Forgive the pun but I thought it apt: "I'm just trying to be a better person."

4 weeks ago I split with my LTR of 7 years. I'm in my late twenties. We'd grown in to adulthood together but we'd grown differently. Big decision for me. We're still (best) friends.

I had a 3 year LTR before that (also split amicably). This means I've had no to little opportunity to actually meet and attract girls in my life. (Both I met through social circles & friends of friends - and I wasn't the Casanova by any means!).

Since University I've built my own successful business and lead/manage people daily now. I know the 'state' I think I need to be in - a lot of the body language / behaviours I'm reading about I've naturally done in my LTRs and my business (sales/marketing and man-management portions in particular).

I'll talk to anyone (chat on trains to London, in shops, etc.) but when I was in an LTR this was easy. No pressure, I needed nothing from them, and they could undoubtedly detect this.

Keeping this state now I am single, and especially with girls I've always considered 'out of my league' will be difficult. "Abundance mentality" and "Honesty + not giving a fuck = poon" are my current mantras to help with that.

But... well... hey... this is day one. Got to start somewhere.

For me there's no better way to learn than by doing. Learning with others, and having mentors / role models, makes such a difference too.

To that end, I live in Shrewsbury, Shropshire and travel to London on business frequently. Occasionally Manchester. In time, it would be great to meet some of you!

All the best,
- Earl

Your proberly better with woman than 90% of people on this forum. I think being being besty mates with your ex may not be a great idea. I done this and it did me no good in the long run, it kind of held me back into old routines. If theres no sexual atraction there then maybe its different, but id find it hard to believe this is the case.

You seem to be sucessful finacially, this is a massive massive bonus when it comes to woman.... not because woman love money (however they do) but it will show in your manorisms... they will be able to detect the survival value you posses and thus feel attraction for you.

Anyway welcome to the world of manipulation

AJay

does the sexual attraction ever go?
I'm firmly in the camp of men cannot be friends with women.

They can be friends with women.

Yea i agree mate

AJay

What if you are best friends with your cousin or sister or auntie?

Then boy, you'd better move to Norfolk...

Anywho welcome along Earl!