Hi!

I'm a 22 year old DJ and a event promoter from South London and new to PU. I think i'll start of with an anecdote to describe my situation:

A couple of months back, I had been booked to play a girls 19th birthday party with a couple of other DJ mates of mine. The ratio in the club was about 2 guys for for every 5 girls, and the majority of the girls were really fit and all dressed up to have a fun time. I think most the people there were part of an extended social group of friends, so were all pretty comfortable with each others company. Just a couple of weeks before this I had read 'The Game'. This changed going out and socialising for me completely, instead of going out and just keeping to my small group of close friends and enjoying that for what it was, suddenly everyone in the club was someone I wasn't being brave enough to speak too. In a way, The Game had brought a lot of my subconscious frustrations (which I had dealt with through avoidance tactics, alcohol and humour) to the forefront of my mind, turning me into an anxious mess. So, back to the club; before my DJ set, I spoke to a couple of girls in the room, I think I generally came across as a bit weird or nervous, as their facial expressions were a bit like "Who the fuck is this twat", though looking back this thought was most probably conjured up in my mind in the moment, thus causing me to look nervous and weird, which then caused them to actually think "Who the fuck is this twat" in a warped self-perpetuating way.
Once I was on stage, I pretty much forgot about all of this. When I'm on the decks all my inhibitions go, I feel like the master of music, I don't doubt my skills as i'm well practiced and experienced, I unconsciously beam with confidence. About half-way through my set the energy in the room was immense, I had just pulled off a mix that sounded amazing, in excitement I jumped up so hard the headphones flew off my head and halfway across the stage, nearly ripping cable out of the mixer. At this point almost everyone had come in from the smoking area to dance, and the room was rammed. DHV.
Two girls who had earlier taken part in the "WhoTF is this twat" situation, came up to the stage and started dancing behind me, they were about an 8 and a 9 (I'm new to the PU acronyms, does HB mean Hot Bird?). By the end of the set I had both of them clinging onto my left and right arm. So this is starting to sound like a success story at the moment, but it isn't. Shortly after finishing my set, conversation collapsed between those two girls, I went back to being rigid and nervous, I became a disappointment as I couldn't keep the energy going, and they walked away. This was like an explosion of anxiety in my head, within an hour I had gone from being on the top of the world to feeling like a gutter turd.
Since then i've realised the solution is to get out there in the field and practice. Just like how I felt when mixing on the decks, the master PUA's must feel when speaking to women.
It's not just about picking up women to have sex with them though, I want to be able to go out, and build trust and comfort with everyone I meet, and generally have a great time without anxiety or frustration.

I haven't been out 'sarging' or 'cold approaching yet. I've tried to get a couple of mates into it, by they either think it's weird, or stupid and doesn't work, which is a bold statement for them, as they are terrible with women too.
If they're are any guys who are in a similar mindset, or any teachers who would be up for teaching a student that is hungry to learn, then let me know.

Anyway, if you've read this far, cheers for reading, from other posts on the forum it seems like there are a lot of positive guys on here!

Cheers!!

Soag

Welcome to the forums dude!

Nice story - Keep practising

Welcome man.

There's a couple of us round your way, so look forward to going out sometime!

Welcome Soag

i'm sure there will come a time when we meet. You already sound like you have an excellent platform to build on with the DJ-ing.

I'm by no means vastly experienced but just to put into context how you can build up your ability through meeting the right people and using the right "tools" - up until 2 months ago i had only slept with 3 girls in my life (i'm 25 by the way so that's quite poor), but in the last two months i've slept with another 4, three of them have been over the last three successive weekends. Now i'm not saying all of these girls have been stunning... because they haven't... however i'm so much more comfrotable and confident that i once was.

You should take a look at all of the "material" from the game and mystery etc... but also take a look at tyler durdans 4 day seminar. This really helps you look at your innerself which should prevent those anxious feelings you have been getting when speaking to these girls.

it's not all about speaking to girls, i speak to anyone and everyone now... i just look at it as practice. i was never like that before, but now i just start a conversation with anyone i can... the more conversations you get in... the better your social skills become and the sharper and more witty you become too

good luck