE TO.

Instead, let go. Do things that you never would have dreamed of doing before. Break free from your comfort zone, from ur own self-imposed limitations. Do what you feel like doing in the moment (that gut feeling is often right, especially as u get social experience and subconsciously train ur calibration), not what you think you "should" be doing.

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2) Leaning on other ppl for approval/validation

We do this in many ways: Physically, intellectually, emotionally... (read the excellent book "Silent Power" for more about this topic)

Ever happened that you meet another LSS guy and spent most time explaining him your sticking points and how you screwed up ur last few sets? Or bragging about the latest "HB10" you k-closed in 5 mins in front of her friends, and the 5 day-2's you've had last week? Did you notice your voice getting tense, fast and higher pitched while you were doing that? Probably not. Did you notice that they didn't seem to be that impressed, and that you didn't really feel much better.

The reality is: Noone really gives a fuck about someone else's problems, and noone gives a fuck about someone else's accomplishments. Last think we want is someone leaning on us and draining us of our positive energy.

Some of the guys i met on the LSS (you know who you are) have astonished me with their positive attitude and the ease with which they made others feel better just by interacting with them. No wonder they are so successful in their social and love lives.

As an exercise, avoid interacting and meeting new ppl when you are feeling insecure or "down" (cause thats exactly when you will be most inclined to lean on others). Instead, go work out, sleep, do a fun creative hobby, something that will fix ur attitude and mood. THEN go out. And focus on being as positive as possible.

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3) Following other ppl's arbitrary social rules and norms.

When you grow up, you are taught to listen to your parents and teachers, and be a good boy. To hold your fork with ur left hand, to never burp or fart in public, to not tease your sister, etc. etc. etc.

As a result, most young adults are literally "chained" by all these "DO's and Dont's" of politically correct behaviour. Well being politically correct is boring, and subcommunicates lower status faster than you can say "Fuck" - of course you arent supposed to say the F-word but i digress Tongue

Get free. Make up your own rules of what is right to do and what isn't. Make ur own values of what's desirable and acceptable and whats fucked up. Get ur own dressing style and wear ur clothes with pride.

Get used to the idea that other ppl might not like what u say or what u do. It's their right and privilege. And let them know, by ur unselfconscious
and relaxed attitude that u simply can't be bothered to care about their opinion of you.

Another big problem in the community is that, after people break free from society's norms and rules, they get caught up in the norms and rules of the community. Suddenly, you now gotta open lots of sets every time you go out or else you're a loser AFC. You gotta lay the hottest HBs (even if you can't stand their attitude and their breath stinks) so you can take a pic and post it online to prove ur MPUA status. No wonder so many people get their game stagnating BECAUSE of getting into the game.

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Will add more at a later point

ThePanther

I like this part. Good advice.

Go work out has real world implications upon mood too, it's recommended by most doctors as the first thing to try when they treat depression. There's a point that you hit known as the exercise high caused by a sudden endorphine release.

This plus the fact that fit people tend to have well balanced hormone and chemical levels in their body, thus defeating the sudden mood swings.

Then there are the obvious benefits you gain from looking better...